So, I think we're all aware of the harassment allegations that have been intensifying over the last year in the news--there was Trump's pussy grabbing, tech companies, Harvey Weinstein and the rest of Hollywood, British parliament...
I think we should talk about how this is going to change the dating culture and what we can do to adapt to it. In particular, it seems that anything that causes a girl temporary discomfort is liable to be called harassment nowadays.
I'm a fairly inexperienced guy. I'm at university, and I've had reasonable success attracting girls, but have managed to actually sleep with relatively few. I think that flirting is intrinsically risky. Girls here seem to think that sex or flirting is only acceptable when this intrinsic risk is completely eliminated, and therefore approve only situations where the girl is fully in control, like a formal date, pre-approved by friends. But because everything is so controlled in such a setting, I feel like girls only use them for validation and rarely end in sex.
I now rarely start conversations with girls even in social settings, and let them come to me. If they're trying to get my attention, I usually just ignore it. I also no longer flirt with them. I don't know if that's the right approach. As interactions between men and women change, could my new approach, just letting girls do the work, actually become viable?
As ever more behaviour becomes potentially ruinous, what can guys, especially less experienced ones, do to adapt and gain experience? I would especially welcome answers from more experienced members.
I think we should talk about how this is going to change the dating culture and what we can do to adapt to it. In particular, it seems that anything that causes a girl temporary discomfort is liable to be called harassment nowadays.
I'm a fairly inexperienced guy. I'm at university, and I've had reasonable success attracting girls, but have managed to actually sleep with relatively few. I think that flirting is intrinsically risky. Girls here seem to think that sex or flirting is only acceptable when this intrinsic risk is completely eliminated, and therefore approve only situations where the girl is fully in control, like a formal date, pre-approved by friends. But because everything is so controlled in such a setting, I feel like girls only use them for validation and rarely end in sex.
I now rarely start conversations with girls even in social settings, and let them come to me. If they're trying to get my attention, I usually just ignore it. I also no longer flirt with them. I don't know if that's the right approach. As interactions between men and women change, could my new approach, just letting girls do the work, actually become viable?
As ever more behaviour becomes potentially ruinous, what can guys, especially less experienced ones, do to adapt and gain experience? I would especially welcome answers from more experienced members.
