What Are Your Guys’ Living Situations?

[Rage]

Hey what’s up guys,

I had wanted to ask about this; was thinking about what kind of living situations would be ideal for a guy going to college. I had lived the last 6 months in my school university village and it was pricey but chill.

I’m asking this question in terms of like what the ideal place for a seduction would be i.e. a great place to pull a lot of girls home. Upsides of the village place I had lived in were that it was just right off of school and a few other perks related to that. However I’m likely not going to be able to move there this year.

Downsides of the village had been that I had 3 other roommates which we all got along well and they were chill and quiet and mostly didn’t even have girls over either. But I couldn’t be as loud as I wanted having sex; and the other downside is that the bed was a kiddie bed and yeah that kind of fucking sucked too.

Anyway was curious about what some of your guys conditions are and scenarios are living wise.

I always assume that when guys post these lay reports they are living by themselves and picture like a studio apartment or something. I have saved up a tad this summer, and may get a new job, and will perhaps be able to get somewhere better to live in the future.

If I can spring for some kind of steal studio with no roommates perhaps this would be ideal.

But am not quite sure and am still thinking about all this. Anything you guys have to say probably really helps me out, because just ideas wise I’m trying to look at all my options, then research, then really look hard and find my dream place, which I feel is out there awaiting me (and feel that not being able to live in the village this year perhaps is making ways this year for a place even better than the one last year).

So feel free to share .... and answer too, if you might, what qualities and nuances in your opinoin make for the ideal pad?

Thanks and cheers,

Gem

 

[PrettyDecent]

Gem,

Is it possible to find a place where you have your own room but have housemates, like a share house? They're usually in between the price of a shareroom and a studio, and long as you have your own room somewhat near campus, that's ideal.

I myself actually live with my parents. The logistics are quite handy because there's a major attraction near my place that I can tell girls to meet me at.

Other than that, there's not a whole heck of a lot else that you need, I don't think! My house is actually kind of a piece of shit to he honest, and I keep my room pretty messy; its just a good location.

~Nick

 

[journeyman]

Until 2 months ago, I used to live in a flatshare with 6 flatmates and on top of that walls were so thin that no one, ever brought over a partner. It was like a silent agreement. Right now I am moving to a new city as a postgraduate student and I really want to find a studio, mainly for my seduction goals.

Having said that, in some cases having your own room in a shared flat can be good too, it largery depends on the house. I have seen places where each room was pretty isolated, big, and insulated so would be just fine to have someone over for sex.

The question is, is it worth it to make a concious choice to pay more(usually) for a place more seduction-friendly? For me the answer is yes. But I also have it associated with my new, improved self. I think a better place to live is a testament to a cooler lifestyle and working towards your goals, I want to decorate my new place and make it sexy, I am even thinking of a DIY mini bar.

Would I be thinking the same if I couldn't afford it? No. I would go for something conveniently located first of all. Hope my disconnected thoughts written down are of some help, even remote.

 

[ray_zorse]

Location, location, location.

A room in a frat house, etc, is ideal -- you literally just grab a girl from a party, say "wanna have a shot together" and 5 minutes later you're kissing and escalating to sex. Woo hoo!

If you're pulling from campus be near or on campus... if you're pulling from downtown (clubs etc) be near there. Et cetera... fixing your logistics is one of the best things you cam do seduction wise. Half-hour pulls by car are extremely challenging, I have done it and so does Mr.Rob, but honestly half my lays were directly attributable to kick arse logistics.

Roommates well I dunno, depends a lot on the relationship you have with them. Personally I hate living with other ppl but then again my living situation is expensive. IMO location is #1, if you have to share to make that possible then so be it!

At the very least you MUST have a private bedroom. Personally I can't see thinness of wall being an issue but I am not super experienced in such matters. Main issue is her comfort I think. You might also consider layout, can u get from front door to your room without having to meet roommates? If so then that's probably a plus. Anyway, just look at a lot of different places and don't make too hasty a decision, I was househunting 6mths before moving to here.

Ray

 

[Mr.Rob]

As far as being loud when having sex goes I could care less what my roommates think. I think sex is self expression of passion and should be loud. Sex is a necessary part of having high self esteem and meeting your basic human needs and thus no complaint should be filed for meeting your necessary human needs.

If I can spring for some kind of steal studio with no roommates perhaps this would be ideal.

YES! But probably expensive. Especially in SoCal, unless you have steady income to meet said financial requirements.

