Forewarning: This is a lengthy post. Also, I know that some advice directed my way will be to get over my "one-itis" but in this case I'm not actually interested in that, at least now. I would really like to maintain a connection and build rapport with this particular girl, so please keep advice limited to how to do this.
On Saturday night I met this one girl (let's call her Sarah) at a dinner party. So, a little backstory on Sarah. We both sort of knew of each other beforehand through mutual acquaintances. However, she lives about 350 miles away from me. Also, there are other things about her profession, specifically, that make her particularly compatible with me, but I won't mention exactly what those things are, for fear of giving out too much information.
Anyway, she was very forward about wanting to talk to me specifically at the party (there were several other guys at the party who could have been eligible candidates). We chitchatted a little bit, and one of the topics that came up was the fact that I'd never been to the state where she lives; she insisted I had to visit sometime, and listed off a litany of reasons, one of which was the fact that the state she lives in has the highest amount of strip clubs per capita in the US (this will become relevant later). Moving on, I've always been a good dancer, but I'd never really cut loose in public before, but I wasn't going to let this opportunity pass me by and I took her out on the dance floor and laid it down, no reservations or anything. Between the dinner party and an after party at a dance club where we partied with another couple, we danced for 3.5 hours straight. I could tell she was definitely digging it.
The next day our text conversation went like this:
ME: Hey Sarah, great hanging out with you last night.
SARAH: Hey thanks. How're you feeling this am? Haha oh man... You cut a mean rug Joe. That was a lot of fun
SARAH: Hey send those pics too from the party.
ME: Well, no headache, so that's good! Yeah that was a lot of fun . . . learned a few moves from ya. (Sent pictures of us together)
SARAH: Sweet thanks Joe! Yeah I feel pretty good too, probably all that dancing worked it out of our system
ME: Yeah for sure. Hey we need to get the dancing video too from [other couple we were hanging out with].
SARAH: Mind if I post one on social media? Not the video.. but the picture lol. I've got the video, I'll send it your way
ME: Yeah the video's a little too raunchy for FB haha. No prob on the pics.
SARAH: (Sends me video) It's good
ME: Haha nice. Hey have you had breakfast yet or are you heading back south already?
SARAH: Heading south on the Amtrak now, otherwise I'd say let's grab a bite. I'll give you a shout next time I'm coming to town.
ME: Sounds good . . . safe travels and good luck on your exam tomorrow!
SARAH: Yeah thanks Joe, I'll pull it out somehow! Safe travels to you as well
And then the next day:
SARAH: Hey Joe, what were the names of the couple we were hanging out with on Saturday?
ME: Hey Sarah, how'd you make out on your test? It was X and Y.
SARAH: Not really sure how I pulled that one out, but I managed to ace it! Turned out to be the icing on the cake after this weekend. I'll look up X and Y, I accidentally grabbed someone's shirt out of the back when they dropped me off. Thanks Joe. Are you back at the grind too or do you have some time to hit the slopes?
ME: Good job. Went hunting today, going to try and hit the slopes here sometime this week. Back to the grind next Monday though.
SARAH: Well good Joe, gotta balance that work/relaxation time. Hopefully I'll make it out sometime this winter break, it's on the list.
ME: Yeah I'm looking forward to it. Was thinking about hitting [ski mountain near where she lives] this week but it's looking like there's not much snow there yet.
SARAH: I think it's necessary that your first ever trip to [state where she lives] include me... Ya know, I did have to try and talk you into it and all... Haha. But really, I don't know if you're so busy you can't get away for a couple days here or there... I get done with finals that second week of December. If it works out, let's hit the mountain, either here or up your way.
ME: Well I was expecting you to be my tour guide in the mountains, not just the strip clubs haha. Anyway, I'll be outta commission at work until late December so we'll play it by ear around then.
SARAH: Hahaha!! Oh man, well...to be honest, I probably know my way around the strip clubs even a little better lol
SARAH: Right on. Okay I'll be keeping in touch.
ME: Wow, I don't know whether that's good or bad haha. Anyway, sounds good. TTYL Sarah.
SARAH: I'd say it's probably a little bit of both talk to you later Joe, have a good night
END TEXT CONVERSATION
So, I'm just wondering what I should do to keep her interest level up while I'm away at work for about a month. I've read Chase's article about texting and not being the "Endless Boring Questions Guy," the "Endless Conversation Guy," or the "Really Interesting Guy," and instead just use texting basically as a way to set up logistics for dates/meeting up. However, due to my unique situation with work, I would like to find a way to keep the interest up. Would it be enough to just occasionally like/comment her social media posts, or add her on Snapchat, etc? Or should I just go silent until I get back? I don't have cell service where I work but I do get wifi, so FB, Snapchat, email, etc will work. I'm thinking before I go to work I could just shoot her a quick text saying something like, "Hey, Sarah, heading out to work today. Shall we plan on right after Christmas hitting the mountains in your neck of the woods?"
