Ways to help make social experimentation a bit easier (without substance abuse)?

[normajean106]

Hey, I plan on polarizing like crazy this weekend, and I was wondering if anyone's got any advice to overcome a little of the anxiety that comes with it.

(Also, that's what polarizing means, right? I've been using the word "polarize" interchangeably with "socially experiment." I'm going to feel like a derp if that's not right.)

Now I know the biggest obstacle is not worrying about reactions and focusing only on results, but some times it gets a little nerve racking when you know you're going to be saying or doing something that could potentially freak a girl out (or get her hot and bothered. Who the Hell knows anyway, that's what makes this so intimidating).

For example, one of the things I'm going to do is use kino right off the bat with a girl I approach. Not like elbow patting, or shoulder guiding. I mean like hand holding and waist guiding. And I'm going to be doing this at the mall.

Not that I really need to explain myself, but if it helps, I'm doing this to get a more sexual/devil-may-care vibe. I figured if I go out and socially experiment, I'll care less about reactions and it'll help me make this vibe feel more natural.

One of the things I like doing with stuff like this is to smoke a strong cigar. That way the buzz I get from it can chill me out (and it helps me to gain social momentum a lot faster as a bonus, because I feel less "needy" and more "who gives a sh*t. It's all good.")

Are there any tips for this? Like cold showers, or exercise, talking to store clerks beforehand, etc.

 

[Smurf]

Re: Ways to help make social experimentation a bit easier (without substance abu

Focus on your plan and not the interactions in general. It helps me to come from a third person perspective to take my ego out of the equation.

Make everything humorous. Girl blows you out? Laugh. Girl blows you? Laugh.

I'm down to try this with you. What's your plan?

Jake.

 

[normajean106]

Re: Ways to help make social experimentation a bit easier (without substance abu

Focus on your plan and not the interactions in general. It helps me to come from a third person perspective to take my ego out of the equation.

Make everything humorous. Girl blows you out? Laugh. Girl blows you? Laugh.

This is the best logic I have seen in GC, I love it. This made my day.

I'm down to try this with you. What's your plan?

Jake.

Well, what I'm going to do is minimize the talk in my approaches, and I'm going to focus almost exclusively on non-verbals and my vibe.

So I'm going to mass approach at the mall, and just come on to a girl ultra direct.

This probably aligns closer to night game, but I'm going to experiment a little and apply some of the tactics used in night game to day game, except its going to be even more direct.

Example:

- see a girl at the mall

- approach ASAP

- Don't use any openers. Just tell her something you like about her that you see. (Hair style, outfit, etc.)

- Grab her hand right away and hold it until she pulls it away.

- When you move her, guide her at the waist right away. Don't wait till she's comfortable, just guide her like that right away.

- Don't deep dive too much.

- Be ultra direct with your intentions.

- Compliment her in and out of the conversation. If you notice something you like, tell her right away.

- Don't worry about what you say and don't bother with the flow of the conversation that much. Just focus on non verbals like eye contact, kino, vibe, etc.

Of course, if you have something witty or charming to say, then say it, but otherwise, just small talk a little and be direct.

- Go in for the kiss whenever you please. Don't be a total idiot about it, but when you start escalating, just kiss her whenever you want. Don't wait for the right moment or angle, but if you feel the impulse, just do it.

And then of course grab her number, etc.

So as I experiment, I'll probably be tweaking my game a bit.

If you have any suggestions on what else I can experiment with, let me know.

 

[normajean106]

Re: Ways to help make social experimentation a bit easier (without substance abu

Oh and by the way, that's not including the other stuff I'm going to do, such as making funny faces to the people I pass by, saying something outlandish in public, etc.

I figure that if I can do this stuff without shame, then I won't come off as "needy" as much.