I personally live in a house with two roommates. It is nice spacious and easygoing aside from roommate issues which are known to pop up semi-frequently around these parts.

I wish it were a bit closer to bars (walking distance) but a 7 minute drive isn't bad.

Other than that I don't like bringing girls home while everyone is still up and having to go through the living room with my girl as it makes her feel judged. I typically don't do that all too much as it seems I typically pull from nightgame but I plan to change that a bit this coming semester.

-Rob

 

[Lotus]

Location, location, location.

Along the same lines here. Walking distance from the bars/clubs/malls you frequent for gaming.

My situation for the past 6 months was in the heart of city with 3 major bar locations.1 was a 5-8 minute walk the other 2 were 5 minute uber drives opposite directions (20 minute walk for the bold). I was also a 5 minute walk from the water.

I had 1 roommate which was perfect for a couple reasons because it was cheaper then a studio, more alone time then 3/4 roommates but enough so that if you need someone to talk to you can, easy to manage pulling girls home-" Hey I have a date tonight and I'm trying to bring her home/xxx is coming over tonight." So he would just not be around when I needed him to.

and yeah like everyone is saying I can't stress enough how important it was to be able to walk. In addition to it's affect on pulling being able to walk everywhere made life so much better

I'm looking at new places now and not even considering bad logistics. I will pay extra for good ones.

Note: these are my post college logistics.

 

[Rage]

Hey this is extremely helpful guys thanks !!

Will comment in reply, in more detail a bit later; I'm looking at places right now have been looking for the past 30 min. or so.

One other thing I just thought I'd mention: I didn't think the studio apartment was possible in my price range, till I found a place absolutely perfect place like that (and that's why i mentioned it). It was studio apartment fully furnished no roommates in the heart of downtown, and 5 minutes from school and with heating and fridge and all this extra bullshit. But I was blue-balled sadly the rooms gone, so I'm looking other places now. Roommates def. aren't that bad and I'm open to them, my only thing was that first place I had found really was a freaking steal (but ended up too good to be true... or too late to be true I guess you could say).

Hope this helps anyone else, who this topic might have happened to have been relevant to.

Gem

 

[Estate]

I live alone and it's a big plus. On a date or just meeting a girl in a bar, it usually is a plus point to have my own place.

It rids her of my doubts about a roommate or friends knowing we hooked up. I rarely go to a girls place, it's usually assumed on both parts we go to mine.
The exception is when she lives alone but it's rare for my city and age bracket. It also helps just seeming a bit more mature or put together. Most people my age can't afford to live in the city without roommates.

Logistics is huge but there's some leeway. I don't live right in the city center but I live 30 seconds from a main subway stop and a quick cab ride from city center. Again because I still live closer than most even with roommates. It's not a big deal for me. In Boston you really need serious money to live in Boston proper. I live just a little out near Harvard area.

If you do have roommates, it's cool. Even expected. But it's a good strategy to let a girl know she won't have to have awkward encounters with others in the house. Either live with people who don't live indoors on your couch 24/7 or a generally do their own thing. Better yet, with a guy/guys who just "get it" and will give you space for if you've got company. I've been on both ends of that with roommates in the past. A female roommate who never left the house made everyone uncomfortable and wasn't ideal.

 

[mb1]

Hey guys I changed living situations a few times a year during university (work terms out of city) and though the studio's always the best and living in a house of 5-6 guys can be a lot of fun, the most affordable and tolerable is just a two bedroom apartment with one cool buddy who's ideally very busy and does his work on campus.

However, the best ever was being a live-in supervisor for first-year residents of the dorms.

This gave me a private apartment as big as the ones shared by 3 kids together. It's right on camus, so has the best logistics. This also created an air of respect and authority, being in charge of 50 kids or so.

If it's less of a party residence, it just takes running events like movie nights once a week and using their food budget. These jobs also come with meal allowance and are unpaid with the free room.

Smoked TONS of pot inside. It's fun being in charge and the supervisors you report to are also your age or one year older typically.

 

[Bboy100]

Frankly, I feel like any living situation is more or less ok. As long as you have your own room. I think the most damaging is if you live in a small school and you have to pull to a place where there are people she would know/potentially know. Having said that, I think anything reletively close to where you meet her and where you have your own room works fine.

Last year, I was living in school housing and I shared a room with a dude. I wouldn't have even considered bringing a girl there cause the apartment was so messy. And also, his side of the room looked like shit. Plus, we were on kind of bad terms. Then I moved to a studio apartment which was pretty much perfect.

