FR+ We're Not Having Sex This Time

[Ambiance]

Hey gents- Hope you are all having a grand time giving girls adventures worthy of a novel. I am in college now at the University of San Diego (sidenote: if you're in the area hit me up, would love someone to talk GC with). Everything here is gorgeous: the beach, the buildings, the food, the cars... Feels like I am forgeting something

If your time is pressed skip to Meet-up in bold to get straight to it

Met this girl in my Shakespeare class. Blonde, tall, pretty face, nice body. I definitely have a type. She was talking to some guy, or more like he was talking to her. The girl is very bubbly and vivacious, so the fact that the guy was dominating the conversation shows the hilarity. He was clearly interested in her, body language pointed right at her, telling her stories and displaying value and laughing at everything she said. I almost couldn't stop from laughing. Anyway, I caught the girl looking at me and I gave her this fake nod at whatever the guy was saying while mouthing "Totally", and she was mine. We started talking as I entered the convo, and pretty quickly if was just us talking. I teased here and there, let her carry the conversation, and would stare deeply into her eyes as she reciprocated the stare. Once class began, I would make an occasional witty comment, but mainly focused on the class. After the class, I grabbed her number. I forget how I did it, but she later commented it was smooth, so I wish I could share it with you guys. I winked at the talkative dude as I left xD

We actually didn't have our first rendevous until another class had gone by. I texted her to pick a night she didn't have much going on, so we settled on today. One thing that made it difficult to see her is my rowing schedule, but luckily today we had an early morning piece. The next class I saw her I winked at her as I came in the room, and luckily the seats near her were taken so I sat next to another girl I knew. (Preselection. The FR girl had definitely seen me and this girl talking before) I didn't want to sit by her because I don't want to crest to early. If any of you more experienced guys would have sit by her, let me know your mentality. I'd definitely be curious- maybe you could ramp things up more? Anyway after class we walked out together and she walked me to my dorm. I had practice immediately so I couldn't do anything, so I just lightly flirted. The next day I saw her as I was coming back from a workout, and I was all sweaty. I said hey and gave her a little sneer.

Meetup
We had dinner tonight. She actually met me at my dorm, which was nice. One thing I sometimes struggle with is acne, and due to all the rowing my face has looked prettier, but my roommates helped me get into a social vibe so it didn't affect my psyche like it has before. It really isn't that bad, I just am self-concious about it. Anyone have any real good advice on acne? Anyway I ate with her at a restaurant on campus, and tried to deep dive her but I feel like most young girls don't have much to them. Still got her to tell me all about herself, while not revealing too much about myself. The tension was decent. Tension is something I really am focusing in on right now. I am getting better, but know I could be at such a higher level when I visualize it. After our meal we walked back to my dorm, and I told her to come see my view, which is an honestly good reason to come to my room because my view is spectacular. It was dusk, and I wanted to kiss her looking out at the calm ocean, but she kept talking when I would let things die off. So I brought her from the balcony to my room, and showed her around, and from here things got really heated. The double meanings kept pouring out from each of us, and we kept alluding to what we both knew was about to happen. Eventually it went down something like this (first time I have directly insinuated what I am about to do before a kiss):

A: So you must be dying to see what my move is going to be (I did an imaginary reapproach with a direct opener "move", that I was alluding to)
Girl: It looks like you are still trying to decide which one
A: I haven't made up my mind, but I am close
Girl: I feel so honored, you are using one of your precious moves on me
A: I think this one requires that we both be sitting (motions to bed)
(We both sit)
Girl: So what's it going to be? I want to see your best move
A: It's only the first date. I mean I like you, but not that much (sneer)
Girl: Oh yeah?
A: light chuckle, then some triangle gazing and very slowly moved toward her lips, then grab the back of her neck and pull her into the kiss.

We ultimately made out for an hour and a half. I got stuck at the wall that was her jeans. I teased her a lot, especially while licking her tits. She responded really well to this, but as you know not enough to be so turned on that we went all the way. I did a decent job of framing her as this seductress and me as this poor innocent man, and tried the tactic of accusing her of using reverse psych on me when she would say that we weren't having sex on the first date. I also tried enthusiastically agreeing with her and then trying to get her pants off, but it didn't work. I also used California Pimp's tactic of sticking my finger in her mouth and then asking her what she was thinking, but even that didn't work. I got her to scratch my back quite a bit, and play with my hair. I pulled her hair quite a bit too I also slapped her tits and jean covered ass. If it ever does work out with her I can tell we will have a lot of fun. Another trick I tried was making a joke of how no one in Shakespeare will have any idea what is going on between us, and that we will have a dirty little secret. This was to communicate discretion, but I don't think that was the concern she had about sleeping with me. Oh well. When she left we kissed sensously and as much as I hated to do so I forced myself to be the one to end the kiss. I don't think it was an opportunity to try again either if that is what you are thinking. She told me to text her as she left.

