What is desire?

[Animatronic_Squirrel]

I'm with someone right now who is incredibly forthright and in touch with what she wants - slightly egotistical, incredibly intense, and always gets what she wants.

In this regard, I'm very much the opposite, and I'm trying to learn this behavior - I have a tendency to suppress what I want, and its become so second nature I'm never quite sure what is that I want out of a situation.

Anyone else been there?

 

[Smith]

Yea man, I recommend you to read "no more Mr nice guy" by Robert Glover. The tendency to suppress what you want came from your childhood conditioning, when your needs weren't met in a timely manner and that led you to believe your needs weren't important, so you suppress it in order to make your parents or people around you happy. and that led to where you are today. Put your needs first and do what you want (without harming other people of course) even if you think it might upset other people. You'll make yourself happier and people will have more respect for you more than the guy who tries to please them.