What was your limiting belief? And have you overcome it?

[Estate]

Alright guys, maybe an interesting one?
Tons of discussion on here this past week about limiting/crippling/unhealthy beliefs which can go as far as crippling you when it comes to meeting women.

Since a few of the newer guys have expressed that seeing, or at least knowing about people who've overcome similar things they believed limited their potential, would help them push through.
Here's a little challenge, would you guys like to share 1 limiting belief or challenge you've had, and give just a few sentences about it. Have you overcome it and what helped you? Are you still working through it but what's inspiring you?

I can give one that I had:
- I am naturally, shy, quiet, introverted... only loud popular party guys get hot women. (the frat guy a lot of threads have spoken about lately)

- This is from a long time ago. I've overcome it mainly through persistence and pushing through some pain of having to come out of my shell over the past 10 years gradually.
I thought I had to change COMPLETELY to be like these other guys, be loud and aggressive, center of attention. And I felt it was such a shift from who I naturally am, that I couldn't do it.
What helped was a few things. I took traits from both sides. I can use my more introverted side to appear a little cooler and calmer, being able to have good conversation without being braggy or loud but I combined it with practicing the confidence these guys had, standing up straight, taking up space, manly posture, strong eye contact, firm handshake, more deliberate facial expressions, less passive, etc.

Basically taking a lot of good "manly" fundamentals from the "popular" guys. But combining it with a lower key vibe that was more "me".
The problem before was that my quietness was projecting outward as being shy or awkward maybe. Even though I really wasn't all that shy, just not loud or a big talker. The fundamentals meant everything, I think I project a more manly vibe now.

On the other hand, I never became the loud, life of the party type of guy. That's why PUA never clicked for me years ago. It seemed like I had to be so "out there". I was watching videos of Mystery and MeHow and guys like that. It just wasn't me. When I found Girls Chase, it put me on the right track. Chase uses James Bond as a persona to emulate in a lot of his writing. THAT is what's worked for me. Strong fundamentals to project a masculine vibe but still being able to maintain my true self in not being loud or overly talkative when I don't want. But now I feel I can make my words more powerful. It's been a wild but fantastically life changing journey.

 

[Smurf]

Definitely jealousy right now.

I'm actually doing a lot better since I started reading 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, because of the attitudes it emphasizes on yourself. It's still slightly an issue and I do scapegoat some of my failures sometimes on the attractiveness or in my case supposed lack therof. I'm getting over it as I'm focusing on my own journey and process, and letting my friends be a source of inspiration rather than a source of envy.

Jake.

 

[Big Daddy]

Not being jacked.

I'm working on it right now, but I used to think that I couldn't fuck a girl unless I was jacked. I mean, I still want to be jacked because that's a goal I had even before I decided I wanted to be good with girls -- and maybe that's the reason I became quite fixated to this idea -- but then I realized that there are skinny, fat, ugly, bald and all kinds of "fucked up" dudes doing better with women than I was (or am).

So I had no excuses not to be at least as good as they are during the meantime I pack some serious muscle. This is a work in progress.

 

[Smith]

Mine was looks too and that "white girls don't like asian guys". I remember in the beginning when I started learning seduction, I would quickly blame my looks for any rejection. Glad I found GC and started watching Tyler's video, otherwise, I could be on a different road right now lol

I use positive affirmation a lot. Pretty much brainwash myself every day, until I have the experience to back it up lol Once I have an experience that prove my liming belief was bs, I hold onto it and burn that feeling into my memory. It even works too if you have any bitterness towards any person. Just a few weeks ago, I developed a feeling of hate towards my tutor because she was being too harsh and didn't "understand my situation". I noticed this was a form of victim mentality and quickly came up with a positive affirmation to replace it. Then the next few days, I started interacting positively with her and I like her as my tutor now. I see this in my classmates as well, when a tutor becomes too harsh on them and didn't "understand them". They started acting hostile towards that person, while that person is sweet and kind towards others. Now replace the word "tutor" with "attractive girls". Same thing I love how learning seduction helps other areas of your life.