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I don't know where to begin, but the easiest way is from the beginning. I was a high ranking manager at a local establishment, and was in charge of training all new hires. One day we got this girl which has tormented me since. Of course as all people on here say she's cute, funny, smart, we got along great and after working together for a while I felt like there was a connection. We went on a date (casual) to see fireworks on the fourth (this was 2 years ago) and for some reason when the moment arrived I missed it, completely. I look back and it was obvious she wanted to sleep with me and I just don't know what happened. I then made the mistake to try and pursue her and tell her how much I liked her and that was it, game over. No longer interested and started seeing other guys from the workplace. This lead to some problems and we pretty much stopped talking. I was transferred to a bigger location on a promotion and kind of stopped talking to her, but out of no where she would text me and want to be friends or talk about something out of no where.
Now during these times she had about 3 different boyfriends all of who I had worked with, and she did not have a problem telling me all about them, even if I didn't ask. She often would send accident text which were meant for the other guys to me and play it off as if it were nothing. I kind of got fed up with it and over the summer told her that I couldn't play these games anymore. She has admitted she has no feelings for me (more on that later) and I felt that I couldn't be friends with her because I always saw us as more than that. General knowledge from this board has taught me 2 things, 1. I fucked up by admitting my feelings because it's no longer a game to her and 2. She's letting me orbit and pulls me in when she needs attention.
So here is the issue, She does and says things that are just total signs that she has feelings for me. I can go down the list of things girls do when they have a crush and check almost every box, and a few other girls could go down that same list and say the same thing about her and I. She sends weird texts that are almost like a mystery in meaning. She sends flirty snapchats (look at my butt in these workout pants, heres what I look like today ignore the little bit of underwear showing, etc) and when she's drunk she says things like i'm the only guy that cares about her and i'm the only guy that listens and thinks she's amazing. Now I thought I was insane when all this was happening but 2 girls who do nothing but look out for me have seen some of the things she has texted and flat out said that she's got to be flirting.
If I try to flirt back or admit feelings she pulls away and tells me she has a BF (they aren't dating and he claims its a hookup) He even makes fun of me because he knows I like her and he says she mentions me quite a bit. I think he is teasing me but who knows. Mostly it's the way she goes out of my life only to jump right back in just when i'm moving on. If I talk about other girls i'm interested in she gets mad, If I go on dates she asks everyone she can about the girl. She texted me the other night telling me I was going to be pissed, I played along and she admitted to sleeping with one of my co-workers and asked me what I thought. I responded why do you tell me these things and she said cause your gonna be pissed and then after 6 hours texted back that she was joking.
My problem is I really like her, and common sense says that there is nothing here and I need to move on, and that is easy to do. but I look back at everything and I say to myself how could all this mean nothing. Way to many signs for me just to walk away. My question is, how can I tell if there is nothing here and it's just an attention ploy or if there is something and she's making it a game. How do I confront the situation, do I even confront it and how do I stop being friends with her if need be without being an asshole. Seriously it's a head scratcher and I need some help.
Now during these times she had about 3 different boyfriends all of who I had worked with, and she did not have a problem telling me all about them, even if I didn't ask. She often would send accident text which were meant for the other guys to me and play it off as if it were nothing. I kind of got fed up with it and over the summer told her that I couldn't play these games anymore. She has admitted she has no feelings for me (more on that later) and I felt that I couldn't be friends with her because I always saw us as more than that. General knowledge from this board has taught me 2 things, 1. I fucked up by admitting my feelings because it's no longer a game to her and 2. She's letting me orbit and pulls me in when she needs attention.
So here is the issue, She does and says things that are just total signs that she has feelings for me. I can go down the list of things girls do when they have a crush and check almost every box, and a few other girls could go down that same list and say the same thing about her and I. She sends weird texts that are almost like a mystery in meaning. She sends flirty snapchats (look at my butt in these workout pants, heres what I look like today ignore the little bit of underwear showing, etc) and when she's drunk she says things like i'm the only guy that cares about her and i'm the only guy that listens and thinks she's amazing. Now I thought I was insane when all this was happening but 2 girls who do nothing but look out for me have seen some of the things she has texted and flat out said that she's got to be flirting.
If I try to flirt back or admit feelings she pulls away and tells me she has a BF (they aren't dating and he claims its a hookup) He even makes fun of me because he knows I like her and he says she mentions me quite a bit. I think he is teasing me but who knows. Mostly it's the way she goes out of my life only to jump right back in just when i'm moving on. If I talk about other girls i'm interested in she gets mad, If I go on dates she asks everyone she can about the girl. She texted me the other night telling me I was going to be pissed, I played along and she admitted to sleeping with one of my co-workers and asked me what I thought. I responded why do you tell me these things and she said cause your gonna be pissed and then after 6 hours texted back that she was joking.
My problem is I really like her, and common sense says that there is nothing here and I need to move on, and that is easy to do. but I look back at everything and I say to myself how could all this mean nothing. Way to many signs for me just to walk away. My question is, how can I tell if there is nothing here and it's just an attention ploy or if there is something and she's making it a game. How do I confront the situation, do I even confront it and how do I stop being friends with her if need be without being an asshole. Seriously it's a head scratcher and I need some help.
You send her a photo and she's flirting back. You feel good. You would keep her around. She's just doing what anybody would do in that situation.