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This weekend, I had an outing to a new spot around 1am on Friday, aiming for a lively street with open bars, food spots, and maybe a DJ, vibrant but not too late or early. I decided not to enter one club, which felt like the right call. While hanging outside, I saw a fight break out and wondered if the cops would use a baton (or “billy club,” as some call it for laughs). Just saw people yelling at each other the police handcuffing.
Two girls approached me, which was unexpected since girls don’t often make the first move in some places. My "target" tapped me on the shoulder sitting behind me, her friend was bold and flirty, my target acted more reserved but engaged, and she initiated the conversation. She was the more attractive one, and we used her phone’s translator to chat since it worked better than mine. I kept my phone use minimal. After about 5 minutes in, both girls kissed me on the cheek, a rare occurrence, usually, not two showing interest at once. It felt like there might’ve been potential for more, maybe even a threesome vibe. If I kissed them back, I think I would of lost the meta frame. I feel like the friend was more horny and higher chance of being pulled, she was the one that kept complimenting me "you're a beautiful men" and etc, while my target approached me. if I escalated I thinkI would lost the "target" who opened.
I missed a step by not escalating physically, despite having chances. I’ve been playing it too cool lately and noted I need to establish a stronger sexual frame, like going for a kiss. The friend wasn’t jealous and handled not being the focus well, which surprised me. I kept her included so she didn’t feel left out. My target and I had moments of isolation, 5-10 minutes, where I should’ve kissed her. She set pre-frames, saying she wasn’t “easy,” which I understood, their cheek kiss set a light sexual tone. I hesitated, and now I know I should’ve acted.
Good thing I walked around a bit prior, to formalize myself with the place, I took them to get some nicotine cigarettes, we were at the store and leading consistency
We regrouped and sat on a bench, chatting until sunrise. Over four hours, they got approached by other guys at least five times, even with me there, showing how often girls deal with that. My target's friend approached an older guy, late 40s, joined us, talking to the friend, while I focused on my target. Some creepy dudes tried chatting her up, which was annoying, but my girl pushed them away. To test her interest, I left for the bathroom for 10 minutes, and she was still there when I returned, a good sign she liked me.
As the night wound down, place got trashy, too many aggressive guys, bad ratio, typical of NONE high-entry bar scenes after closing. I moved us to another spot, the vibe was fading. I debated buying her a taxi home since the metro wouldn’t run for another hour. I didn’t want to seem like a “walking wallet,” I paid for it to wrap things up, as the mood was dying and I didn’t want to "overstay my welcome". I could’ve let them wait 30 minutes for the metro
After getting home, I check her past stories, I found out, I was her type, but it's so funny they try to play it off like they don't know shit about it, LMAO
I think this incidence is when the sex talk and "reframing" comes in handle where you need to not only lead physical and mentally, because "HER" pre frame was there and I feel like I need to break it.
next day, she likely woke up in the afternoon and spotted me walking near the same venues. I didn’t get into two places rejected me, one for not allowing solos, other because my ID wasn’t “correct.” It was annoying, and I had to find workarounds since these aren’t typical walk in spots. My mood shit afterward, so I returned to the same rough spot, but it was shit this Saturday had way fewer people than Friday, and I wasn’t in the mood to keep pushing, so I called it a night. When I got home, she texted me, saying she saw me and playfully called me out for “lying” or dodging her. I get why some guys avoid a spot after hooking up, it’s either a “cops and robbers” vibe where you feel chased, or you don’t want to waste time on a lead that might fizzle, or wrong time to pursue it, I could’ve tried to pull her that day, but my head wasn’t in it, so I let it go. I’ll see how to get her out again, after deflecting her accusations, I invited to come over, she said she had sore throat, to build on this, and next time, I’ll be more decisive and escalate faster
Two girls approached me, which was unexpected since girls don’t often make the first move in some places. My "target" tapped me on the shoulder sitting behind me, her friend was bold and flirty, my target acted more reserved but engaged, and she initiated the conversation. She was the more attractive one, and we used her phone’s translator to chat since it worked better than mine. I kept my phone use minimal. After about 5 minutes in, both girls kissed me on the cheek, a rare occurrence, usually, not two showing interest at once. It felt like there might’ve been potential for more, maybe even a threesome vibe. If I kissed them back, I think I would of lost the meta frame. I feel like the friend was more horny and higher chance of being pulled, she was the one that kept complimenting me "you're a beautiful men" and etc, while my target approached me. if I escalated I thinkI would lost the "target" who opened.
I missed a step by not escalating physically, despite having chances. I’ve been playing it too cool lately and noted I need to establish a stronger sexual frame, like going for a kiss. The friend wasn’t jealous and handled not being the focus well, which surprised me. I kept her included so she didn’t feel left out. My target and I had moments of isolation, 5-10 minutes, where I should’ve kissed her. She set pre-frames, saying she wasn’t “easy,” which I understood, their cheek kiss set a light sexual tone. I hesitated, and now I know I should’ve acted.
Good thing I walked around a bit prior, to formalize myself with the place, I took them to get some nicotine cigarettes, we were at the store and leading consistency
We regrouped and sat on a bench, chatting until sunrise. Over four hours, they got approached by other guys at least five times, even with me there, showing how often girls deal with that. My target's friend approached an older guy, late 40s, joined us, talking to the friend, while I focused on my target. Some creepy dudes tried chatting her up, which was annoying, but my girl pushed them away. To test her interest, I left for the bathroom for 10 minutes, and she was still there when I returned, a good sign she liked me.
As the night wound down, place got trashy, too many aggressive guys, bad ratio, typical of NONE high-entry bar scenes after closing. I moved us to another spot, the vibe was fading. I debated buying her a taxi home since the metro wouldn’t run for another hour. I didn’t want to seem like a “walking wallet,” I paid for it to wrap things up, as the mood was dying and I didn’t want to "overstay my welcome". I could’ve let them wait 30 minutes for the metro
After getting home, I check her past stories, I found out, I was her type, but it's so funny they try to play it off like they don't know shit about it, LMAO
I think this incidence is when the sex talk and "reframing" comes in handle where you need to not only lead physical and mentally, because "HER" pre frame was there and I feel like I need to break it.
next day, she likely woke up in the afternoon and spotted me walking near the same venues. I didn’t get into two places rejected me, one for not allowing solos, other because my ID wasn’t “correct.” It was annoying, and I had to find workarounds since these aren’t typical walk in spots. My mood shit afterward, so I returned to the same rough spot, but it was shit this Saturday had way fewer people than Friday, and I wasn’t in the mood to keep pushing, so I called it a night. When I got home, she texted me, saying she saw me and playfully called me out for “lying” or dodging her. I get why some guys avoid a spot after hooking up, it’s either a “cops and robbers” vibe where you feel chased, or you don’t want to waste time on a lead that might fizzle, or wrong time to pursue it, I could’ve tried to pull her that day, but my head wasn’t in it, so I let it go. I’ll see how to get her out again, after deflecting her accusations, I invited to come over, she said she had sore throat, to build on this, and next time, I’ll be more decisive and escalate faster
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