Anyway, sorry for the length of the post, but if I could get any advice on how to keep her interest level up and also some opinions on what her interest level is currently, that'd be great.
On Saturday night I met this one girl (let's call her Sarah) at a dinner party. So, a little backstory on Sarah. We both sort of knew of each other beforehand through mutual acquaintances. However, she lives about 350 miles away from me. Also, there are other things about her profession, specifically, that make her particularly compatible with me, but I won't mention exactly what those things are, for fear of giving out too much information.
Anyway, she was very forward about wanting to talk to me specifically at the party (there were several other guys at the party who could have been eligible candidates). We chitchatted a little bit, and one of the topics that came up was the fact that I'd never been to the state where she lives; she insisted I had to visit sometime, and listed off a litany of reasons, one of which was the fact that the state she lives in has the highest amount of strip clubs per capita in the US (this will become relevant later). Moving on, I've always been a good dancer, but I'd never really cut loose in public before, but I wasn't going to let this opportunity pass me by and I took her out on the dance floor and laid it down, no reservations or anything. Between the dinner party and an after party at a dance club where we partied with another couple, we danced for 3.5 hours straight. I could tell she was definitely digging it.
The next day our text conversation went like this:
ME: Hey Sarah, great hanging out with you last night.
SARAH: Hey thanks. How're you feeling this am? Haha oh man... You cut a mean rug Joe. That was a lot of fun
SARAH: Hey send those pics too from the party.
ME: Well, no headache, so that's good! Yeah that was a lot of fun . . . learned a few moves from ya. (Sent pictures of us together)
SARAH: Sweet thanks Joe! Yeah I feel pretty good too, probably all that dancing worked it out of our system
ME: Yeah for sure. Hey we need to get the dancing video too from [other couple we were hanging out with].
SARAH: Mind if I post one on social media? Not the video.. but the picture lol. I've got the video, I'll send it your way
ME: Yeah the video's a little too raunchy for FB haha. No prob on the pics.
SARAH: (Sends me video) It's good
ME: Haha nice. Hey have you had breakfast yet or are you heading back south already?
SARAH: Heading south on the Amtrak now, otherwise I'd say let's grab a bite. I'll give you a shout next time I'm coming to town.
ME: Sounds good . . . safe travels and good luck on your exam tomorrow!
SARAH: Yeah thanks Joe, I'll pull it out somehow! Safe travels to you as well
And then the next day:
SARAH: Hey Joe, what were the names of the couple we were hanging out with on Saturday?
ME: Hey Sarah, how'd you make out on your test? It was X and Y.
SARAH: Not really sure how I pulled that one out, but I managed to ace it! Turned out to be the icing on the cake after this weekend. I'll look up X and Y, I accidentally grabbed someone's shirt out of the back when they dropped me off. Thanks Joe. Are you back at the grind too or do you have some time to hit the slopes?
ME: Good job. Went hunting today, going to try and hit the slopes here sometime this week. Back to the grind next Monday though.
SARAH: Well good Joe, gotta balance that work/relaxation time. Hopefully I'll make it out sometime this winter break, it's on the list.
ME: Yeah I'm looking forward to it. Was thinking about hitting [ski mountain near where she lives] this week but it's looking like there's not much snow there yet.
SARAH: I think it's necessary that your first ever trip to [state where she lives] include me... Ya know, I did have to try and talk you into it and all... Haha. But really, I don't know if you're so busy you can't get away for a couple days here or there... I get done with finals that second week of December. If it works out, let's hit the mountain, either here or up your way.
ME: Well I was expecting you to be my tour guide in the mountains, not just the strip clubs haha. Anyway, I'll be outta commission at work until late December so we'll play it by ear around then.
SARAH: Hahaha!! Oh man, well...to be honest, I probably know my way around the strip clubs even a little better lol
SARAH: Right on. Okay I'll be keeping in touch.
ME: Wow, I don't know whether that's good or bad haha. Anyway, sounds good. TTYL Sarah.
SARAH: I'd say it's probably a little bit of both
talk to you later Joe, have a good nightEND TEXT CONVERSATION
So, I'm just wondering what I should do to keep her interest level up while I'm away at work for about a month. I've read Chase's article about texting and not being the "Endless Boring Questions Guy," the "Endless Conversation Guy," or the "Really Interesting Guy," and instead just use texting basically as a way to set up logistics for dates/meeting up. However, due to my unique situation with work, I would like to find a way to keep the interest up. Would it be enough to just occasionally like/comment her social media posts, or add her on Snapchat, etc? Or should I just go silent until I get back? I don't have cell service where I work but I do get wifi, so FB, Snapchat, email, etc will work. I'm thinking before I go to work I could just shoot her a quick text saying something like, "Hey, Sarah, heading out to work today. Shall we plan on right after Christmas hitting the mountains in your neck of the woods?"
Anyway, sorry for the length of the post, but if I could get any advice on how to keep her interest level up and also some opinions on what her interest level is currently, that'd be great.
