Was this text creepy?

[andersen09]

Backstory. Basically I'm super busy this summer taking summer classes and I've thrown my social life out the summer to focus on school and go to a public library in my city almost everyday. I met her in fall and things hit off pretty well between us two. Last time we ran into each other, she was happy and girly. I told her, when the weather gets cooler, I'll invite you out to a place I know and she responded saying "Okay, tell me what you want me to wear for the occasion." And we parted ways.

She's working to get her last classes out to move onto her PhD, and I'm working to transfer. Now, we ran into each other for the third time at the library. Today was a little bit off. It seemed like because we keep running into each other, it's not as fun anymore and starting to become a "regular" in her eyes, especially because it's the library out of all places. I saw her walking and was wondering to myself "is that her?" and I was trying to figure it out. And as she was going out the door, she saw me and just sort of nonchalantly waved at me and walked out. Totally different from when she first ran into me and was really excited to see me. "Hey, I still don't have your number" and etc.

I texted her after this

"I wonder if there's a reason why we keep running into each other so randomly"

I just texted that and it feels like it'd come off as "creepy" for some reason.

Does that sound creepy to anyone else depending on the interpretation?

 

[Hue]

"I wonder if there's a reason why we keep running into each other so randomly"

Not necessarily creepy on your part, but it might come off as a serious consideration, or even skepticism. In person it would be easy to communicate otherwise, which is why texting can be tricky.

"we just can't seem to stop running into eachother"

"somehow we keep ending up together, are you stalking me? ;P "

..could have probably worked much better here.

I hope she responded warmly.


Hueman

 

[uForia]

"I wonder if there's a reason why we keep running into each other so randomly"

Not necessarily creepy on your part, but it might come off as a serious consideration, or even skepticism. In person it would be easy to communicate otherwise, which is why texting can be tricky.

"we just can't seem to stop running into eachother"

"somehow we keep ending up together, are you stalking me? ;P "

..could have probably worked much better here.

I hope she responded warmly.


Hueman

I learned that this may be why my approaches never turn into dates. When I'm speaking in person, I don't usually do much thinking before saying since it's just embedded in me that verbal is 7% of communication, nonverbal 93%. But in text, verbal is 100% and it's an entirely different beast because the nonverbal aspects will be derived from the verbal entirely. There are so many ways the exact same letters written on text can be interpreted emotionally that it's extremely difficult to predict what the girl is doing on the other side and how she will interpret that text. Chase says it all depends on her emotional state right there and then and unless you're stalking her, you won't know her emotional state by the time she reads the text. I guess all you can do is map out the highest probability state of mind she will be in, in a certain time of day or what day and assume that state for yourself and then create a text that you would be receptive to.

 

[andersen09]

"I wonder if there's a reason why we keep running into each other so randomly"

Not necessarily creepy on your part, but it might come off as a serious consideration, or even skepticism. In person it would be easy to communicate otherwise, which is why texting can be tricky.

"we just can't seem to stop running into eachother"

"somehow we keep ending up together, are you stalking me? ;P "

..could have probably worked much better here.

I hope she responded warmly.


Hueman

Those are great alternatives. A little switch up of words and pretty direct to one interpretation. And yes, she responded warmly and it led to a good ending But my texting game can definitely be improved. As if this was a girl I just met, this could've went very differently.

 

[andersen09]

"I wonder if there's a reason why we keep running into each other so randomly"

Not necessarily creepy on your part, but it might come off as a serious consideration, or even skepticism. In person it would be easy to communicate otherwise, which is why texting can be tricky.

"we just can't seem to stop running into eachother"

"somehow we keep ending up together, are you stalking me? ;P "

..could have probably worked much better here.

I hope she responded warmly.


Hueman

I learned that this may be why my approaches never turn into dates. When I'm speaking in person, I don't usually do much thinking before saying since it's just embedded in me that verbal is 7% of communication, nonverbal 93%. But in text, verbal is 100% and it's an entirely different beast because the nonverbal aspects will be derived from the verbal entirely. There are so many ways the exact same letters written on text can be interpreted emotionally that it's extremely difficult to predict what the girl is doing on the other side and how she will interpret that text. Chase says it all depends on her emotional state right there and then and unless you're stalking her, you won't know her emotional state by the time she reads the text. I guess all you can do is map out the highest probability state of mind she will be in, in a certain time of day or what day and assume that state for yourself and then create a text that you would be receptive to.

Yeah you have a solid point. The most thing you can do is to send a risk adverse text on a piece of paper or something and ask yourself can this be interpreted in any other way than what I'm meaning to? And increase the probability. Unless if you had a horrible interaction or something, it should be fine.

 

[Frost]

Sometimes if you feel the text has too much of a serious vibe, you can add an emoji or something, and it will change the vibe entirely.