What kind of 'tangible value' should you be bringing a high quality girl?

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

The Pickup Catch-22 of Ambiguous Value

In a thread on the discussion boards about negative mindsets, a forum member named Black writes: “But when I have to take action there’s this feeling: - I have absolutely NOTHING to offer her. - I have NOTHING to say to her. - She’ll be creeped out just for me going out of my way to say anything...

www.girlschase.com

I'm practicing talking to girls and practicing game. I'm working on my fitness, I'm traveling to gain more experiences and become more interesting, I'm going to a good college, I'm also reading and watching movies, listening to different types of music, working on my fundamentals, style, and you get the idea. I'm working on myself to become more interesting generally.

However, if you were to ask me, what value do I bring to a girl? I'm not sure how to answer that. I remember reading that you should know about what you bring to the table for why a girl would want to get with you as much as what value you expect her to have for becoming sexual with you or being in a relationship.

Being sexy, being cool, being a great conversationalist, etc. are these what's considered valuable as to why a girl would want to be with you?

What would you say to someone, what value bring for a high quality girl?

 

[ulrich]

Sorry. I didn’t understand your question so I deleted my previous reply.

Well, I would say I’m intelligent, charismatic, handsome, composed, trustworthy and charming.
I can make her feel loved and fulfilled if she allows her guard to go down.

I can offer her my genes, if she is so interested.
And of course, my loyalty.... if she is worth it.

Not sure if this helps... I can say it easily and confidently because it’s internalized... you need to get that confidence in your mindset. It takes time.

 

[West_Indian_Archie]

The Pickup Catch-22 of Ambiguous Value

In a thread on the discussion boards about negative mindsets, a forum member named Black writes: “But when I have to take action there’s this feeling: - I have absolutely NOTHING to offer her. - I have NOTHING to say to her. - She’ll be creeped out just for me going out of my way to say anything...

www.girlschase.com

I'm practicing talking to girls and practicing game. I'm working on my fitness, I'm traveling to gain more experiences and become more interesting, I'm going to a good college, I'm also reading and watching movies, listening to different types of music, working on my fundamentals, style, and you get the idea. I'm working on myself to become more interesting generally.

However, if you were to ask me, what value do I bring to a girl? I'm not sure how to answer that. I remember reading that you should know about what you bring to the table for why a girl would want to get with you as much as what value you expect her to have for becoming sexual with you or being in a relationship.

Being sexy, being cool, being a great conversationalist, etc. are these what's considered valuable as to why a girl would want to be with you?

What would you say to someone, what value bring for a high quality girl?

It's a weird premise because as a man, you should be asking yourself what is she bringing to the table other than a cute face and good blow jobs.
To really get the most out of PUA/Seduction, a man's focus should shift to himself rather than "girls" or his "girlfriend/woman". That comes with time and experience. I look back on the antics that I used to hook up with a chick, who most times ended up not being that great after all was said and done.

What I bring to any girl's life

1. My financial resources - no matter how much you bring to the mix, even when I make less, sharing a place and expenses is better than not sharing them. In most cases, I usually make more money than the average 26-30 year old woman. Type of chick I could get with now, wouldn't need to work fulltime at a job she hates. Not that any of those women would recognize that value, end up blaming you for stunting their career...
2. Problem Solving
3. Teaching her life skills - How many of my exes now cook? smh.
4. Physical Protection - obvious
5. Good Love Making - obvious
6. Companionship/Somebody to do things with - underrated, but every "homebody" i've ever gone out with, was really stuck at home because they had no one to do things with.
7. Depending on the setting - a man of status.
8. A source of external emotional stability - Low key, but a man's general stoic nature is a sense of calm in a chaotic world. The oak tree and the squirrel gobbling nuts is the metaphor.

When you're in a relationship, you do a whole lot more than pay for meals and bang her out every few days.
You become her everything. Mechanic, Tech Guy, Google, Best Friend, Bridge Partner, etc.

Even the lowliest, autistic, apathetic, black pill, incel, nerd, who hates himself, doesn't understand what any man brings to the table when he brings a girl to his stable. That's part of why they go that route, imo.

No Bs, most girls get a better deal, even though they're loathe to admit it and most guys over-value sexuality so they don't understand what it's like to actually live with a girl that depends on you, even though she could be self-sufficient. And a lot of Red Pill guys don't see any value in taking care of his wife/gf along with any kids that might come into the picture.

As for "high quality girls" - pretty girls with jobs and educations are usually a mess emotionally/spiritually. They often lack purpose.

This is one of these questions I've grappled with a lot.

WIA

 

[DarkKnight]

@West_Indian_Archie can you explain the high quality chicks paradigm further? It kinda got my interest.

 

[Regal Tiger]

Being sexy, being cool, being a great conversationalist, etc. are these what's considered valuable as to why a girl would want to be with you?

What would you say to someone, what value bring for a high quality girl?

Well, they definitely help.

The most valuable currency, I've come to believe is that of emotional/human currency. It's underrated and immensely valued when you find it.

If you can relate to people and give them good energy, then they'll welcome you just about anywhere. Never underestimate the value of being able to connect to people. Because, especially nowadays, practically nobody knows how to do it.

Then, of course, there's the other stuff valuable to women that she values on a biological level: sexiness/dominance/good genes and etc.


Aside from all of that, the one thing that I bring to the table above all else in my opinion is my knowledge of psychology/people/the mind.

I have yet to meet someone in real life who is more knowledgeable than me in regards to people/psychology. Obviously there are people out there that know more than me and I continue to learn from them. And when it comes to certain aspects of people, sure, I can be bested. But as a whole, I am constantly told that I am unique in how I interact with people.