Now, I think I'm probably going to be living alone again. This time, also close to the University and Downtown. So that's probably as good as its gonna get.

Conversely, Franco once pointed out how having a roommate might be helpful. Because when you pull her, you can have him sitting in the living room. Which is a good excuse to go directly to your room. So that might also be helpful.

Edit: Also, the smaller the place, the better. If its a studio, moving her to the bed would be more or less effortless. Cause she's pretty much right next to it by default. Whereas, if you're in a mansion (hypothetically speaking) moving her up a bunch of stairs, making a bunch of turns and so fourth would require a lot more "game" and a lot more desire to be with you on her part (i.e. its harder to make it look like "it just happened")

 

[Estate]

I guess the thing I should have mentioned is I'm past college age.

In college, then yeah, as long as you don't have any housemates which potentially cockblock you, anything can be made to work really.

Once you're past college age though, I think roommates are a means to an end. I man should really look to have his own place as soon as it's really possible to do so.
Women definitely have a different opinion of a guy who appears more independant and can actually pay for and upkeep his own place, as opposed to someone still doing the college thing.

 

[Bboy100]

Radeng,

Other than getting laid a lot and having huge parties, how was living in a house like that? Did you get along with your roommates, or were there too many different people/lifestyle types for you guys to mesh well? Also, at the parties, did personal belongings get stolen/broken hella?

Did those girls ever remember you in the morning? In other words, did you typically see/fuck them/have any type of relationship with them again? Or were they just a bunch of one-night stands?
Were there any disadvantages to living with so many people?

I'm asking cause I had the opportunity to live in a house exactly like that this year. And I might have it again next yr. The reason I turned it down is cause none of those people are connected. But based on your post, it sounds like that's not even necessary. So maybe I should do that if I get the opportunity.

 

[ray_zorse]

Yes, I noticed that post late last year and started putting it into action, I was going to have party #1 as a kind of a practice run, so I didn't do the cold approaching stuff (and in fact my location wasn't that good, so it might have been difficult to get people to attend), party ended up being quite okay but horrendously expensive. I still have a lot of leftover beer. I still plan to return to the project, and this time do the cold approaching part properly, but now the issue I have is, living in an apartment I think it might be a bit risky to invite a whole lot of random strangers. Instead I was thinking of trying to rent a warehouse in the city, but it starts to require a lot of investment. Not sure what to do.
Ray

 

[mb1]

Hey Ray, try cultural and neighbourhood community centres. Often big city municipalities own a lot of buildings that can be rented pretty cheap. They often each have a community board of directors and would rent independently rather than through the city.

At least in North America, there are often Italian clubs (typically bigger banquet halls), Irish and Anglo clubs (these usually have smaller bar rooms with stages), Chinese cultural centres, etc. Sometimes you need to be of the ethnicity to be a member and rent the hall, but everyone needs money so some clubs will rent to anyone.

Basically anywhere that will rent for a wedding (including church halls) would be open to at least considering other types of parties. I recommend checking out some churches with less strict doctrines. Especially the ones that fly rainbow pride flags and advertise marrying same sex couples will be more open-minded folk. Unitarian churches are cool 'cause they believe Jesus was a human and are less uptight. Every church is basically falling apart in terms of attendance (and thus donations), so they LOVE hall rentals until things start getting damaged or cops get called, etc.

As for university houses, my buddies used to pay their rent running $10 keg parties. It worked great because there wasn't much of a frat scene, so they were the rare house willing to risk the damage, meaning that they got a guaranteed big crowd whenever they decided to run one. This was also when Facebook was popping off big and everyone paid attention to event pages and shared them with friends.

 

[Jackson Joe]

Hey what’s up guys,

I had wanted to ask about this; was thinking about what kind of living situations would be ideal for a guy going to college. I had lived the last 6 months in my school university village and it was pricey but chill.

I’m asking this question in terms of like what the ideal place for a seduction would be i.e. a great place to pull a lot of girls home. Upsides of the village place I had lived in were that it was just right off of school and a few other perks related to that. However I’m likely not going to be able to move there this year.

Downsides of the village had been that I had 3 other roommates which we all got along well and they were chill and quiet and mostly didn’t even have girls over either. But I couldn’t be as loud as I wanted having sex; and the other downside is that the bed was a kiddie bed and yeah that kind of fucking sucked too.

Anyway was curious about what some of your guys conditions are and scenarios are living wise.

