Hello Beginning Here,
So for the longest time I always had a trouble with my approaches not to mention I haven't been out for a while. So last night I figured I work on approaching and having conversations with new people at a bar just to get used to it then work on other parts of my game next time.
Least to say it worked out a whole lot better than I thought. I figured I was going to go to the bar, maybe approach five people, and have a short conversation with one of them. However as soon as I walked in there I was having a conversations with the bouncer and a whole lot of other people that night. You
would have never have guessed that I struggled with approaching and talking to strangers. I came off as a natural ( I still believe I need a lot of work but this night it's just incredible start.)
Later that night after taking a few drinks and talking to people I met at the bar. A girl was next to me so I just decided to say hi. Next thing you know we have a small conversation. The friends I met at the bar that day noticed and said that we were hitting it off. Me being stupid and maybe a little ineviated didn't realized it until they told me. That day I was so focused on just trying to approach and improve my conversation skills and I completely forget throughout the night one or two girls were throwing me huge signals. But back to the conversation I was having with the girl now that I realized that I was on hook up mode to be honest it was kind of hard to shift. So I just started deep diving with her and when the conversation died down all I did was give her my number and left.
Usually when I go out to hook up that's my only focus. However that night I wasn't in a hookup mode I was more of a conversation mode and sometimes it's hard to shift to hook up mode. Also another huge problem when I finally do have a connection with a girl the vibe is good I don't know how to close with her (because I don't do it that often)
My Question
1. How do you shift modes or states?
2. What the best way to close? And when to close?
3. Based on what I told you is there anything else I need to improve on?
So for the longest time I always had a trouble with my approaches not to mention I haven't been out for a while. So last night I figured I work on approaching and having conversations with new people at a bar just to get used to it then work on other parts of my game next time.
Least to say it worked out a whole lot better than I thought. I figured I was going to go to the bar, maybe approach five people, and have a short conversation with one of them. However as soon as I walked in there I was having a conversations with the bouncer and a whole lot of other people that night. You
would have never have guessed that I struggled with approaching and talking to strangers. I came off as a natural ( I still believe I need a lot of work but this night it's just incredible start.)
Later that night after taking a few drinks and talking to people I met at the bar. A girl was next to me so I just decided to say hi. Next thing you know we have a small conversation. The friends I met at the bar that day noticed and said that we were hitting it off. Me being stupid and maybe a little ineviated didn't realized it until they told me. That day I was so focused on just trying to approach and improve my conversation skills and I completely forget throughout the night one or two girls were throwing me huge signals. But back to the conversation I was having with the girl now that I realized that I was on hook up mode to be honest it was kind of hard to shift. So I just started deep diving with her and when the conversation died down all I did was give her my number and left.
Usually when I go out to hook up that's my only focus. However that night I wasn't in a hookup mode I was more of a conversation mode and sometimes it's hard to shift to hook up mode. Also another huge problem when I finally do have a connection with a girl the vibe is good I don't know how to close with her (because I don't do it that often)
My Question
1. How do you shift modes or states?
2. What the best way to close? And when to close?
3. Based on what I told you is there anything else I need to improve on?
