Went to bed TWICE and no sex. wtf?

[razir110]

Hey guys, I need your opinion on this,
So I met this girl in a club some like a week ago, we went to a house party after the club and hooked up. She didn't want to go to my place but eventually we ended up going to her place. cool. Except it seemed to me that she wasn't into having sex with me that night, I mean we were all naked kissing etc for like 2 hours but she didn't let me do anything to her and didn't do anything to me either. No sexual foreplay let's say. I felt sort of turned off by it, so we fell asleep (lol..) next day I went home. Now after a week, I texted her and we met for drink. We ended up in my place and guess what. the SAME thing. I mean I love eating pussys, so I tried tried, she, nothing, crossing her legs bla bla basically a fortress. Same thing, fell asleep, nothing. Next morning here I go again, I even asked her like "do you want me to put it into you?" She said yes and, lol, she sort of didn't let it happen.
Of course in the middle of all this I was feeling more and more turned off and eventually I asked her like don't u feel comfortable with me or something? She replied like nono I really want to have sex with you, it seems that you are the one that is not interested. I mean come on.. what a BS! I know that some girls take thing slowly.. ok.. We slept once with no sex, she didnt know me, fine. But the second time after a date the same thing? Did this even happen to you guys? By my experience when a girl wants it, she WANTS it, I don't have to pass through this almost ridiculous scenes of "trying" to have sex with a naked girl next to me..
Plus now there is this sort of strange vibe between us, I doubt I will see her again and I'm not really sure If I want it anyways. As an advice for the future, what could have happened there?
Opinions needed! Thankz

 

[Franco]

ivk,

It sounds like you had extremely weak persistence in trying to have sex with her. This is probably why she was worried that you were uninterested -- you got naked, tried a few things, and then gave up. Girls get very nervous when they aren't absolutely sure that a guy is craving them because they are worried about what you'll do afterward (treat her poorly, never call or text her back, damage her social reputation, etc). You need to learn to suavely push past resistance, turn her on, and make her want you so bad that the resistance just fails altogether. This can sometimes take hours of persistence before a girl will let you go all the way.

Check out charming's Lay Report here to get an example of how much persistence can be needed to get to sex: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=1141#p6726

There's also plenty of articles on this website about physical escalation, but I would at least check out Chase's article: "Take Women to Bed: Successful Physical Escalation"

Hope this helps!

- Franco

 

[razir110]

Thanks for that I will read it
The thing is that i am used of having sex as continuous escalation thing, so when it's "all there" I mean we are in bed naked neck kissing etc and she doesn't let me go down on her and doesn't seem to be ok for penetration, it's a strange and unexpected obstacle for me. At the same time I also became a bit surprised by that, so I didn't really know what to do there, like does she want me to just grab her and do it or what? What if she will feel forced by it? It would be a HUGE mess. For the first time it's understandable, we just me in a club so she might be insecure about it, fine. But when it happens again after a date when we are supposed to be more comfortable with each other, it's really strange for me!
Thanks for the links I will give it a read!

cheerz!