What to do when others are around?

[mountaingoat]

With the prospect of intimacy becoming a potential reality again, I have begun to consider the issue of family members and roommates being around. In my past experiences, this was never really an issue. But now it is. I live with my family, and despite my plans to move out soon, it will only be to sublet from a friend where I may have little physical privacy. Additionally, all the women I have considered over the past months live with their families too. It is rare that I am home alone (it seems, maybe I just am not noticing it as much as I used to). There are isolated parts of my house, where we could disappear to, but our absence would eventually be noticed. So what can I do to deal with this before I am confronted with having to make a decision?

 

[Estate]

I know this will sound harsh but.... move out.

What other choice is there? There are ways around it, if you drive then there are oppertunities in the car, etc... but you can only go so far.
Sureely there must be times when others are not in the house or if they are just take her to your room, in some ways its an easy excuse to bring her to your room... grab some food or drinks, go back to yours and if people and hanging in the living room just say "Lets go eat this in my room".

But if you want ultimate privacy you've got to take it upon yourself to move out on your own. We all have to do it sometime.

To be honest I live in my own 1 bed near the city. It's expensive as hell but I love having nobody else around.
One easy way I know a girl is pretty much on for the night is she will ask my living situation. In this city almost everyone my age has room-mates and depending on her living situation girls are often hesitant to bring me back to hers on the first few dates... perfect for me.
When she asks and I tell her I have my own plac in the city they always say "WOW! You've got your own place!" because they are so surprised.

 

[mountaingoat]

Finances make it difficult to move out, but I am working on changing that. However, it may just not be possible for the time being. The economy is what it is and ambition can only get one so far. The next year or so of my life will be in flux, so I also cannot commit to certain opportunities.