We match Libidos but she's worried we have too much sex, seriously

[edgeguy1983]

My current girlfriend who I got using the techniques on this site, thanks much gentlemen, actually matches my libido. She masterbates, watches porn and we have sex multiple times when we are together. We even physically escalate in public to get our juices going. When we decided to become exclusive she started worrying that I was only in it for the sex, or that all we did was have sex. We're both divorced and her ex did not match her libido like I do. She also doesn't have very high self esteem so I guess that might explain why she might think I'm using her. And just for the sake of clarity, I'm not sleeping with anyone else (although the idea is starting to become more and more tempting).

She brings it up usually when we're in bed when she definitely wants to have sex, instinct, but her intellect kicks in and overrides her instinct or physical desire. So I usually say some soothing words and bring up the fact that we match libidos and how rare that can be. I re-escalate physically and I can get her there but it's fucking exhausting sometimes. I also have no interest in putting her on a pedestal.

Just looking for advice for a way to put this fear of hers to rest once and for all so we can let the relationship grow. She doesn't know it but this could hamstring us. My ex didn't match my libido and I was miserable towards the end. I'm not repeating that mistake.

 

[ray_zorse]

Sounds like typical girl bullshit, IMO she is making you chase. Why not be more of an asshole about it -- next time it happens try a takeaway.

You: (escalating)
Her: i'm worried, all we do is have sex
You: sure if you're not in the mood i have lots to do anyway
(starts doing some housework... or gets out computer and begins doing some work or answering email)
Her: what's wrong?
You: (continuing your work, not giving eye contact) I'm busy now
Her: are you upset with me?
You: (keeps working, finishes loading dishwasher or sends an email) if you can't find anything to occupy yourself, you may as well leave now

Guaranteed she will be all over you, touching your body, licking your ear, trying to put her hand down your pants etc... just laugh and push her away, continue your work and tell her you admire her enthusiasm but she'll have to be patient. She won't pull that shit again. By re-escalating and persuading you're rewarding bad behaviour and caving to her frame that you want sex more than she does. Just be a boss and create a little tension and then give her mindblowing sex a bit later on.
Ray