Whats the background behind getting hit on by certain girls?

[AdamEngineer]

So more often than not when I get actively hit on by girls or checked out, why do the girls within the 5-7 range make it obvious or generally make the first move on me but girls 8 and up generally don't reveal their interest or make first moves, despite having some girls 8 and up whom are interested when I make the first move?

When I went out last Saturday, I did dance with an "8" when she backed into me while snapping her friends. It was a clear proximity move that I picked up. However she ended up walking back to her friends without saying anything after a short while.

Why do less attractive girls (confident or unconfident) make more moves on guys than very attractive girls, even though very attractive girls have more guaranteed selection?

If I get hit on by 5-7s consistently when I do get hit on, am I stuck within this range of girls?

Please note I do not like the idea of numbering girls attractive level as I think its petty but for sake of argument. Girls whom are 5-7 aren't exactly not attractive they just are a different level. I find that the attractiveness of women can be graphed like a SQRT(X) function as X approaches 10, where there is little difference between 8 and 9 and lesser between 9 and 10, with no such thing as a perfect 10.

 

[Fuck This]

Less attractive women usually have higher self esteem and confidence.
They don't rely on their looks to attract men. Instead they have "good personalities"
Uber-attractive women get unsolicited and unwelcome approaches frequently so they expect to be approached more.
These same women are used to seeing men become uncomfortable from nervousness and feel they have a hand up in the power dynamic.
Less attractive women tend to operate from a perspective of "not having anything to lose, while the more attractive women are outcome dependant.
Being outgoing tends to raise a woman's perceived attractiveness since it strokes the man's ego. Less attractive women know this and use it to their advantage.

What these women realize is attraction is about how you make people FEEL. If you make people feel loved, valued, admired they will be attracted to the dopamine dump that you provide. That's why Love Bombing works.

 

[AdamEngineer]

Ok, so you make a great point.

But do these less attractive girls (although in my case are still cute) are consciously aware of this thing you claim? Or is it like they have to work a little more since men won't approach them as often? What you say makes sense, but you say it as if they're thinking this. They may compare themselves to other girls but ironically enough, the average looking girls (5-7) in my opinion make great female friends, as they have great personalities and are very confident.

For attractive girls, they know they're attractive, but why still not have the confidence? Why not take that and use it to their advantage? If they get hit on all the time, they can choose and not worry about the outcome. But I was always told attractive girls rarely get hit on since most guys are afraid to make the first move.

What the heck is love bombing?

 

[Fuck This]

Ok, so you make a great point.

But do these less attractive girls (although in my case are still cute) are consciously aware of this thing you claim? Or is it like they have to work a little more since men won't approach them as often? What you say makes sense, but you say it as if they're thinking this. They may compare themselves to other girls but ironically enough, the average looking girls (5-7) in my opinion make great female friends, as they have great personalities and are very confident.

For attractive girls, they know they're attractive, but why still not have the confidence? Why not take that and use it to their advantage? If they get hit on all the time, they can choose and not worry about the outcome. But I was always told attractive girls rarely get hit on since most guys are afraid to make the first move.

What the heck is love bombing?

[quote]Love bombing is an attempt to influence a person by demonstrations of attention and affection. It can be used in different ways and can be used for either a positive or negative purpose. Members of the Unification Church of the United States (who reportedly coined the expression) use it to convey a genuine expression of friendship, fellowship, interest, or concern.[1] Critics of cults use the phrase with the implication that the "love" is feigned and that the practice is psychological manipulation in order to create a feeling of unity within the group against a society perceived as hostile.[2] Psychologists have identified love bombing as a possible part of a cycle of abuse and have warned against it. In 2011 clinical psychologist Oliver James advocated love bombing in his book Love Bombing: Reset Your Child's Emotional Thermostat, as a means for parents to rectify emotional problems in their children.[3]


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