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The same night as my last LR, I got the number of a girl who really wanted me to take her on a date. It was weird because she wouldn’t let me kiss her but she was obviously interested and wanted me to take her out.
She also seemed like my relationship type so i wasn’t opposed to taking her out.
We met outside the club when I stepped out to extract one of the girls i was talking to that night. She was obviously staring at me so i complimented her hair and she complimented my necklace. As she walked in, she said “i’ll see you inside”. Later that night after fumbling my first girl and before extracting my girl of the night, we talked and danced for quite a while. This was when she essentially asked me on a date to which I agreed.
Most of the girls i’ve taken on first dates this year, i’ve been able to lay on the first date (except for last month where i fumbled 2 or 3 first dates for some weird reason)
However of all the 8 girls i’ve been with this year, i’ve only been able to retain 2 of them. It’s weird because these are super affectionate and into me during the date and post-sex but just ghost out of nowhere lol
So i decided to try something different with this one and not fuck on the first date. My plan was to run a good first date, leave her wanting more and seal the deal on the second date. She also seemed to be the type to want to take things slow so i was trying to calibrate to that (not go super slow but slower than i usually do)
We set up the logistics and meet at my regular date spot. We end up spending about 2 hours here - she seemed really conservative with touch so i really baby-stepped it to calibrate. Conversation was great and we had a lot of similar interests. I hadn’t gotten a lot of touch here but we had a good banter going on so I decided to change sceneries and bounce to the second location (i usually bounce to second location after 1 hour but i lost track of time unfortunately)
She had said she was a big fan of pool and wanted to get really good. I happen to be pretty decent so i offered to show her a cool pool spot and teach her some tricks. On our way to the pool bar, I put my arm around while walking and she removed it saying she liked her personal space. I played it off in a calm, joking manner saying “I respect that” and continued walking/talking.
The pool bar happened to be a big hit and she became a lot more touch-receptive over the course of the games we played. I’ve noticed the pool thing is a pretty big hit with girls - there’s a lot of spiking emotions that comes with a game like that and they usually become a lot more compliant as a result of me employing a teacher frame and us just going through that experience together. I definitely need to include in my date routine (which right now is just a two-bounce systems of get drinks -> go to park by river with great view -> pull home). I was also able to finally break that touch barrier (about 30 minutes after she initially rejected my touch)
After playing pool for about an hour, we walked to this beautiful park by the river with a great view of the city. By this time, the vibe was now much more seductive and we made out by the river. I could sense the date was coming to a close and that she would be trying to go home soon.
However I didn’t want to leave her too dry in case she did feel like having sex so i asked her if she wanted to get a night cap at mine. She said she was fine and we proceeded to walk to the bus station which was on my block anyway lol.
I probably could have attempted a pull here but i was feeling tired and wanted to see how the second date plan would go.
Once the bus came, we kissed goodbye and she texted me a couple minutes after saying she got home.
We’re texting a little bit at the moment, calling back to the conversation we had on the date. I haven’t brought up the idea of a second date yet because i want to see a bit more chasing from her but i’ll try seeding that idea soon to see if she bites.
For some reason, i’m getting a feeling i’ll get friendzoned in which case i’ll just revert to my full on lover-role date for girls i deal with in the nearest future.
Did i make a mistake here by not being more persistent/intentional about sealing the deal on the first date? If so, how can I improve my retention issues?
She also seemed like my relationship type so i wasn’t opposed to taking her out.
We met outside the club when I stepped out to extract one of the girls i was talking to that night. She was obviously staring at me so i complimented her hair and she complimented my necklace. As she walked in, she said “i’ll see you inside”. Later that night after fumbling my first girl and before extracting my girl of the night, we talked and danced for quite a while. This was when she essentially asked me on a date to which I agreed.
Most of the girls i’ve taken on first dates this year, i’ve been able to lay on the first date (except for last month where i fumbled 2 or 3 first dates for some weird reason)
However of all the 8 girls i’ve been with this year, i’ve only been able to retain 2 of them. It’s weird because these are super affectionate and into me during the date and post-sex but just ghost out of nowhere lol
So i decided to try something different with this one and not fuck on the first date. My plan was to run a good first date, leave her wanting more and seal the deal on the second date. She also seemed to be the type to want to take things slow so i was trying to calibrate to that (not go super slow but slower than i usually do)
We set up the logistics and meet at my regular date spot. We end up spending about 2 hours here - she seemed really conservative with touch so i really baby-stepped it to calibrate. Conversation was great and we had a lot of similar interests. I hadn’t gotten a lot of touch here but we had a good banter going on so I decided to change sceneries and bounce to the second location (i usually bounce to second location after 1 hour but i lost track of time unfortunately)
She had said she was a big fan of pool and wanted to get really good. I happen to be pretty decent so i offered to show her a cool pool spot and teach her some tricks. On our way to the pool bar, I put my arm around while walking and she removed it saying she liked her personal space. I played it off in a calm, joking manner saying “I respect that” and continued walking/talking.
The pool bar happened to be a big hit and she became a lot more touch-receptive over the course of the games we played. I’ve noticed the pool thing is a pretty big hit with girls - there’s a lot of spiking emotions that comes with a game like that and they usually become a lot more compliant as a result of me employing a teacher frame and us just going through that experience together. I definitely need to include in my date routine (which right now is just a two-bounce systems of get drinks -> go to park by river with great view -> pull home). I was also able to finally break that touch barrier (about 30 minutes after she initially rejected my touch)
After playing pool for about an hour, we walked to this beautiful park by the river with a great view of the city. By this time, the vibe was now much more seductive and we made out by the river. I could sense the date was coming to a close and that she would be trying to go home soon.
However I didn’t want to leave her too dry in case she did feel like having sex so i asked her if she wanted to get a night cap at mine. She said she was fine and we proceeded to walk to the bus station which was on my block anyway lol.
I probably could have attempted a pull here but i was feeling tired and wanted to see how the second date plan would go.
Once the bus came, we kissed goodbye and she texted me a couple minutes after saying she got home.
We’re texting a little bit at the moment, calling back to the conversation we had on the date. I haven’t brought up the idea of a second date yet because i want to see a bit more chasing from her but i’ll try seeding that idea soon to see if she bites.
For some reason, i’m getting a feeling i’ll get friendzoned in which case i’ll just revert to my full on lover-role date for girls i deal with in the nearest future.
Did i make a mistake here by not being more persistent/intentional about sealing the deal on the first date? If so, how can I improve my retention issues?
