What should young guys be doing if they want hot girls when they are 30+

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Not enough room for it in the title but this thread is more about investing in yourself as a man so you can get hot girls when you are older which is 30+

From my limited life experience and what I have seen, it is not that common to find guys over the age of 30 who are living the player life compared to a guy in his 20s. I guess it is because of the stage of life I am in where the playboys and studs were fraternity guys in college and sports stars in college.

Hearing what I hear of getting older and relationships after 30, it seems like the shift is more LTR oriented and you can't exactly get quick easy sex like you would have been able to get in your younger years.

Say you're a guy in his 20s who wants to build for the future and set himself up in a situation where at an age like 35 he is:

1. Getting sex from attractive women.

2. Has attractive women in his life as fuckbuddies.

3. Not having to spend much money on these women.

4. Avoids long term relationships and anything serious with these women.

How do you build a life that allows you to do all that outside of being a celebrity?

 

[Parkour]

Your 30s should have you retain/refine your physical prime while coming in to your social influential prime.
You'll want to have worked through your emotional baggage from childhood and honed your personal drive

Location and logistics:
make your way into a city with a good restaraunt/bar/nightlife scenes
Be well travelled

Stacking up:
Accomplish some life milestones that you care about passionately
Have Figured out out your personal strengths and developed them into super powers
Know a lot about a lot
Be involved in activities that 20s something's can't afford or haven't been exposed to
Be part of "the future"
Not only have masted a lot of skills but have taught them successfully too

Image:
Develop disciplined routines in terms of working out and self care
Take especially great care of your skin, body to minimize premature aging including how you intend to address or prevent hair loss *before* you've lost any
Further develop identity and personal style, know how to dress well/comfortably/age appropriately anywhere

Socially:
improve emotional intelligence and all communications skills
Be able to hang in different and new circles
Fine tune your friends circles to healthy people with aligned goals
Fine tune your flirting and social influence
Develop empathy with women and know what they value from you as a man

The final part is about commitment. At some point you realize you are ultimately in control of this. You can choose who you approach, what you offer in terms of commitment, and how you allow things to progress in your relationships. Most women don't approach and so only throw out invitations at best and hope a guy makes it awesome. When you are 35 you should have a better idea of what kind of relationship you want at that time. If you follow the advice above you'll be valuable enough to retain a great relationship but also easily able to start a new one. Plan ahead but leave a little bit of open ended mystery into your life story so you can develop in ways you haven't even thought of yet.

 

[headsup38]

If you want casual relationships when you are in your 30s, your best market is the girls 10 years younger than you. You'll probably need to recognize who might be open to fun and avoid girls who look like five-stage clingers. A girl with tattoos, smokes, drinks beer, belly button piercings, wears tight clothing, shows ample cleavage is probably someone you could have fun with without commitment. Women have their own hidden agenda and it can be difficult to recognize their game and intentions no matter how much experience you have. I believe fuck buddies occur out of chance. I sure would like to have one, but I draw Lizzie McGuire types and they don't make good fuck buddies. I've heard of full-blown players get tangled up in paternity traps with unscrupulous women half their age so no one is immune to getting played. Work on getting to know everything you can about women. Talk to women and watch how they behave. If you continue to do this, you should have the experience necessary to navigate your way through the dating pool to get what you want.

 

[Franco]

Kenshin,

I would check out Blackdragon's Blog since his entire website is devoted toward living that sort of lifestyle into your later years -- Blackdragon (Caleb Jones) is in his mid-40s.

Worth some time to look through if you want an idea of how to live a non-monogamous lifestyle while banging a bunch of younger chicks. He mostly uses online dating to meet these girls, but he never monogamously commits to them so that he can always maintain fuckbuddies and open relationships to sleep with other women simultaneously.

- Franco