What keeps you going?

[Sam Dray]

Greetings Gentlemen...

It's a simple question..

What wakes you up every morning?
When you see that cute lady over there..what makes you want to approach?

Simply put: What's your motivation/what motivates you?

I know this has been asked many times.. But I ask this because I'm curious about your thought process and how you view things. Thanks in advance.

-Sam

 

[Man-O]

1. Improving social skills seeing how some stuff one worked on suddenly gives jackpot after some time.
2. Excitement of trying the unexpected. Most of the time it's fun even if the end result turned bad.

And put together they're for my end goals. To become a leader (which my goal demands) I'd need social skills and to get the girl I want I'll also need it and without me noticing on this path I ened up having a richer life due to having started pu so my goals actually changed slightly from what they were in the start and I've begun to focus more on the ride but still with end goal in mind.

 

[fsc]

- What wakes you up every morning?
My annoying alarm tune. It used to be this until my former roommate eventually got hella pissed because I kept hitting snooze and the song kept playing over and over again every morning.

- When you see that cute lady over there..what makes you want to approach?
1. Sexual desire - I want to bang her into oblivion and watch my yogurt seep out of her burger
2. Ego/competitiveness - Approaching girls during broad daylight in the middle of the street or wherever is prolly the biggest source of self-satisfaction and adrenaline for me. There were a few girls who I cold approached JUST because all the guys nearby were stealing glances at her. It's pretty funny when the whole gym/restaurant/etc goes quiet to watch you. A lot of guys smirk at you with a "lol, nice try, loser" as you walk away with a rejection, but it's actually cute because if you look deeper into their eyes you see all the envy, fear, and insecurities that they're trying to hide with their smirk. The "WHAT THE FUCK?!" faces they give you as you walk away with her number or her herself on an instant date is friggin awesome.

- What's your motivation/what motivates you?
I want to be an awesome role model for my offspring, in the future when I have them. My boy(s) will be the most intelligent, financially stable, fit, badass naturals around, and my girl(s) will be the female version of that. I wanna dawdle around with my tadpoles after dinner and laugh with my boys about their latest Anatman-like shenanigans and giggle with my girls at the lame/corny texts their clueless orbiters and wannabe-PUAs send them. And when they settle down, I wanna be a badass father-in-law and grandpa.

 

[Kuro]

Part of it is hormones, but if I were to pin down any one specific motivation... that would be respect.

I'm really sick and tired of both men and women disrespecting me. I'm tired of girls friend zoning me and being disinterested, all the while looking at other men with adoration on their faces. I'm tired of being seen as weak and really, I'm just tired of being seen as less than other men in general.

When I see a pretty lady, I don't just want to get my dick wet: I want her on my bed screaming in ecstasy, begging for more. I want to become the type of man that women lust after and to give them an experience they'll never forget. And I want other men to see me as a strong, sexy man that is good with the ladies.

Sometimes I feel like it's an uphill battle, since I'm really skinny and I just know that is part of the reason I'm disrespected. But in Highschool I was a million times worse - I suffered from depression, had social anxiety, and most women thought I was creepy. I've come a long way since then and I'll bet that if I keep trying, some day I'll become the man I want to be.

 

[ray_zorse]

Yeah well I'm with fsc, the reason to approach girls is they're fuckin hot and just talking to them is a huge rush of happy drugs to the brain Let alone the rest!

Also, fsc: My 7-year-old is now officially a PUA in training, I've been teaching him the walk and he likes it. We've also done some approaching together, well I do the actual approaching (on the train platform), we then invite her to sit with us on the train and he joins in the conversation. I like to set a good example in this way.

-Ray

 

[Estate]

What drove me at the beginning (and still does though I don't really mass approach these days) is simply not settling.

As a kid I "lucked" into having some girlfriends. I was pretty miserable I could not meet women like other guys and when I "lucked" I was kidding myself. I was convincing myself I liked these girls basically because they seemed to like me and I had no choice.

As I got older I have seen many friends settle down. While I'm happy they are happy, I've also seen them really settle for less than I think they could have got or settle into not very good relationships because they were just done with single life.

This sort of inspired me more... it's one thing to have a girlfriend when isn't your dream, but I then began to see these guys put rings on the fingers of these girls. They'll be with these women for the rest of their lives. I. Just. Can't. Even.

As I got better with things though I did begin to meet much much better quality of girls. I've met and dated women now that in anyone's book were solid 10's. While I might not be at my end goal yet, at some point in time I could never ever have seen myself even getting a look in with girls like this, but heck, now I've dated them and I don't ever want to look back. I proed to myself it can be done and it would never have happened without a lot of sweat, tears and pain over time.

 

[Whizzy]

I personally enjoy the variety of girls out there, which is of course endless. Getting to know someone new and seeing what they can bring to the table has always interested me more than seeing the same person day in and day out for the rest of my life, unless she was Jesus reincarnated as a female. That might be acceptable! But really, I feel as though there is a certain amount of growth that people can do together until one party inevitably stops trying (they get too comfortable and stop caring) and things either quickly or slowly fade away, and a relationship in decay isn't too helpful for anyone.

 

[Sam Dray]

Hey there.. Fellow members..

Interesting replies I've got from you guys... I've been meaning to reply sooner..but I got stuck in a mental slump for a few days, so I took some time off to get my mind re-focused and make a few changes to my style of Pick-Up.

Moving on...
1. I wake up because I want to live life, even though I know it will try to break you down once in while. I also wake up because I want to improve my skill set and master more things in life.

2. I approach women because I like what I see and I want to add some adventure to their lives and mine. I do it to conquer my fears and push past mental roadblocks.

And lastly..
I am motivated by the progress I have made in PU and the results I see in other aspects of my life...

"For me.. 2nd place only means you're the first loser..but on the other hand ..1st place is never enough."

I respect that mindset.. (Thanks for helping me see PU in a different way.. Man-O.. I am greatful) And I do not run around trying to prove myself to others... Because that will just lead to me putting a lot of pressure and result in showboating.

-Sam