Socializing What the hell do you do when trapped?

[TheEcho]

Starting with my breakup in June 2022:

Graduate college and moved back home to a Dallas suburb (I know no one here, family was here for 1 year).
Spent 2 months having no luck finding a job.
Went to Europe for a month and have a great time, other than 15 girls that I got along well with and nothing ever happened with any.
Come back to the job hunt and start dance and singing lessons.
Few months into this, I start a 3 month FWB with a girl I was ehh about.
Things end in December as she fully falls for me and I want to limit her hurt (I was clear the whole time).
Also in December 2022, I drive to Houston 5 hours each way TWICE for a job interview that then turns me down.
I say fuck this shit, the only feedback I ever got was "not enough experience".
Started hunting for other roles in my industry and got a little underwriting gig with a new broker.

2023:
This is December into January, potentially going to move down to Austin for the role, but felt uneasy about several things (later was justified).
Started getting inklings for my program and started trying to learn Python.
ChatGPT 4 launches and I'm off like a rocket, with a clear image of what I want to create.
I started strict carnivore at the same time.
9 months later, I am rounding it out and getting ready for the first test user. I also am getting asked if I'm going to compete in bodybuilding shows due to my physique (probably 60% from carnivore, 40% from improving my lifting technique).


During this year, I've cold approached over 100 girls (nearly all in gyms) and the furthest I've gotten was some texts, nearly always ghosted.
Also have a couple girls that seem to be extremely into me but absolutely refuse to meet outside the gym...



Why trapped? This project's competitors make $1k+/user/month and likely have 1,000's of users. There is nothing else in my life with even 10% the potential of this so there's no point spending time elsewhere when it's all consuming anyways. The development requires a huge amount of screen space to not be a window-swapping-headache, making it very hard to do on my laptop and keeping me locked at home. There's also the bit where I've made $0 for a long time, so nightlife and traveling to downtown (costs $30 each trip just for travel) aren't really options and there doesn't seem to be much else to do to meet girls besides malls, grocery stores, and the gym. Again though, I can't fathom pouring time into just doing cold approaches while I sit at a big fat financial 0 until my program is off the ground. There's also the bit where being pure carnivore, it is very financially unwise to eat/drink out and rarely do places have stuff I would consume anyways.

I get a lot of praise from a wide variety of people that I'm looking great and I'm great to be around (from the gym, invited to Thanksgiving with one guy's family and starting a business venture with another [very well off] guy), but this ends up adding to the frustration with not being able to get a single COFFEE date. Just this week, I had 5 contacts go nowhere and I have no fucking clue where my game is failing so badly. It feels like I need to be perfect just to get fucking coffee...


On a brighter note:
I've started meditating again because I seem to always end up getting results when I'm doing that consistently. A major realization I had during the first session was that I've basically put myself in a chrysalis, having chosen to be in this spot for very good reasons, but it's also very restrictive in the near term and show no noticeable results until the very end. That my earlier phase of life worked one way, but things seem to have flipped on their head and I need to totally evolve and then struggle against this shell to build up the strength needed for the next phase (as butterflies need to do in order to fly).

It's like I'm in a very long, dark tunnel and ejection is an option, but the only way to make it worthwhile is to complete the journey, and running to a normal job or such would be like helping a butterfly break free; you make it easy and it can't fly.

 

[Beck Bass]

Hey @TheEcho, impressive work, too bad the results aren't quite there yet. Gyms always seemed like environs that were very hard for me, the girls on guard remember me of clubs (they are around many muscular guys and generally wearing tight clothes, so it's justified), but there's none of the social pretense, dancing and drinking that usually helps in nightgame. There's probably someone here that must be killer at gyms and can give you some pointers.

But yeah, that many approaches and time spent should be getting you somewhere by now, so I think you need some sort of reboot, think outside the box, maybe even take some time off (maybe if you don't activelly pursue the girls, some will approach you instead, since your fundies seem to be on check).

Also the tech stuff that you are doing might be really successful someday, but I would recomend you have a plan B, just in case, that is way lower effort, but could at least help you a bit with girls, and maybe be a second option in case you wanna switch. Bartending (as in making drinks) is relatively easy to learn, and you could get a little sidejob so that you have a bit of cash to take girls out, or at least have more option (also working at a bar puts you in a position to get laid way easier than most other jobs, if there are other places that are better at that). Just something to think about, though, I know nothing about your hustle or the place you live in curently, so take all that with a few grains of salt.

Best of luck to you!