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Hey guys I have a really awkward situation with a girl. Basically, an old flame came back, started messaging me again, we started talking and flirting again and it seemed like things would work out this time. I actually made a few posts about her, I can link them here if anybody wants to read them. Long story short, I sent this girl into auto-rejection, this was amplified by some ongoing gossip about us inside our social circle, she's insecure and became really scared so she closed-off towards me completely.
However, what goes around comes around and last week she started hitting me up again, as I said. So then came a party and after a while I saw her starting to make out with a guy I knew pretty well. She did something like this in the past when she was trying to make me jealous. She also doesn't want to be seen around me because of the gossip. So I managed to separate her and told her that I was quite surprised since our renewed contact brought back good memories. I was playful and fun while telling her this. She said that she really missed me and she wanted things to be like before but she wanted to be friends. I knew that she wasn't friendzoning me because I had suddenly become a gay male girlfriend but because she really wanted me around but was too scared to take the risk to engage into something romantic with me again. I initially told her 'you know we can't be friends' and I reminded her that the things that she missed about me are the ones that got her attracted. She didn't know what to say. So we agreed to talk on the phone the other day and I spent the rest of the evening with some other girl. Fun fact, after a while she came up to me and asked me for a cigar when she saw me with this other girl, after avoiding me the entire evening. She was also giving some death stares when I was taking shots with this other girl. Jealousy truly is a powerful tool.
So I called her the other day and she said that she was really surprised that I called. My guess is because she thought I wouldn't after seeing me with another girl. Anyway, I decided to switch things up and told her that I thought better about it and that we should be friends because I thought that her behavior as of late was unattractive. I told her that I found her initial courage back when we initially had a thing a couple of months ago really attractive, but that I haven't seen any signs of that in a long time. Now I'm a great flirt and I'm really smooth with women in particular and I managed to make her acknowledge that she wanted me as a boyfriend. She also said that she's been playing guys left and right lately and that she's talking to a lot but they're all boring and usually doesn't talk to them for more than a couple of days. That's when I said 'you've been talking to me for a while, though.' to which she replied 'yeah, because you're not boring'. So in the end I told her that I would call her later this week to set up a meeting as friends.
So yesterday I called her and told her:
me: 'hey, best friend, let's meet up tomorrow at 4, in X place'
her: 'at 4? sounds tempting. I'll let you know in the evening'
me: 'tell me tonight at the meeting or over the phone if you don't want people to sniff anything out'
her laughing: 'yeah, I'll do it over the phone'
So a bit later something really strange happened. I heard from a friend that the guy she was making out with wanted to talk to me. So I met him and he told me that he realized he got involved between us and that he was sorry. He also said that on a number of occasions, while he was spending time with her at the party she kept complaining about me and how I treated her badly. Kinda funny how she hits on another guy in front of me but keeps talking about me xD. He also told me that she didn't text him or anything after the party and that he's on a rebound and not interested in her.
So as I mentioned, in the evening we had a meeting. As soon as I arrived she kept giving me some death stares like she really hated me. I realized that something was wrong and we would probably not see each other. We didn't talk and she didn't hit me up over the phone. Basically she flaked.
To me this flake is far more telling than her actually going out with me because friends don't flake like this. She once indirectly admitted that she doesn't want to meet me because she knows she'd give in to me and I'm pretty sure that it's kinda the same thing right now.
So what do you guys make of it and how would you handle it?
However, what goes around comes around and last week she started hitting me up again, as I said. So then came a party and after a while I saw her starting to make out with a guy I knew pretty well. She did something like this in the past when she was trying to make me jealous. She also doesn't want to be seen around me because of the gossip. So I managed to separate her and told her that I was quite surprised since our renewed contact brought back good memories. I was playful and fun while telling her this. She said that she really missed me and she wanted things to be like before but she wanted to be friends. I knew that she wasn't friendzoning me because I had suddenly become a gay male girlfriend but because she really wanted me around but was too scared to take the risk to engage into something romantic with me again. I initially told her 'you know we can't be friends' and I reminded her that the things that she missed about me are the ones that got her attracted. She didn't know what to say. So we agreed to talk on the phone the other day and I spent the rest of the evening with some other girl. Fun fact, after a while she came up to me and asked me for a cigar when she saw me with this other girl, after avoiding me the entire evening. She was also giving some death stares when I was taking shots with this other girl. Jealousy truly is a powerful tool.
So I called her the other day and she said that she was really surprised that I called. My guess is because she thought I wouldn't after seeing me with another girl. Anyway, I decided to switch things up and told her that I thought better about it and that we should be friends because I thought that her behavior as of late was unattractive. I told her that I found her initial courage back when we initially had a thing a couple of months ago really attractive, but that I haven't seen any signs of that in a long time. Now I'm a great flirt and I'm really smooth with women in particular and I managed to make her acknowledge that she wanted me as a boyfriend. She also said that she's been playing guys left and right lately and that she's talking to a lot but they're all boring and usually doesn't talk to them for more than a couple of days. That's when I said 'you've been talking to me for a while, though.' to which she replied 'yeah, because you're not boring'. So in the end I told her that I would call her later this week to set up a meeting as friends.
So yesterday I called her and told her:
me: 'hey, best friend, let's meet up tomorrow at 4, in X place'
her: 'at 4? sounds tempting. I'll let you know in the evening'
me: 'tell me tonight at the meeting or over the phone if you don't want people to sniff anything out'
her laughing: 'yeah, I'll do it over the phone'
So a bit later something really strange happened. I heard from a friend that the guy she was making out with wanted to talk to me. So I met him and he told me that he realized he got involved between us and that he was sorry. He also said that on a number of occasions, while he was spending time with her at the party she kept complaining about me and how I treated her badly. Kinda funny how she hits on another guy in front of me but keeps talking about me xD. He also told me that she didn't text him or anything after the party and that he's on a rebound and not interested in her.
So as I mentioned, in the evening we had a meeting. As soon as I arrived she kept giving me some death stares like she really hated me. I realized that something was wrong and we would probably not see each other. We didn't talk and she didn't hit me up over the phone. Basically she flaked.
To me this flake is far more telling than her actually going out with me because friends don't flake like this. She once indirectly admitted that she doesn't want to meet me because she knows she'd give in to me and I'm pretty sure that it's kinda the same thing right now.
So what do you guys make of it and how would you handle it?
