I have a girl I’m seeing on the side. She ALWAYS initiates conversations, usually about 2 days after we see each other last. I’ll usually exchange like 5-6 texts back and forth over the span on a day or two and then invite her over for the next time to mine (which is usually like a day after). Sometimes if I don’t get back to texting her all day, I’ll just call her, chat for like 5 min, and invite her over for the next time instead.
This has been the pattern for the past 3 months (except maybe the last 3 weeks, I stopped calling her and just stuck to inviting her over text). Today was a bit stranger- she once again initiated the conversation starting with some cutesy shit. I didnt get back to texting her until like 5-6 hours later because I was busy with the business and don’t like interrupting my flow state.
She then texts back like 45 minutes later, and I text her after about an hour and a half later when i finally wrapped up for the day, inviting her over again (the text was “come over tomorrow and bring the aquaphor). And then NOTHING, DEAD SILENCE from her for like 6 hours.
In every other case before this, she would respond back in an hour or two saying something like “ok! should i wear anything specific or bring anything with me” to which i respond back with whatever and thatll be that.
I call her around 10:30 at night because at this point im thinking she’ll be busy this weekend so I may as well make other plans (was thinking about going out of town this weekend/ next weekend). When I call her, she picks up and we chat and I invite her as usual. She says she’d “love” to come over and then references the text i sent hours ago asking me why she should bring the aquaphor, and i tell her about the tattoo i got yesterday. She even goes as far as to say she’ll get off work earlier tomorrow and come straight over (investing even more).
So whats the deal here? Why didn’t she respond back to my invite all day and then when i call her later inviting her with a bit of chitchat, she was super enthusiastic?
My hypothesis is that she felt like she was chasing too much with always initiating conversations and I’m a horrible texter and wasnt giving back enough. So essentially me calling her after not hearing back from my invite made her happy and enthusiastic again. Am I right? Or did I fall into some sort of trap or failed some sort of shit test or something here lol
addition: I should add that this girl always drives like 30 minutes to see me atleast twice a week, always brings gifts/ snacks, and always spends the night.
This has been the pattern for the past 3 months (except maybe the last 3 weeks, I stopped calling her and just stuck to inviting her over text). Today was a bit stranger- she once again initiated the conversation starting with some cutesy shit. I didnt get back to texting her until like 5-6 hours later because I was busy with the business and don’t like interrupting my flow state.
She then texts back like 45 minutes later, and I text her after about an hour and a half later when i finally wrapped up for the day, inviting her over again (the text was “come over tomorrow and bring the aquaphor). And then NOTHING, DEAD SILENCE from her for like 6 hours.
In every other case before this, she would respond back in an hour or two saying something like “ok! should i wear anything specific or bring anything with me” to which i respond back with whatever and thatll be that.
I call her around 10:30 at night because at this point im thinking she’ll be busy this weekend so I may as well make other plans (was thinking about going out of town this weekend/ next weekend). When I call her, she picks up and we chat and I invite her as usual. She says she’d “love” to come over and then references the text i sent hours ago asking me why she should bring the aquaphor, and i tell her about the tattoo i got yesterday. She even goes as far as to say she’ll get off work earlier tomorrow and come straight over (investing even more).
So whats the deal here? Why didn’t she respond back to my invite all day and then when i call her later inviting her with a bit of chitchat, she was super enthusiastic?
My hypothesis is that she felt like she was chasing too much with always initiating conversations and I’m a horrible texter and wasnt giving back enough. So essentially me calling her after not hearing back from my invite made her happy and enthusiastic again. Am I right? Or did I fall into some sort of trap or failed some sort of shit test or something here lol
addition: I should add that this girl always drives like 30 minutes to see me atleast twice a week, always brings gifts/ snacks, and always spends the night.
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