Thank you for reading through my FR. I have several more of these, just haven't had time with class and rowing and getting adjusted to college. Resistance has been a sticking point of mine. Will definitely reread the articles dedicated to it. Do any of you guys have any advice for me? Anything will do, but if you see some glaring flaw that caused the strong resistance, or have some idea and need more info, I am all ears. I'll let you all know if it ends up working out with her.

Cheers- Ambiance

 

[Lucky]

Nice job but remember if you fail with getting her pants off a tip would be to continue with what you were doing before your failed attempt then retry later. As for your acne problem just drink 8 or more cups of water a day i also heard if it was mixed with lemon it would also help and eating banana's would help. Oh and mixing banana with lemon or any other fruit high in vitamin C and applying it to where your acne problem is should help it works better if you keep it on over night.

 

[TheEcho]

Hey Ambiance,

The approach was awesome man, and LMR has definitely been one of my biggest sticking points since starting pickup again after nearly 2 years. Of the 6 girls I went out with my first month back, I've definitely progressed with each, from just kissing a bunch, to the point of the last girl very nearly letting me all the way in (she was the "Too Tight" one...). I think our styles might be different, but I go about things a bit more romantically, so Hector's Compassion and Truth techniques work very well for me. "No worries, we'll only go as far as you're okay with," said warmly, as you bring your focus to her face, if you were elsewhere (still need to tweak the others, not sure I executed them as well as that one).

• Massaging a girl's neck and back makes them melt
  Rubbing her from outside her pants (which is something I've done with the past 2)
  Dry humping is one of the hottest (poorly named) actions out there

I love USD and always wished I had gone there or SDSU. With Postmates taking me all over the place, I see that "Triton eye" is definitely a thing haha

Best of luck man!
Josh

 

[Ambiance]

@Lucky
You're so right regarding how to handle resistance. I have grown a lot since this FR, and depending on my read of a girl's objections will go very aloof and force her to be the initiator for any further physical escalation before I start moving things forward. Great tip

Thanks for your advice regarding acne too. Hadn't heard about the banana bit or the vitamin C trick, though I have been drinking a lot more water lately. I have found if I don't eat sugar or processed foods, get good sleep, don't touch my face, keep it clean, and drink water, my skin looks great.

Appreciate your response

@joshukend

Yeah, isn't LMR such a nasty sticking point?? You get a girl jumping through ALL the hoops, except the final one, which is super frustrating at least for me. Not too long ago, I would have been elated to have gotten a girl all the way to 2nd or third base, but now whenever this happens it's quite a let down. You learn that if you get a girl all the way there, but not further, it mucks up the entire seduction.

My style used to be pretty romantic, but now I would describe it more as loving instead of romantic if that makes sense. Reassuring a girl that you find her fascinating and desire her is a huge turn on for her when said from a position of strength. Perfect amount of attainability. With this particular FR, this wouldn't have helped, since it wasn't the issue. I was moving too fast for her (see Hector's lastest article). Still a worthwhile experience

Triton Eye LOL- yeah, pretty similar to the mermaid theory. Happens to me all the time in a classroom setting.

I'll check out all your LRs before I PM you

-A

 

[.....]

Acne problem?

Well first you gotta get to the root as why its happening. It could be because of your fast busy life (i guess), like you are not eating on time and not exercising etc.

Or you might be eating too much of junk food which in result increases your inner body heat that causes it. If you are...stop it. Asap.
Junk food does you no good, not to forget its not healthy.

Or it could be because you have oily face/skin. And mix it with fast food and disturbed lifestyle and there you go.....ACNE.

Solution -

Try this out : wash your face with normal water, and by normal i mean ....it should not be hot or cold. After washing it ...wipe it with towel (the towel should be soft, not hard). Wipe it slowly/gently, don't rub it hardly.

And do this atleast 20 times a day, you will see result in 7 days. Also it depends on what stage your acne are.


Drink plenty of water to cool your body from the inside. Avoid eating hot food right away...it only makes it worse. Let the food get a little cold before eating it - Tea/coffee.

Results appeared from the 3rd day i started washing my face coninuosly, it may take 7 to 10 days before you can see the results. And no, they aren't all gonna go away within 7 days. But you'll see. And if it doesn't ....go to a doctor.

Just remember :

- wash your face atleast 20 times.
-dont eat anything hot right away, let it cool first.
-drink plenty of water.
-focus on decreasing your inner body heat.

And you'll be good.
Cheers!.