What do you do when a girl says she's too busy

[Corsica]

Hey guys,

What do you usually do when you text a girl to set up a date and she says she's too busy. Because I can see two different ways about it:

If you just say "ok maybe some other time, take care " she may see you as weak thinking "Wow he gives up easy, doesn't he know what he wants? Is that all it takes for him to think I don't like him?" So in some ways I can see how this could be bad.

But on the other hand I can see how you being more persistent could cause her to think "Doesn't this guy get it? Doesn't he have any other options? He is so needy!"

So what do you guys think? Persist and show that you are confident she likes you and that you aren't afraid to push and make something happen? Or do you just say ok and be a little more aloof so she sees that you have options. Also, does this change depending on how many dates you've been on?

Thanks guys! Just trying to understand this nuance more.

 

[bassman]

She may genuinely be busy at that time and can't. I would just shoot her a text saying "No worries, let me know when your schedule frees up and we can grab a bite to eat." And leave it a that and move on to he next one. If she texts back great. If not then I guess she has better things to do. Make sure that you don't actually call it a date and just "grab a bite to eat" or "meet up for drinks" or something along those lines. Calling it a "date" puts uneeded pressure on her.

 

[Ross]

Something to get you out of the friend designation would be to simply lay back and let her pursue a date. If a girl is avoiding going out with you, it typically means she's either holding herself back or genuinely isn't excited about going on a date with you.

Now, persistence can work, but you need to make sure that you are able to change the way she thinks about you. If she really wanted to see you, she would agree quite fast to any change of seeing you. Thus, the problem doesn't become how to get her to go on that date, but how to get her excited about going on that date. This is where fundamentals, attractiveness, and emotionally connecting with her come into play. If you've got these things going and know that she is excited about seeing you, then persistence will likely work every single time.

I'd say simply leave things in a place where she'll have to pick them up and invest effort. Simply text her something along the lines of "Okay, let me know if some time frees up." That way you can go about doing your own thing and move onto different, more promising girls, than trying to crack the hard case of one that may not like you.