Calls & Texts What to say next?

[Marty]

Hey fellas. I met a girl yesterday around 6 PM. She gave me her number, and around 10 PM I sent her an "icebreaker" text message as recommended in Chase's article How to Text Girls: 20 More Tips and Techniques.

Hey {K}, this is Marty. Save my number

At about 10:30 PM, she sent me a reply:

Hey! Thanks

What should I do next? Call her? Send another text message? If so, saying what?

Or is it a lost cause already?

It's kind of a boring answer she gave me, two words. Some folks are getting long messages back from their girls, asking about their last name and all sorts of stuff. Is it worth it? My preference would be to call her, but should I wait or just call her now?

I've read through lots of FRs but everybody seems to do it a little differently.

-Marty

 

[Marty]

Well, I didn't know what to do, so I called, she wasn't around, and I left a voicemail saying that it was nice chatting with her, and that I was a bit busy this week but could meet on the weekend or early next week, and that she should call me back. Hope she does. I wish we didn't have to do this step. It's where I lose 80% of my girls.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

Not sure how you got a lost cause out of this all she said was hey and thanks if it was a lost cause she probably would of bothered (im not sure if im right since i dont know the background)

I think you best bet was just to leave it and then send a follow up message to plan coffee or a few drinks something casual



Anyways wait for more experience texters to reply im working on improving my texting

 

[trashKENNUT]

Marty,

Fundamentals. or she just not into you because either you didn't hit the right note or it's her part.

You can always try.

Zac

 

[Franco]

Marty,

If it were me, I would have sent her a text the next morning asking her about how XYZ was (where XYZ was whatever she was going to do that evening) just to get the conversation started. I'm pretty much completely averse to phone calls these days, and the only phone calls I make are to a girlfriend (if I have one) and if it's an emergency or something that requires urgent attention.

She has no obligation to send you more than two words in a response because she has no idea what it is you are going to do yet. For all you know, you can ask her out on a date and suddenly she seems thrilled and sends you a huge paragraph! That's why it's always important to just follow up with something very simple and is the path of least resistance for her.

Part of the reason I don't make phone calls has very little to do with age or upbringing and more to do with the fact that it's easier for HER to respond to them. You always want to make things easy for her, otherwise you're going to have a very low success rate.

- Franco

 

[Mr.Rob]

Marty, I met a black girl the other day and got her number and she was fairly hooked during our 5 minute interaction.

I sent an icebreaker text similar to yours and she texted back a bit later with "hey, I will" (she will save my number) with no smiley exclamation or nothing.
I figured shit was not going to pan out and she would be hard to get back out on a date or meet up.

She then texted me later that night and said "I found out Im leaving tomorrow" (in other words the only time for us to get together would be now).
I tried to get her out but her bitchy friend was cockblocking and it didn't work out. I figured oh well worth at try.

She then texted me the next day asking if I had a instagram. Still no "hey!" no "" no nothing just dry shit. I told her some cheeky shit and then figured I'd try and phone call since she was supposed to come back to my city in a month or so.

We agreed to talk on the phone and she didn't answer. She texted me later that night when I was asleep.
Again I tried to reschedule a phone call on my time and she told me to call her when she gets off work. I called her then and she didn't answer... whatever fuck her.

Then the next day after I got work she texted me asking if she could call me. I jokingly told her no and then told her she could do so. We talked on the phone for about 40 min. and she claims she wants to take the 3 1/2 hour trip to come back and visit me.

I guess what I'm getting at is don't assume she not interested based off what she replies to your icebreaker just keep things moving. Based on my girls responses and lack of enthusiasm at all whatsoever you would have thought I was an orbiter.

-Rob

 

[trashKENNUT]

Franco,

Part of the reason I don't make phone calls has very little to do with age or upbringing and more to do with the fact that it's easier for HER to respond to them. You always want to make things easy for her, otherwise you're going to have a very low success rate.

This is interesting. On one hand, i feel the girl is not interested or catching it on. On the other hand, i feel that sometimes, calling for a short while restarts that attraction. and i use it from time to time in the past.

She has no obligation to send you more than two words in a response because she has no idea what it is you are going to do yet. For all you know, you can ask her out on a date and suddenly she seems thrilled and sends you a huge paragraph! That's why it's always important to just follow up with something very simple and is the path of least resistance for her.

About this one, i find this is vague. It can be crazy (i had girls who was harder to text back, and needed few rounds of occasional text for the month before getting her out, this is bad precedent. I also had girls who is more reserve but go on dates with me anyway) because there's a huge diversity to what can happen that only asking her out is the best option.

Zac

 

[Marty]

Gents, thanks for helping me through this.

She called this afternoon while I was at a conference and left a voicemail. I just listened to it. She says that this weekend is fine and I should pick a time and day and just let her know.

Maybe I don't need quite as much hand-holding as I thought, but I've had so many problems with remote communication, I knew you guys would know what to do.

Franco, I really appreciate your support. I agree with the principle of making it easy for someone to say "yes" and close the deal. The only reason I called was that I have a phobia of coming across cold and unfeeling, and I know for a fact that the warmth in my voice will prevent that. I'm not very experienced with text messaging yet. When I write extended prose (e.g. here), it's possible to give it warmth, but a text is a little bit cramped for space I guess.

Rob, thanks for sharing your recent experience. You're right, you can't really assume anything from a brief message (which is kind of the point I was making above, from the other person's perspective).

Zac, Mr. O, I appreciate your contributions.

Oh and by the way I will set up the date logistics by text message. As Franco pointed out, the poor girl's put enough effort in by calling me back already.

-Marty