And that took a shit load of time and effort. As well as chunk of change out of my pocket.

Psychology is my obsession and it shows in how I help people overcome themselves.

The Pickup Catch-22 of Ambiguous Value

In a thread on the discussion boards about negative mindsets, a forum member named Black writes: “But when I have to take action there’s this feeling: - I have absolutely NOTHING to offer her. - I have NOTHING to say to her. - She’ll be creeped out just for me going out of my way to say anything...

www.girlschase.com

I'm practicing talking to girls and practicing game. I'm working on my fitness, I'm traveling to gain more experiences and become more interesting, I'm going to a good college, I'm also reading and watching movies, listening to different types of music, working on my fundamentals, style, and you get the idea. I'm working on myself to become more interesting generally.

However, if you were to ask me, what value do I bring to a girl? I'm not sure how to answer that. I remember reading that you should know about what you bring to the table for why a girl would want to get with you as much as what value you expect her to have for becoming sexual with you or being in a relationship.

Well, I'd say you're someone who is self-improvement oriented. That by itself, isn't super valuable at the moment, but anyone with half a brain will look at what actions you're taking and say "that guy is going to be worth something some day". They're going to see your potential as long as you stick with it.

So sure, if you want to argue about what benefits you bring to the table right now at this moment in time, it's not going to be a whole lot. But it's also not going to be as much as you'll bring to the table tomorrow. And it's certainly smaller than what you're going to bring to the table a year from now.

 

[West_Indian_Archie]

@West_Indian_Archie can you explain the high quality chicks paradigm further? It kinda got my interest.

I dislike the term "high quality chicks" because I think it's imprecise.

But what most people seem to mean when they say "high quality"
1) Looks - Above Average looks. - Stunner. Maybe not a model, but a cut above "cute". Proud to have on your arm. You love to introduce her to people as YOUR girlfriend.
2) Behavior - Not a drug addict, alcoholic, has an education, has her stuff together.

Aside from her looks, she's like most other girls. She's got emotions, mood swings, insecurities, etc.

And in the context of a committed, long term, monogamous? relationship - it's her personality, behavior, and ingrained patterns that become the most important thing.

Really hot girls that realize they are getting through life on their looks, worry about losing them.
The ones that don't realize the "looks boost" - don't understand when things don't go their way, and they get frustrated.
The ones that have everything, sometimes feel like impostors at work.
Others get everything and still aren't happy.

This is the human experience, but vast majority of men and a lot of women (10's or not, lol), seem to think women are above humanity.

And in my experience, whatever the girl is going through, be it right now, or be it in her past - she's gonna bring it to you as her boyfriend, her closest friend.

I've found, by losing good girlfriends, unless I do something pro-active to get her to focus on what's actually important - she will take out her issues on me and the relationship.

In my experience, others my agree or disagree, girls often look outwards to find things to control their emotions.
Food, money, things, internet validation, sympathetic ears to listen to, etc.

I've said this before, but I remember watching one of my exes get ready for something we were going to. Watching her mood changes on her face, as she changed outfits - is something I began to notice a lot in other women. During the work day, hair goes up, it goes down. She's happy to wear "weather appropriate" clothing, only to come to the same cold office day in, day out.

Some part of them often reaches out to "things" to change the internal state. "X will make me happy."

People do this, but I'm not trying to sleep with people, just women.

So noticing this about women, is just a key to unlocking their behavior.

For me at least.

As a defense, I learned this from a dude online, when you're down, girls want to "get you something" when what you need is to get away from them. So his move was to have her go buy chocolate at a place cross town. She felt she was doing something, and he had some peace, lol.

WIA

 

[DarkKnight]

As a defense, I learned this from a dude online, when you're down, girls want to "get you something" when what you need is to get away from them. So his move was to have her go buy chocolate at a place cross town. She felt she was doing something, and he had some peace, lol.

WIA

Perfect

 

[trashKENNUT]

In my experience, others my agree or disagree, girls often look outwards to find things to control their emotions.
Food, money, things, internet validation, sympathetic ears to listen to, etc.

I've said this before, but I remember watching one of my exes get ready for something we were going to. Watching her mood changes on her face, as she changed outfits - is something I began to notice a lot in other women. During the work day, hair goes up, it goes down. She's happy to wear "weather appropriate" clothing, only to come to the same cold office day in, day out.

Some part of them often reaches out to "things" to change the internal state. "X will make me happy."

People do this, but I'm not trying to sleep with people, just women.

So noticing this about women, is just a key to unlocking their behavior.

For me at least.

As a defense, I learned this from a dude online, when you're down, girls want to "get you something" when what you need is to get away from them. So his move was to have her go buy chocolate at a place cross town. She felt she was doing something, and he had some peace, lol.

WIA

Thank you for this notes. It matches my blueprint on human states. I just become a GAWD again and again. HAHAHA!

Keep on popping notes GC. Even the wacky ones and ideas on the field and mentally. I am gathering all the data. I want to make all women kiss my royal feet. *Insert angry emoji face*



z@c+

 

[Yaxir]

Thank you for this notes. It matches my blueprint on human states. I just become a GAWD again and again. HAHAHA!

Keep on popping notes GC. Even the wacky ones and ideas on the field and mentally. I am gathering all the data. I want to make all women kiss my royal feet. *Insert angry emoji face*



z@c+

will you compile all those notes in a pretty ( or not so pretty ) document, kind sir ?