What have I become?

[Flames]

Hello folks I've been wanting to write this post a whole now. It's not strictly just PUA related as its more about my fundamentals than anything else. I'm not that great at writing but here goes....

For a long time I was the quite introverted extrovert. I've always been a big-time clubber and I drink like a fish, it suits me as despite me being quiet I'm also a fairly hedonistic guy even now at 36 I don't sleep much and if I try and take things easy and have a relaxing day it makes me feel I'll and I get headaches, so yeah...

Lately though and it's been a slow progression over the last year mainly (but I've been working on myself (fundementals wise over the last 3); I've become the social guy that I was hoping to be I was never that bad in that I've always had a good sense of humour, intelligent and now I'm completely self-aware but the last year I've noticed a major shift in the way people look and interact with me.

I wasn't a touchy feely guy, and now it doesn't bother me.
I wasn't really good with EC and now I can put things across, almost completely non-verbally.

And now when I go out I've had a few really amazing things happen. I've absolutely no fear of social situations now, No AA or anything else. I even opened a 4 set of girls on my own the other night and all I was doing was going outside for a ciggie, and again I was (smashed) having a proper convo about why I was out who they were, where I'd been and then all of a sudden I realised I was just talking to 1 girl out of the group. I had no idea how I'd got to that point. It was completely on auto... Unfortunately I was that amazed with myself I just let them leave eventually but it made me realise that if I can happily chat with 4 girls who I didn't know, then I've no need at all to worry about anything else. Again the same
Night I was out with some collegues of my brothers and I didn't know any of them but I was socialising like we were old friends.

And again I was out the other night with some female work colleges (and a couple of male friends), now these girls are a mix of ages from 21-50+ and I managed to keep convos going with most of them, even danced (and kissed) a couple of them. I've know these girls for about 5yrs and they're like extended work-family but I didn't 'really know' any of them until that night, and I've seen them since and we get on even better.

It's been an amazing year...

 

[Chase]

Flames-

Some really impressive progress here, amigo.

Yeah, it's weird when you have those realizations all of a sudden. I've been doing this for a while so sometimes I have to remind myself that things were ever different, but I can remember those times sitting there talking to large groups of people and being far and away the most socially graceful person there, clearly in charge of the direction, ebb, and flow of the interaction, and realizing suddenly that I'd come along way from standing in groups of people at parties, listening to what they talked about and trying to mechanically reverse engineer how to have a conversation at a party or manage group interactions.

You have, effectively, shed your old skin, and put on a new skin. You're still the same guy on the inside - except before, you were uncertain, confused, and awkward, and now you're certain, clear, and in-charge. Big difference - and it keeps getting better.

Chase