Here's a peak into some of my major breakthroughs in my journey.
Sexuality and setting the right frame
In the beginning, one of my key sticking points was establishing the right frame for sexual tension. I improved by focusing on eye contact, escalating touch, proximity, and the strategic use of silence to build tension. Early on, I made sure to set the frame by subtly indicating that the interaction was more than just friendly, avoiding the "friend zone." Techniques like push-pull and disqualification helped me keep the dynamic playful and flirtatious.
Consistency in opening
I struggled with inconsistent openings—my success seemed to depend heavily on my energy and momentum. To address this, I adopted an opening framework, specifically Todd’s FAME model: capturing her focus, maintaining an arrogant yet playful frame, holding that frame, and escalating. While this brought some initial success, I later integrated concepts from the GW system and Mystery Method, putting greater emphasis on technical aspects like attention hooks, pacing, assumptions, open loops, lock-ins and moving her. It was all about having a fixed model of steps which increased my results.
Storytelling and managing groups
Another challenge was storytelling and handling larger groups, where I wasn’t as confident. I learned the basics of storytelling, and how to create a compelling buildup and keep the group engaged, largely through articles from Girlschase. I began applying techniques like pacing and assumptions not just with the individual people i spoke to, but with the group as a whole, and learned how to use each assumption about each individual member in the group to hook in the rest.
Overcoming last-minute resistance
After I became comfortable with getting women back to my place, I encountered last-minute resistance. I realized I needed to break down barriers earlier, ensuring she felt safe, allowed to express her sexuality, and turned on long before the point of going home. This shift in approach was crucial to resolving this sticking point.
Worked on sex talk
I also delved into Alek's framework on sex talk and 2nd generation verbal skills, which was a game-changer. I started with his canned routines but eventually understood why they worked and adapted them into my own style. Over time, I became more natural at this since I knew what worked and knew what I had to get her through for the right effect.
Improving the general sexual experience and upping retention
Once sex itself was no longer an issue, my challenge became seeing the same girls again. To address this, I focused on improving my skills in the bedroom. Implementing the DEVI concepts, dominance, emotion, variance, and immersion which made a huge difference. I realized that being more dominant was something women responded to positively, and I learned that sex is more about mental stimulation than physical actions. Like in seduction, the key is making her chase and beg for you.
'Invisible' escalation
I then worked on refining my escalation game, making it more seamless and natural. I had the problems getting the exact girls I wanted so I tried to see how I could make my displays of intent more subtle. My goal was to create the impression that the woman was escalating on me, not the other way around. This involved techniques like placing her hands on me, teasing her for escalating, and using sexual tension as a tool to qualify her.
Controlling conversations
I had problems getting into the sexual topics naturally, and this is where I got introduced to Riker. I focused on steering conversations in the direction I wanted, learning strategic topic control through Riker’s conversational management system. At first, it felt awkward, but with practice, I learned how to guide interactions towards fun and engaging topics, then gradually transition to more emotional, romantic, and seductive ones. This also gave me a natural way of fractunating between topics.
While there are many other things I’ve worked on along the way, these represent the most significant breakthroughs in my journey. What I figured out on the way is that it all comes down to a very few things:
- Pacing and understanding her world completely
- Emotionally stimulating her and actually being fun and engaging to be around.
- Breaking down her limiting beliefs, barriers towards sex and taboos. Making it natural to talk openly about sex
- Being able to turn her on sexually through sexual tension, and 'selling' yourself as someone who knows how to fuck.
- Actually delivering in the bedroom
But even though it's these few things, they take ages to learn and master. And I still have a long way to go before I have truly mastered them.
My focus right now
I have never really been a relationship guy, so this is something I'm trying to learn and gasp. I have been with the same girl now for the longest period I ever have been in a relationship. Learning how to manage and control is something that really is a different game but also keeping the sexual aspect in the relationship. So I work on ways to control the relationship, keep pushing our sexual boundaries and trying out a lot of different stuff. Mainly with help from Witch60.
