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[Mister_E]

So i met this girl at the train station we're talking and she would laugh at everything i would say. Eventually we end up sitting across from each other on the train She said that i should ride to her stop and then ride back home later. I said sure. Then she claims she was joking but i said it didn't matter. So i asked if she was single and she said kinda and laughed but didn't elaborate why but i told her that i was single and didn't want a commitment that i liked being free. She asked if i just like fucking around with everybody. i dodged this question and tried to give her my number but she entered in 6 digits and then started to talk to some other guy kinda ignoring me as i tried to give her the rest. And then she tried to get the other guys number right in front of me! I thought i was wasting my time with this chick. So i planned to get off on the next stop and just put my headphones in. As i was getting off the train i heard her say "your leaving??" (Now she wants to talk to me..) but i just kept going and went home.

I can't stand to think that this night could of ended at her place, she was average at best but i can't stand when people treat me like that i feel undermined. I guess i have a lot of pride but was it too much, could i have handled it any other way?

 

[Mr.Rob]

Eventually we end up sitting across from each other on the train She said that i should ride to her stop and then ride back home later. I said sure.

I don't really get what she means here as you don't really explain. Though I'm guessing she just wanted you to "hang" with her until you got to her stop and not a means of her trying to make an excuse for you to go home with her. If it's true that she just wanted you to keep her company then I wouldn't have agreed to do that because it's unproductive (your going out of your way to spend time talking to her... you dont know her yet she's not that special)

i told her that i was single and didn't want a commitment that i liked being free.

Also I don't see any reason to divulge this information to her unless she asked as it makes you look kind of silly and almost bragadocious.

i dodged this question and tried to give her my number but she entered in 6 digits and then started to talk to some other guy kinda ignoring me as i tried to give her the rest.

Try not to dodge questions like these because they can at times be important questions. Just answer them truthfully "I enjoy the autonomy and freedom of being single at the moment" or something along those lines.

Also don't give you number to women (they'll almost never call you unless their really really into you) take their number. Idk why she started talking to the other guy at this point (something you did, probably the vibe of the interaction got weird at this point) but she was either just having fun (lots of guys to talk to!) or trying to show you she wasn't interested (in a socially savvy way).

I can't stand to think that this night could of ended at her place, she was average at best but i can't stand when people treat me like that i feel undermined. I guess i have a lot of pride but was it too much, could i have handled it any other way?

The world is you mirror homie. People will treat you according to how you present yourself and act. Being new to this and not understanding women fully this will happen until you get calibrated socially and learn better how the social world works.

A big part of learning game (seduction whatever you want to call it) is learning to lose your ego. This is huge. You're going to get humiliated, rejected, and tooled (by men and women) during your learning phase and you have to learn to not take anything personal or overly serious (including yourself). Learn to view your interactions from a more detached 3rd person view and see the humor in this stuff. Learn to laugh at yourself for being a dunce. Yeah it hurts the ego but you get stronger every time something ridiculous like that happens. Love it or leave it homie.

Keep grindin.

-Rob