Walking away from women who cross your boundaries

[Bboy100]

Ok, so I've noticed that there are a lot of women for whom I continue to feel attraction, even after they do something which I deem unacceptable behavior. I want to walk away from such women, but I often find it difficult to do so.

Ex.
Recently, there was this girl who I took back to her place, then she invited her friends to come over without telling me. This was when we were on a first date. But because I was still attracted to her and I emotionally felt like I could "make this work", I didn't leave. Realistically, I should have. Both from an efficacy standpoint (this is a waste of my time), and from a self-respect standpoint (as a general rule, I feel like it's not cool to invite your friends on a date. lol).

So, to combat this problem, I've decided that I want to go for small wins. Yesterday, there was this girl on Tinder who was making me jump through waay too many hoops just to prove to her that I'm "Not a creeper". She asked me to add her on FB, and when I asked her out, I gave her the option to either "have drinks at her place" or "go out somewhere". After this, she got super guarded and started asking me a million questions about what my intentions are, why I'm on Tinder etc. Even after I gave her answers which even she said were satisfactory, she still acted super sketchy. So finally, I let her know that I've changed my mind and I don't want to meet her anymore. I told her it sucks that she's had bad experiences with weird dudes on Tinder in the past, but I find it kind of strange that she's making jump through so many hoops just to meet her.

I thought I would feel good about this. Because I feel like I've respected myself and my beliefs. But realistically, I just felt kind of frustrated because I gave up a date for almost no reason. Will this feeling of frustration go away as I learn to walk away from women more often? Or do I need to genuinely lose attraction for them in order for it to sit right with me?

 

[ProblemSolving]

Congratulations Bboy! You just discovered what its like to screen chicks. This is how legit players get laid so much. If a chick isn't playing ball, you quickly move on to one that is. Whenever a guy brags about how much resistance he had to go through to get the lay, I know he doesn't get laid very often.

Think about all the girls that you've laid before. How many was it difficult to set up a date with? In my experience, not very many. Now think about all the times you had to jump through hoops to get a girl out. How much success did you have with that?

Blackdragon has a great quote about screening, "The 'Yeses' are good, the 'Nos' are good, but the 'Maybes' will kill you". Your goal should be to turn the "Maybes" into "Yeses" or "Nos" as soon as possible. The maybes are almost always nos, so don't waste much time on them.

Here's what it looks like online:

Me: Hey Carli, how are you?

Carli: Good

Me: What are you up to?

Carli: At work

Me: Would you like to get drinks or frozen yogurt sometime?

Since, she's not investing, I get her in or out as soon as possible, by inviting her out. Don't waste your time trying to "build comfort" or whatever online. She's already made her decision based off your pics

 

[Bboy100]

Think about all the girls that you've laid before. How many was it difficult to set up a date with? In my experience, not very many. Now think about all the times you had to jump through hoops to get a girl out. How much success did you have with that?

Yeah, exactly! On a logical level, I know this. But once I'm even slightly emotionally invested in a girl (like the one from my first example), saying no becomes very difficult for me. I guess I just got to practice going against my instincts haha.