What did he say wrong in this text?

[Mr Mistah]

Hey guys.

Quick one for you.

There's a tweet going round of a guy whose advances got shot down by a girl over text.

Wanted to get your diagnosis on what he did wrong and how you would have phrased it if it was you.

We don't have a lot of context so just make do with what you see.

This is the tweet

https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1664701440735039493

Cant upload the image here for some reason

 

[Gladiator]

Wanted to get your diagnosis on what he did wrong

Without context and not knowing how comfortable she was with him until that point, it sounded creepy and triggered ASD.

and how you would have phrased it if it was you.

I prefer not to sexualize conversation over text but that's just me..

If I had to, I would've tested the waters before saying something uncalibrated like that.
I'd have first said "Stop trying to put thoughts into my head.. I'm a devout Christian " (this is my style of texting and I'd have said this only if I knew she understands my subcommunication).

 

[Mr Mistah]

Ah okay...interesting perpective there.

I personally found his response not that much of a big deal tbh.

Like it wasn't even overt the top sexual.

My own diagnosis was that the heart react and the exclamation mark react preceding the mildly sexualised text are what did him in because they communicated over eagerness and thirstyness from the dude.

The girl got a whiff of that energy and quickly ejected.

I believe if he hadn't made those two earlier reacts he would have sailed through perfectly well.

 

[Skills]

Ah okay...interesting perpective there.

I personally found his response not that much of a big deal tbh.

Like it wasn't even overt the top sexual.

My own diagnosis was that the heart react and the exclamation mark react preceding the mildly sexualised text are what did him in because they communicated over eagerness and thirstyness from the dude.

The girl got a whiff of that energy and quickly ejected.

I believe if he hadn't made those two earlier reacts he would have sailed through perfectly well.

Yea provably for me, my speculation tis one of the open hard close texting style and he was comfirming when the text happened and she already was not too sold on the date and look for an excuse to bail....that text was no too bad per se she was tanning and he ask for a pic....

 

[Train]

Fun thread, this is my read/opinion:

"Do I get a sneak peek?"

• Asks her to lead / for permission. Unattractive.
• Reads like "pretty please do I get one lookie"). Also unattractive.
• Frames her as the prize. Unattractive.
• Frames him as a creep (sneaky peeker). Unattractive.

"Or do I have to wait until 6:30 "

• Continues leaning into the bad frame from before. "Do I have to wait???" (I.E. Lead me).
• Adds a very specific time stamp. Almost like he's trying to subtly confirm the date time but not be overt about it. I.E. sneaky.

Girl was nice enough to let him know then and there imo.

 

[DarkKnight]

and she already was not too sold on the date and look for an excuse to bail....that text was no too bad per se she was tanning and he ask for a pic....

Yep. She wanted an excuse to bail

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

@Mr Mistah

I recommend you read @Hector Papi Castillo's texting book "What she really means"

It'll help you pick up on the nuances of texting so exchanges like this won't puzzle you

I'm currently reading it and it's given me a lot tricks that would have taken me a while to learn on my own.

Texting is an art, just like how cold approach is, so the book can't turn you into a master, but it's a start.

If you want texting analysis help, I suggest getting a coach, that's the fastest way to improve.

I've been focusing on texting with my coach and I'm starting to realize how nuanced texting can be, one character can change the whole meaning of a text.

 

[Will_V]

Yeah so everything is wrong:

1. She's giving very short answers and he's not only reacting to them but sending much longer/more eager ones in return.

2. He's sending multiple questions in a row on the same topic when she hasn't even answered or engaged the previous one.

3. His tone is very desperate - if he wasn't so obviously invested it might have come off as dominant and a little crude, but as it is you can almost imagine him wanking himself there.

So she's just thinking this guy has probably not got a lot of self control and is pretty needy, so she bails.

Also, women don't ever just react to text, they react to the person they remember in-person sending the text. So if you are on the threshold of being lame in-person, she won't have much patience for any dodgy texting, and vice versa.

 

[DrippyMoonKnight]

@Mr Mistah

I recommend you read @Hector Papi Castillo's texting book "What she really means"

Where can I cop that? I don't see it on the GC store.

 

[Skills]

Sorry guys but this is extreme mental gymnastics, the girl never wanted to go on the date in the first place... most girl would just send the pic or counter with "you gonna have to wait till 6:30"

I have ask women to send me pics so i can fap and go to sleep...

I have ask women to send me pics so i can tell santa what i want for crhismas..

I have done a bunch of cringe

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That girl never wanted to meet that dude, it says more about the dude than the texting....

The only mistake was asking before the date but you can counter as more compliance....

Dude indirectly ask for pics trying to be funny....

 

[ulrich]

I don’t think it’s that bad of a line… it certainly isn’t terrible.

But as @Skills pointed out, the problem is not the text itself, rather the impression this girl got from the original interaction.
She wasn’t feeling him and this was an excellent opportunity to bail on him… that’s all.

Honestly, if she felt the need to write that last text is because:

a) He wouldn’t get it if she just stopped replying
b) She herself is uncalibrated
c) All of the above

 

[Train]

To echo the above, I think there's a good chance the guy was lame even before this snapshot of the texting and that this was the last straw that broke the camel's back. Or if it was dead in the water before the texting, that this text wasn't the best to revive the set.

 

[Chase]

I actually think that whole text thread is terrible.

The guy is reacting with emojis to everything she says and then sends that weirdo sneak peek text.

As @Train said, he's got her framed hard as the prize, but in addition to that, the whole thing makes him sound like he wants to ogle her like some kind of voyeur. I don't know if he meant it that way but my first read was also almost like he was suggesting she was going to show up and show him her tan lines... like hop right to bed with him and pull off all her clothes, revealing where she was tanned and wasn't.

It's really bad form to text anything lustful about a girl's body unless you have a clearly playful/flirtatious dynamic. This guy chasing with the likes on her messages and her not reciprocating already tells you right there the dynamic is one-sided.

Pretty telling that the girl was responding back and forth with him, then after this bonehead text went silent for 90 minutes before she finally told him off. She was probably sitting there stewing on it feeling weird about it before finally figuring out what to say.

Smaller notes: that one word "Agreed" from her says she wants to end the text conversation.

Him continuing on with the questions after that looks desperate as hell.

Should've left it alone after that and just sent her a confirmation text an hour or two before the date. Problem would've been solved (unless she already didn't want to go out with the guy and planned to flake).


@DrippyMoonKnight,

Where can I cop that? I don't see it on the GC store.

It's here.

Chase