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What to do when the "deep dive" goes too deep?

homage

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Hey chase,

I love your site. I've been a long time reader and supporter of https://www.girlschase.com. I love your site because it's not some memorize "this line" site. You’ve helped me improve aspects of my life which is WAY more valuable than stupid tips and tricks offered on the majority of other sites. Anyway, some friends and I went to Vegas for a going away party. I used this trip as a way to get some field experience. I'm not new to the game I've been approaching girls for a long time but just with my own knowledge about social interactions. Since I've been reading your site I've slowly identified problems in my game and corrected those problems. I wanted to try out what I've been studying on your site. Let me just tell you I had really good success! I didn’t close (I totally could have if I wasn’t sharing my room with 4 other dudes) but that’s ok because I went with the goal of opening every type of girl from average all the way to 10's and getting numbers. I got a bunch of numbers so I really got to test the "how to text girls" thread which helped out TONS! We stayed for two days and on our last night I decided to go-for-broke. We met up with some friends that live in Vegas at a high end lounge bar. Our friends brought friends, a few girls and guys. We showed up late. We all did the introductions, ordered drinks and sat down. I saw this girl who was stunning, the only problem was she was getting hit on by tons of guys. As soon as I got my chance I took it and did the best opening I've ever done. We hit it off from the start. I decided I wanted to "deep dive" her and it went great! I was letting her do all the talking, I was "thread cutting" and giving "focused eye contact". She responded well, she was giving me all the signs. She asked for my number, she was touching me, smiling at me and flirting. It was great we had that tunnel vision thing happen where we were in our own world. The only problem was I think the deep dive went a little too deep. She was giving me hints that the people that she is living with were out of town so I tried steering the convo more sexual but at this point it was 6am and I was too late. I think I wasted too much time deep diving and not moving things forward fast enough. How do you make sure that you dive deep enough without over doing it? I'm almost sure I dove too deep because that was 3 days ago and she didn't text me. I also find myself really attached to the experience. I know that sounds weird but I thought the deep dive was supposed to make her feel attached, not me? I really appreciate all that you do chase. Your friend -Stuart
 

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you use a little humor in your deepdiving. I think Chase has mentioned it in one of his articles. Can't remember the exact title, but I think it's "big mistakes that shred conversation".
 

homage

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@ jino thanks for the reply. Do you happen to know the link? I can't find that article you mentioned.
 

luego

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From what you describe, you didn't have the problem of diving too deep. That's when things get too serious/awkward, and you've failed to "come up for air" occasionally.

Your problem was just time/logistics. You opened late, and got too focused on the deep-diving and time went by.

So the problem was just timing, missed escalation-windows, and not moving her (fast enough, anyways).
 

Nova

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come up to the surface for some fresh air or you will drown
 
you miss 100% of the shots you don't take

homage

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Hey thanks guys. I'm sure now that if I would've come up for air and moved things faster the outcome would've been different. Oh well, I went wanting experience and I got it.
 
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