When asked "Do you drink?" if you don't!

[Virgin101]

Let's face it, some girls need an excuse to justify acting slutty, and if alcohol is this excuse (and if I was sure that was the reason she was asking), then the least I could do is say "yes of course" and give her the impression that I'm lowering my own guard a bit too.

In theory the answer to my question would be that one shouldn't have to lie to try and impress someone who probably you view as inferior. However, I think this might be an exception... especially giving that I'm living in Ireland! You don't want the girl to feel that you're looking down on her for drinking too much. She might also presume that you're no fun.

Responses I've given before to "Why don't you drink?" the times I answered honestly:

• "does there have to be a reason?"
  "it's too easy"
  "because I'm no fun" (as sarcasm)
  "because my life isn't that boring yet"

I might have sounded a bit defensive with two of those. But I think context is key to such a question -and the context will always be changing and may make it difficult to know whether I should lie or not. I think maybe, if a girl suspects you're no fun, then saying 'no' mightn't bode well for you. However, if you've proved you're fun, a 'no' answer could work in your favour - in which case she might have been less likely to ask anyway.

Was it Joe Jackson who had a song called "All good things in life are bad for you" referring to drink, drugs and smoking. It made me think he's kinda wrong, because sex ian't bad for you! - and all the good things he's referring to, aren't challenging to acquire. It's a different kind of a problem I could face, because God be darned if I can't get the only one I want because I'm not stupid enough engage in the others!

 

[Fuck This]

Well what is your reason and why do you feel self conscious for stating it?

You can say it was a conscious decision you made,and you would be happy to discuss it later privately.

 

[Lover]

"I have caught a chronic cold that forbids me to drink alcohol" *wink and then sneeze on them*

But seriously, I have told people I don't drink because of my health, and they are usually understandable. I'm in a country also in Europe known for drinking way too excessivly. People usually respect me for my decision rather than thinking I'm being personal and belittling them.

 

[Virgin101]

Thanks Rock

Well what is your reason and why do you feel self conscious for stating it?

I think I made it clear in the post. I'm not self conscious about it, i.e, I answer honestly to guys. And if I get any passive aggressive attitude about my choice, I can easily make them look like a fool. However, when it comes to the girls, it's not about winning. I could perhaps give vague answers, rather than qualifying to her questions. But yeah, nothing really more to say about it.

 

[Smurf]

I had this issue bad about 1 1/2 years ago. I'd feel superior to people and I'd make them auto reject because I was too aloof. I found its better to bring myself down a notch in the whole superiority complex. For me it stemmed from a defense mechanism. So when I was acting superior, I was in reality inferior because I had my walls up.

Try and connect with those who drink. See what they're like, what motivated them. This is difficult but worth it. It stops a lot of auto rejection because people feel you have walls up and that they aren't worth your time.

Jake.

 

[Virgin101]

Maybe you're not self conscious about it Virgin but those answers are definitely acting defensive.

Are you very sarcastic and possibly passive aggressive in you interactions?

In your interactions are you usually in the mindset that you're better or higher value than the people you interact with? I feel like this is so from the posts I've seen from you.

If so, why is that? Do you feel like that way you are higher "value" than them or it makes you look cool?


Cool people don't do that; try hards do. By the way you interact you're probably not that socially attuned and you're trying to have this very cool, suave, and in control vibe?

If your goal is being cool, like James Bond. Then read this here. https://www.girlschase.com/content/how- ... ss-formula


And cut out the negative stuff bro. It ain't bringing you nothing but nothing.


And if I am wrong and you're not any of the things I mentioned above then apologies lol!!!

Slay

There's nothing wrong with thinking you're of higher value, as long as you don't feel the need to show it in a condescending manner. In fact, you could say that one needs to demonstrate higher value to seduce her. Let's face it, if you are higher value, you'll know it. However, one desiring to feel that he's of higher value is a different thing! which is what you're getting at. Now what if a girl presumed that I thought I was better than her merely because I didn't drink? (regardless of how I'd answer it).

Let's disregard who's of higher value. You didn't really address the dilemma (as I understand it to be) of the thread.