What do I say after the opener?

[nexus321]

Okay let's say I've approached a hot girl and opened her directly. What do I talk about then????
How do I establish attraction and make sure the conversation isn't so bland?

 

[NarrowJ]

I could go pretty deep into this, and type a huge wall of text... but this has been covered ad naseum and there are tons of resources already on the site and the forum for you. So, first of all, if you haven't already.... buy Chase's book, "How To Make Girls Chase" There are entire sections/chapters devoted entirely to what you are asking.

Additionally, there's tons of great articles on the site that cover this as well:

- How To Get A Phone Number From A Girl Every Time You Ask
- How To Break The Ice: 5 Surefire Ways To Entice Her
- Using Intrigue To Get Girls Chasing You
- Tactics Tuesdays: Locking In
- What To Say To Girls To Make Them Go Wild For You

I could keep doing searches and finding more and more articles, but I'll let you go ahead and do that

Here are some forum posts that might help you out too:

- Conversation Examples (By Zphix)
- The Approach: Effective Conversation (By NarrowJ)
- Approaching/Conversation Tips (By Zphix)
- Complete Daygame Guide (By Warped Mindless)


Hope that gets you started!
J.J.

 

[nexus321]

I could go pretty deep into this, and type a huge wall of text... but this has been covered ad naseum and there are tons of resources already on the site and the forum for you. So, first of all, if you haven't already.... buy Chase's book, "How To Make Girls Chase" There are entire sections/chapters devoted entirely to what you are asking.

Additionally, there's tons of great articles on the site that cover this as well:

- How To Get A Phone Number From A Girl Every Time You Ask
- How To Break The Ice: 5 Surefire Ways To Entice Her
- Using Intrigue To Get Girls Chasing You
- Tactics Tuesdays: Locking In
- What To Say To Girls To Make Them Go Wild For You

I could keep doing searches and finding more and more articles, but I'll let you go ahead and do that

Here are some forum posts that might help you out too:

- Conversation Examples (By Zphix)
- The Approach: Effective Conversation (By NarrowJ)
- Approaching/Conversation Tips (By Zphix)
- Complete Daygame Guide (By Warped Mindless)


Hope that gets you started!
J.J.

Thanks man, reading everything now!

 

[pickupq123]

After your cold approach (after saying "Hey I thought you really really cute and had to come meet you, hi I'm X, etc. ")


"what are you up to today"

This question can unlock a trillion possible conversation paths. Quick examples off my head:

Me: What are you up to today?
Her: Oh, just picking up food for dinner tonight.
Me: Oh yeah, that's an interesting item you're getting. You must be cooking something exotic...
Her: Haha, no. Just spaghetti.
Me: Oh really? I've never used that before in spaghetti. What kind of flavor does it give it.
Her: *talks about the taste*
Me: Damn. You must be a food connoisseur...

From there I would launch into different types of foods she cooks then eventually try to shift the conversation to saying "we should get together soon. We'll pick a new food recipe together and whip something up".

Me: What are you up to today?
Her: Heading to the library to study
Me: Oh really? Big test coming up?
Her: No. Just writing an essay for microbiology
me: That's interesting. pre-med student?
Her: Yes!
Me: Knew it What's the big dream after school? Are you trying to become a family doctor, or do you eventually want to travel overseas to help those in need with your medical expertise.
Her: I actually want to be X. But I would love to travel overseas eventually..

From there, I would ponder where she wants to go overseas, and eventually say " I have to head off now but you're really fun to talk to. Let's trade cells and we'll grab a bite to eat sometime".

It takes practice, but you eventually learn to feed off little things in conversations and branch them into a new topic. Granted, as you know I'm fairly new to this too, but I've been getting semi-decent results so far, so I feel comfortable sharing these examples.

Bob