Last wednesday I did my first direct approach ever and the days that followed I approached more and more. Most of the approaches I've detailed here https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=5708
Yesterday I approached around 7 girls. All in total about 20 the past 5-6 days. I got approached 2 times. I got more than 10 approach invitations that I didn't capitalize on, and I got lots of girls checking me out on a kinda like a dating website and had girls write me.
And here's what I've learned:
- it's not that scary to approach. It is just until the point where you start talking. After you've said the first word it kinda flows on it's own and a lot easier.
- It's not scary or bad to get rejected. After every rejection I actually felt better, had a surge of energy and adrenaline and a wide smile.
- you will get rejected a lot! From those 20 approaches I got rejected about 17-18 times when proposing a date. And all of them said they had boyfriends. So unless you've gotten clear approach invitation you're most likely going to be rejected, so don't approach with the thought that you'll fall in love and get together. It won't happen most of the times.
- have no expectations before you approach. As I said most of the times you'll get rejected.
- I forgot most of the girls names and even I can't exactly remember how they looked. It just leaves you mind - and it's only been a couple of days.
- I don't care about the ones who rejected me, simply cause I'm too busy thinking about the few who didn't reject me, and the one in specific that I really like and it's going good.
- girls are really nice about rejecting you. Every time they said nicely that they can't because they had a boyfriend. Some even apologized multiple times and thanked me for the compliment. So even if they were single but didn't like me, they didn't say that. They said they had a boyfriend and some said if they didn't they'd go out with me. Idk if that was true or not but they make you feel good about yourself and try really hard not to hurt your feeling or make you feel stupid.
- girls like me a lot more than I imagined. I started noticing a lot of girls checking me out and throwing approach invitations.
- though I couldn't capitalize on those, which sucks. Almost all of the girls I approached didn't give any indication they liked me. And I missed on at least 10 situations where a beautiful girl wanted me to approach.
- girls get really surprised when you approach them during the day and direct. Most of them a even shocked. They've never ever been approach like that or even heard of a girl being approach like that. It really throws them off and some get really nervous if they like you.
- sometimes even if a girl likes you, if she starts feeling to nervous she'll shut you out and get out of there simply to relieve the tention
- those fundamentals that Chase preaches sooooo much about are the sh@t! I've been working on mine for a year. Working out 6 days a week to get a great body, have sexy walk, walk and move slow, fashion, hairstyle and facial hair, even the look in my eyes, etc. Till now I haven't noticed how much it separates you from every other guy. When I'm walking past a place with a lot of people I can notice their eyes on me - girls and guys. You stand out a lot from the crowd. Even at the gym every single day there are 10+ guys some bigger than me and more muscular(lots of bodybuilders and professionals there), even guys who are really good looking(to the point other guys are checking them out) and yet I'm the guy all the girls check out. Even the ones who don't like me take a few looks to see who is that guy. I bet that's all because of those fundamentals!
- I actually had guys starting to talk to me. Idk what it is but at the gym guys start talking to me, even bigger meaner looking guys. The give me respect and move around me instead of asking me to move and some even seem intimidated by me(which is funny to me and makes me laugh). Also guys started talking to me in the elevator asking me on which floor I was and one guy is on the same floor and he started to chat a bit with me. And I forgot about 2 girl who started talking to me at different times in the elevator - one turned out to be on my floor and we talked about 5 minutes - isn't that pretty but is nice. The other we had only 20-30 seconds to talk.
- it is a lot easier to get a date than I thought! From those 20 approaches I got:
- 1 set up date to go grab coffee
- 1 girl giving me her e-mail and not her number cause she has a boyfriend and, he won't see the e-mails we exchange
- 2 phone numbers( one was even the girls proposed we exchange them)
- 1 girl giving me her facebook account saying she'd like to keep in touch cause I seemed like a cool person (I think that was in a friend only way)
- set up an account on the biggest social website in my country that is hugely popular among young people, and got in 3 days over 40 girls checking out my page. Plus 4 girls writing me. Of which 1 I really like and we really clicked and have lots in common. I deep dived her and we'll talk on webcam tonight(cause it's better than writing messages). She seems really into me and receptive(telling me how she loves doing crazy and new things and telling stories how adventurous she is, etc) so I'll propose we meet some day this or the next week.
Not bad for less than a week. I'm really excited mostly cause this is just the beginning - only my first 20 approaches, my first week of approaching.
I haven't even been trying hard. I'm thinking of joining a yoga class, start taking some other class that is mostly girls - like maybe learning French. Going out to shopping malls, stores, etc to approach.
I can only imagine what results I'll get if I approach 5 or even 10 girls every day.
Or how will I do in a club or bar - still haven't tried going there, cause I don't like night venues, cause my mindset is that there it is the hardest place in the world to get a girl - since girls have their guards up, there is lots of alcohol and competition, and it's expected to approach there, so I won't seem bold for doing so.
