What vibe do I want to give for a one night stand?

[Verisimilitude]

This is a problem that I've really been struggling with the past couple of times I've been out. I'll meet a girl, open, deep dive, and take her home. She'll take my hand and pull me out, but as soon as we're alone, its constantly how "Oh I'm not that girl" or "We're not having sex". I'm not sure if this is typical LMR, or something I'm doing is making it harder. Its so frustrating see people around me taking girls back, and I have to work so hard to even get the girl to stay up an hour after I go back. I dont know if it is the vibe I'm giving off, but its incredibly frustrating. I'm using bursts of passion, touching the girl, but I can't get her to sleep with me. Then the next day or week, I won't get anything from them, and I'll just get even more frustrated. I don't know whats wrong with me. I have no problem meeting the girl, but I can't get her to sleep with me once we're alone!

 

[Jano23]

Good question here man. I go through the same issues with women they get this vibe that I'm a nice guy. Which I am I don't want to hurt someone for no reason but I think that is misconstrued for me being a "nice guy."

Sometimes I think to myself I just need to be an asshole and say things just so they don't get the idea that I'm "boyfriend" material. It's tough because in general I'm such a warm person it feels odd to give off that bad boy vibe because it feels so incongruent.

 

[The Tool]

Hey ccc im not going to get real indepth here, but for me it comes down to Chase Framing and Sexual Framing. You have to FRAME the interaction as purely sexual (im sure youve read my LR (Date went Great) its an excellent example of solid framing. And when a girl say's "Oh im not that girl" or "we're not having sex" that means that they have been thinking about it and do not want to come across as easy. This can easily be avoided with good sexual framing and with letting her know during the interaction that you do not judge women based on their choices and that societies definitions of women as "sluts" is not logical.

Make sure to kiss her within 5 mins of being at your place or a place where you can escalate. (man handle kiss prefered) You just have to address objections correctly and be smooth and sauve like if she says "this is wrong" say "it cant be wrong when it feels so right" or if she say's "we are not having sex" say "Sex? when did I say anything about sex? where is your mind missy?" then continue to escalate using the methods advised. such as pulling back a little when she objects, and the bursts of passion you said you do. It all comes with practice my friend. ull get it.

P.s If a woman has come back to your place after an interaction sex is definately on her mind. And unless she straight up say's NO! she is usually open to it IF SHE SAYS NO THEN STOP!!!!. If she does not take to your advances or does not like what she is doing she will leave. (which is why you must also frame and give the impression subtley that she can leave at any time. if she feels as though she cant leave she will be uncomfortable)

Cheers, The Tool

 

[Verisimilitude]

Thanks guys. I've sorta realized this is just a step towards the next level of seduction. What about if its at her place? I've gotten the, "You can leave if you want" thing from her, and I think there's more power for her if I'm at her place.

 

[The Tool]

Indeed, there is alot of power on her end if your at her place. But if she wants you to leave she will tell you to leave. Not ask.

 

[Chase]

Runner-

Like Tool says, using sexual humor and innuendo (chase frames, sexual frames) will help you out substantially. You also want to be focused on creating and maintaining a sexual vibe and sexual tension. The more she smells sexuality on you, the less you'll tend to get resistance, because she knew what you were all about from the get-go - not to mention that it feels completely natural when you start escalating, because it fits with her expectations of you.

What about if its at her place? I've gotten the, "You can leave if you want" thing from her, and I think there's more power for her if I'm at her place.

When you get this, say, "Oh, and here I thought I was your prisoner," and then just continue on with the conversation as if she hadn't said anything.

Chase