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Walking and eating slow with fast paced groups

lux7

Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
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I tend to eat very slowly and while some girls from my area used to tell me I walk quick, around here I have to rush to keep up with most of my colleagues.

WALKING
Twice some days ago a female colleague turned her head to me telling me, in a friendly way, "not to stand back and join them".
I don't want to rush just to keep up with the group and I don't want to seem asocial moving at my slower pace.

But going with some group of people around here feels like I'm the follower, the one adapting to their way of moving/being (rushed/efficient VS relaxed).


EATING
I've rarely met people eating slower than I do.
They say it's healthy, I've never head stomachaches and enjoy my food for longer but... 90% of the times I end up being the only one still eating when my colleagues have already finished.
It's OK with colleagues who are friends and same age, but when the group is bigger and/or there are some "higher ups" I feel pressured to hurry.

I dislike feeling pressure to conform and/or to alter my behaviour and always think I'd have enjoyed more by myself -I guess I'm a bit asocial-




It's a conundrum, I'll never feel like an important person if I keep adapting and at the same time I'll never be socially accepted by those groups If I'll never join them.

Ideas/thoughts?
 

Thedoctor

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Lucifer,

Powerful men move slow. You're already a step ahead if this is something that comes naturally to you. In the example you provided about the female colleague telling you to join them. Ask her where the fire is and tell her to come join you. Rush for no one. If your fundamentals are tight and you have a fairly sexy walk, it won't appear asocial. It will appear powerful, and you'll notice that eventually, a lot of people will begin to move at your pace.

-Doc
 
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