If I've forgot to add something I'll write it later, or if you have anything to add or just want to say sth - be my guest.
Yesterday I approached around 7 girls. All in total about 20 the past 5-6 days. I got approached 2 times. I got more than 10 approach invitations that I didn't capitalize on, and I got lots of girls checking me out on a kinda like a dating website and had girls write me.
And here's what I've learned:
- it's not that scary to approach. It is just until the point where you start talking. After you've said the first word it kinda flows on it's own and a lot easier.
- It's not scary or bad to get rejected. After every rejection I actually felt better, had a surge of energy and adrenaline and a wide smile.
- you will get rejected a lot! From those 20 approaches I got rejected about 17-18 times when proposing a date. And all of them said they had boyfriends. So unless you've gotten clear approach invitation you're most likely going to be rejected, so don't approach with the thought that you'll fall in love and get together. It won't happen most of the times.
- have no expectations before you approach. As I said most of the times you'll get rejected.
- I forgot most of the girls names and even I can't exactly remember how they looked. It just leaves you mind - and it's only been a couple of days.
- I don't care about the ones who rejected me, simply cause I'm too busy thinking about the few who didn't reject me, and the one in specific that I really like and it's going good.
- girls are really nice about rejecting you. Every time they said nicely that they can't because they had a boyfriend. Some even apologized multiple times and thanked me for the compliment. So even if they were single but didn't like me, they didn't say that. They said they had a boyfriend and some said if they didn't they'd go out with me. Idk if that was true or not but they make you feel good about yourself and try really hard not to hurt your feeling or make you feel stupid.
- girls like me a lot more than I imagined. I started noticing a lot of girls checking me out and throwing approach invitations.
- though I couldn't capitalize on those, which sucks. Almost all of the girls I approached didn't give any indication they liked me. And I missed on at least 10 situations where a beautiful girl wanted me to approach.
- girls get really surprised when you approach them during the day and direct. Most of them a even shocked. They've never ever been approach like that or even heard of a girl being approach like that. It really throws them off and some get really nervous if they like you.
- sometimes even if a girl likes you, if she starts feeling to nervous she'll shut you out and get out of there simply to relieve the tention
- those fundamentals that Chase preaches sooooo much about are the sh@t! I've been working on mine for a year. Working out 6 days a week to get a great body, have sexy walk, walk and move slow, fashion, hairstyle and facial hair, even the look in my eyes, etc. Till now I haven't noticed how much it separates you from every other guy. When I'm walking past a place with a lot of people I can notice their eyes on me - girls and guys. You stand out a lot from the crowd. Even at the gym every single day there are 10+ guys some bigger than me and more muscular(lots of bodybuilders and professionals there), even guys who are really good looking(to the point other guys are checking them out) and yet I'm the guy all the girls check out. Even the ones who don't like me take a few looks to see who is that guy. I bet that's all because of those fundamentals!
- I actually had guys starting to talk to me. Idk what it is but at the gym guys start talking to me, even bigger meaner looking guys. The give me respect and move around me instead of asking me to move and some even seem intimidated by me(which is funny to me and makes me laugh). Also guys started talking to me in the elevator asking me on which floor I was and one guy is on the same floor and he started to chat a bit with me. And I forgot about 2 girl who started talking to me at different times in the elevator - one turned out to be on my floor and we talked about 5 minutes - isn't that pretty but is nice. The other we had only 20-30 seconds to talk.
- it is a lot easier to get a date than I thought! From those 20 approaches I got:
- 1 set up date to go grab coffee
- 1 girl giving me her e-mail and not her number cause she has a boyfriend and, he won't see the e-mails we exchange
- 2 phone numbers( one was even the girls proposed we exchange them)
- 1 girl giving me her facebook account saying she'd like to keep in touch cause I seemed like a cool person (I think that was in a friend only way)
- set up an account on the biggest social website in my country that is hugely popular among young people, and got in 3 days over 40 girls checking out my page. Plus 4 girls writing me. Of which 1 I really like and we really clicked and have lots in common. I deep dived her and we'll talk on webcam tonight(cause it's better than writing messages). She seems really into me and receptive(telling me how she loves doing crazy and new things and telling stories how adventurous she is, etc) so I'll propose we meet some day this or the next week.
Not bad for less than a week. I'm really excited mostly cause this is just the beginning - only my first 20 approaches, my first week of approaching.
I haven't even been trying hard. I'm thinking of joining a yoga class, start taking some other class that is mostly girls - like maybe learning French. Going out to shopping malls, stores, etc to approach.
I can only imagine what results I'll get if I approach 5 or even 10 girls every day.
Or how will I do in a club or bar - still haven't tried going there, cause I don't like night venues, cause my mindset is that there it is the hardest place in the world to get a girl - since girls have their guards up, there is lots of alcohol and competition, and it's expected to approach there, so I won't seem bold for doing so.
If I've forgot to add something I'll write it later, or if you have anything to add or just want to say sth - be my guest.
