Hey guys! Long time lurker, first time poster here!
Alright, here we go. This is going to be a long story, but I want to be as specific as possible. Around three months ago, I started hanging out at one of my friend's houses again after being absent for several months. When I walked through the door, a girl (Shelby for this story), announced that she loved my new haircut. I didn't think much of it, and continued about my night. Once I had left, I decided to add her on facebook. Upon adding her, she posted a "truth is" status. I liked this status, and she wrote on my wall, "You're one of the sweetest guys I've met, and you've got that shaved head starting a trend!
" (Small detail, after responding to my "like," she deleted the post and didn't respond to anyone else). At first, I wasn't sure what to make of it, but decided to talk to her more often in person (as we both hang out at this friend's house often).At first, things were normal, we made small talk, and she laughed at everything that I said. Furthermore, she continued to prolong this and would make comments like, "You're so hilarious, Anatrinah!" She also encouraged me to participate in activities that our group of friends were doing, and teased me whenever I didn't. After a few weeks of this banter, I sent her a fb message that read, "Hey Shelby! Before you left last night, I meant to ask if you wanted to hangout at some point next week and grab lunch or something. If you're interested, just let me know!" I had seen that she read the message, but didn't reply. In an attempt to recover my face value, I sent another message that read, "I'm sorry, that was really dumb of me." She later responded, "What?? No it wasn't?!" She then proceeded to call my home phone (which I hadn't given out to her), to ask if I was able to purchase her some "water" that she was unable to due to restrictions. She picked me up, offered to pay for my water as well. Our conversations were good, but there were awkward silences throughout, and it was some-what uncomfortable. Following this incident, I decided to ignore her for awhile to gauge her interest. She continued to pay most of her attention to me while we were all hanging out, as well as laughing at my every comment. Later on, she asked if I could help her out again, which I was obliged to do. However, this time, on our way back, she claimed to have some sort of anxiety attack, and that we needed to go to her house for awhile so that she could calm down. Upon entering her house, she again made the comment that I was hilarious, I responded with, "You don't have to say that I'm hilarious after everything that I say." She continued to protest that she was being legitimate. Whenever we went into her house, she made food, watched television (with around nine or ten feet of distance from me), and did her makeup for around 10 minutes, then we left. Things proceeded as normal for a few more weeks, and I made the naive mistake of telling her that I "really liked her" via text message (yes, I know, I'm a total lame ass). She didn't respond to this message. However, my friend, Chris, and Shelby we're discussing an unfavorable situation that I was in. He asked for her opinion on it, and she said, "[Someone who REALLY isn't me] is a fucking idiot. I really like Anatrinah, he's a nice person who does good things for people, and they just do bad things back to him." I found that conversation interesting, because she knows that Chris and I hang out individually. So, my main question is this, was she using that conversation with Chris, KNOWING that he would tell me about it, to indirectly reciprocate interest in me (as she used the same phrase that I did over text message). I know that I've violated damn near every rule that is followed here at Chase, and I will learn from this in the future, but do I still have a chance? Thanks for reading this long post, and any feedback would be very appreciated!!
Alright, here we go. This is going to be a long story, but I want to be as specific as possible. Around three months ago, I started hanging out at one of my friend's houses again after being absent for several months. When I walked through the door, a girl (Shelby for this story), announced that she loved my new haircut. I didn't think much of it, and continued about my night. Once I had left, I decided to add her on facebook. Upon adding her, she posted a "truth is" status. I liked this status, and she wrote on my wall, "You're one of the sweetest guys I've met, and you've got that shaved head starting a trend!
" (Small detail, after responding to my "like," she deleted the post and didn't respond to anyone else). At first, I wasn't sure what to make of it, but decided to talk to her more often in person (as we both hang out at this friend's house often).At first, things were normal, we made small talk, and she laughed at everything that I said. Furthermore, she continued to prolong this and would make comments like, "You're so hilarious, Anatrinah!" She also encouraged me to participate in activities that our group of friends were doing, and teased me whenever I didn't. After a few weeks of this banter, I sent her a fb message that read, "Hey Shelby! Before you left last night, I meant to ask if you wanted to hangout at some point next week and grab lunch or something. If you're interested, just let me know!" I had seen that she read the message, but didn't reply. In an attempt to recover my face value, I sent another message that read, "I'm sorry, that was really dumb of me." She later responded, "What?? No it wasn't?!" She then proceeded to call my home phone (which I hadn't given out to her), to ask if I was able to purchase her some "water" that she was unable to due to restrictions. She picked me up, offered to pay for my water as well. Our conversations were good, but there were awkward silences throughout, and it was some-what uncomfortable. Following this incident, I decided to ignore her for awhile to gauge her interest. She continued to pay most of her attention to me while we were all hanging out, as well as laughing at my every comment. Later on, she asked if I could help her out again, which I was obliged to do. However, this time, on our way back, she claimed to have some sort of anxiety attack, and that we needed to go to her house for awhile so that she could calm down. Upon entering her house, she again made the comment that I was hilarious, I responded with, "You don't have to say that I'm hilarious after everything that I say." She continued to protest that she was being legitimate. Whenever we went into her house, she made food, watched television (with around nine or ten feet of distance from me), and did her makeup for around 10 minutes, then we left. Things proceeded as normal for a few more weeks, and I made the naive mistake of telling her that I "really liked her" via text message (yes, I know, I'm a total lame ass). She didn't respond to this message. However, my friend, Chris, and Shelby we're discussing an unfavorable situation that I was in. He asked for her opinion on it, and she said, "[Someone who REALLY isn't me] is a fucking idiot. I really like Anatrinah, he's a nice person who does good things for people, and they just do bad things back to him." I found that conversation interesting, because she knows that Chris and I hang out individually. So, my main question is this, was she using that conversation with Chris, KNOWING that he would tell me about it, to indirectly reciprocate interest in me (as she used the same phrase that I did over text message). I know that I've violated damn near every rule that is followed here at Chase, and I will learn from this in the future, but do I still have a chance? Thanks for reading this long post, and any feedback would be very appreciated!!