I always assume that when guys post these lay reports they are living by themselves and picture like a studio apartment or something. I have saved up a tad this summer, and may get a new job, and will perhaps be able to get somewhere better to live in the future.

If I can spring for some kind of steal studio with no roommates perhaps this would be ideal.

But am not quite sure and am still thinking about all this. Anything you guys have to say probably really helps me out, because just ideas wise I’m trying to look at all my options, then research, then really look hard and find my dream place, which I feel is out there awaiting me (and feel that not being able to live in the village this year perhaps is making ways this year for a place even better than the one last year).

So feel free to share .... and answer too, if you might, what qualities and nuances in your opinoin make for the ideal pad?

Thanks and cheers,

Gem

Paid six grand for 10 months in an top class apartment for final yr of college. 3 other room-mates including an anti-social (but polite) Australian, a China man (no need to elaborate there), and sociable and sane Native man like myself. I'm in the post graduate block, so it's a bit quiet though. I don't think I'll exactly be able to give any gals the impression that "this is where the party's at", but I don't think I usually try play that card anyway. Here's to the future.

Side note: avatar of you're is a bit in your face.

 

[Rage]

Gents, thank you so much!!!!

Have very nearly closed on an awesome place better, a place even better than my dream place, and better than the first place I looked up.

I could say so much about it but will keep it short.

There are a lot of shitty neighborhoods near my school but this place is in a good one. I found an excellent neighborhood excellent houses around, excellent view and frankly a little ridiculous how good it looks for the rest of the ghetto as houses that are just a few miles away.

Nice part of town, affordable price, great apartment great logistics from apartment, has a pool and perhaps a Jacuzzi too.

Rent is cheaper, the place is bigger and better in so many ways than my old place at the village! Very quiet too and priced a few hundred bucks cheaper.

Some of the best parts are that I have only one other roommate he’s my age and he's the landlord too (foreign exchange student from Saudi arabia). Chill dude and seems all right; was playing fifa with him the other day. He’ll have classes five days a week I’ll only have two.

Lot of the other houses in the city (mostly all the other places in craigslist in fact) were with 4 or 5 other roommates. I’ve never had less than 3 roommates ever. And many of them were in family houses and shit which from what I hear can be horrid (like living at home but someone else’s home haha from what friends tell me).

I kind of get skeptical or cynical when things seem to be going really well for me; and I’m trying to be careful not to let myself get to excited or on edge or euphoric or whatever about this.

But the place looks great, opportunity looks great, the guy seems cool, the place is clean too. All around lot of pluses and little downside (at least that are apparent yet). I’m very grateful guys for the help and very grateful to have found this place too and to have capitalized on this opportunity when it presented itself.

Glad I thought to write here asking about it, thanks to the community for the help

Here’s to the best school year, for getting pussy to fucking date (will make the very most of it!)  

Gem 

 

[mb1]

Congrats! I had a similar situation renting from an exchange student whose wealthy family made a similar investment.

Having had many landlords (and knowing many in student areas are on the lookout for parties), sounds like you scored a nice opportunity, as he's the only one to answer to. If it's big enough for hosting people over, throwing him some money for a simple pay-at-door good old fashioned red cup college all-you-can-drink kegger should be fairly straightforward and profitable for everyone's financial and sexual goals!

It's pretty easy to hire a maid service, or even make a deal with some female friends to clean the next day so they drink for free etc.

Have fun

 

[mb1]

Ah nvm just saw it's an apartment not a small house

Likely no good for keggers lol but great for logistics!!

 

[Rage]

Haha thanks bro; it ended up being tough luck though: I actually ended up not being able to close on the place!

It was all set and ready to go was gonna meet him yesterday but he texted me the morning before that, that his cousin suddenly was gonna come from Saudi Arabia too and he was being forced to lease it to him.

It’s a shame he was a nice guy and we got on fine; but this opens up for some kind of other opportunity or experience for me I reckon.

Having had many landlords (and knowing many in student areas are on the lookout for parties), sounds like you scored a nice opportunity, as he's the only one to answer to. If it's big enough for hosting people over, throwing him some money for a simple pay-at-door good old fashioned red cup college all-you-can-drink kegger should be fairly straightforward and profitable for everyone's financial and sexual goals!

I happen to be a type that doesn’t like partying much at all and have done it have gone out smoked drank done all that still perhaps do once every several months, but I have no interest in that stuff and don’t enjoy it when I do…

I feel like it’s a personal preference thing bro but yeah it’s weird that its like that for me. I think Ill write a separate post asking about it/discussing it.

Cheers

Gem