When chicks insult you cuz stereotypes...

[Spyce D]

So , it happened with me for the first time .
So , during cold approaching last night , I met these 2 chicks with my wing .

These chicks , when I told them about my province/state , started stereotyping me .

And our ethnic stereotypes are that of macho ,. Brutish , loud .

And even though , they themselves said that I looked nothing like the stereotypes but STILL I MUST HAVE INFLUENCE ON MY MENTALITY.

I.e. I still would be very conservative.

Never had this experience before .

So , didn't say anything.

I am thinking , I could have handled it smartly by asking them if all of the people of their ethnicity are the same , or do you like to judge people you meet ..
Or stereotypes are basically stereotypes , who cares .

Now , it's wasnt nationality stereotype but ethnic one ....which I never experienced in my life , personally .

Note : They didn't leave me just cuz of my ethnicity ....it was because I couldn't handle their shit test .

 

[Police dog]

You can always do it the “Eminem style” (if you watched 8 mile), just in a positive way. That’s what I do quite often in the very beginning of interactions. Assuming you are Indian I would be surprised if an average person outside of your country would know provinces of that country let alone have any stereotypes about them. If they are from India as well then you probably know better how to handle them than other people here.

 

[Spyce D]

You can always do it the “Eminem style” (if you watched 8 mile), just in a positive way. That’s what I do quite often in the very beginning of interactions. Assuming you are Indian I would be surprised if an average person outside of your country would know provinces of that country let alone have any stereotypes about them. If they are from India as well then you probably know better how to handle them than other people here.

I see . Yup , those chicks were india only .
But , different state .

That's why I might these lines if something similar happens next time .

-if all of the people of their ethnicity are the same ,

-do you like to judge people you meet ..

stereotypes are basically stereotypes , who cares .

 

[Spyce D]

Update :


I am glad it happened .

Realised it was not just stereotyping but also the fact that they were insulting me that's why I went into auto-rejection and had zero desire to engage with them .

It's just that I was there with my wing and those 2 chicks so didn't wanted to leave my wing .

Initially , I had thought that I got hung up on topics but now thinking back it was actually the opposite , those chicks were hung up on the issue of my province/ state.


When the 2nd chick got to know about my province, her facial
Expressions were like

Even worse than those .

And the funny part is the hotter chicks initially assumed that I was from their province .

Basically , since they got to know about my province .... they went to make a lot of assumptions and insulting remarks which I
Wasn't prepared for .

Never faced anything like this before .

But , now I have a lot of ways through
Which I can handle these kind of situations in future .

So , thankyou for your insults .

Take care.

Note : the funny thing is they couldn't guess my ethnicity right even after 3 guesses , but still judged me on the parameters of those 3 ethnicities ( I am none of them lol ) .

So , they gave up and simply asked me about my community.

I - why should I tell you about it .

Man ! I just had no desire left for them .

Still , stayed there for my wing .

But those chicks ended leaving us abruptly after like 5 -10 minutes .

Such experience .

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I could have handled it but I got really pissed inside . Still stayed calm on the outside .

But it was exception .

Who cares .

Well , I did ....but now feel free .

 

[Spyce D]

Edit : I changed the title from " dealing with stereotypes " to the current one .


Note : I don't hate those chicks . I believe it was great coz they showed me the chinks in my armour . And gave me many chances to prove them wrong but I was deep into auto - rejection . Lol

God ! I love them

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

The more you approach, the more confident you get talking to random girls and you start laughing at/countering their bullshit.

I’m starting to get past this myself recently.

Today, a hired gun at the mall offered to give me her instagram.

I just laughed at her and said “that is bullshit”

And she ended up giving me her number

But yeah if a girl offends you, it can fuck up your state and make it hard to stay dominant.

Happened to me on a date yesterday.

I think just experience + self esteem will fix most issues dealing with shit tests

Currently working on those myself.

I recommend CBT therapy if you want increase your self esteem. There are plenty of free resources online for it if you don’t want a therapist and it is a very accredited form of therapy.

I recommend “feeling good” by David burns you can find a free pdf of it online, it has its own homework assignments and research has found that those who do the exercises in the book have significant (I think 66%) chance of improving symptoms.

 

[Spyce D]

The more you approach, the more confident you get talking to random girls and you start laughing at/countering their bullshit.

True man .

But yeah if a girl offends you, it can fuck up your state and make it hard to stay dominant.

Has happened with me last year too . I believe that some chicks like to judge your character by insulting you , they ain't rude with everybody , not even
With below average guys .

They may wanna see if I am man enough to handle them .but it's easier said than done .

I think just experience + self esteem will fix most issues dealing with shit tests

I hope so .

When I am in the flow , I would say anything and chicks would eat it up .

E.g. I opened this 2 chicks with direct opener ( the hotter one obviously ) ( the other one was chubby ) .

Chubby said that they were in relationship .

I asked " with eachother " ( banter)

They replied affirmatively and laughing


I - Hey ! Maybe we can have a love triangle . ( Sly +
Some laugh)

They ate it up but left being really happy .

So , self esteem needs to be worked on .

I admit I have low self esteem .

recommend CBT therapy if you want increase your self esteem. There are plenty of free resources online for it if you don’t want a therapist and it is a very accredited form of therapy.

Sure man .

Actually , I did CBT to get rid of my phone/ smartphone addiction .

Currently working on those myself.

Hope you find success.

I recommend “feeling good” by David burns you can find a free pdf of it online, it has its own homework assignments and research has found that those who do the exercises in the book have significant (I think 66%) chance of improving symptoms.

Thanks man .

Will check it out .


I actually wasn't expecting any other reply on this thread . So , thankyou for such a detailed post .

 

[Chase]

@Spyce D,

Agree & amplify:

HER: OMG, you're from THAT province? Home of the macho, brutish, oafish men?​

​

YOU: That's right. You know my last girlfriend I actually clubbed her over the head and I dragged her back to my cave, and then I IMMEDIATELY made her start cooking for my entire family and my other two girlfriends. That's just how we do it over there!​

Honestly, "OMG, you mean to say that you are manly?" seems like the kind of thing that is only going to benefit you assuming you can get past the initial "ZOMG can't believe it" autopilot response she's had programmed in.

You just need to break past the autopilot. Amplifying to absurdity is a great way to do so.

Chase

 

[Spyce D]

@Spyce D,

Agree & amplify:

HER: OMG, you're from THAT province? Home of the macho, brutish, oafish men?​

​

YOU: That's right. You know my last girlfriend I actually clubbed her over the head and I dragged her back to my cave, and then I IMMEDIATELY made her start cooking for my entire family and my other two girlfriends. That's just how we do it over there!​

Honestly, "OMG, you mean to say that you are manly?" seems like the kind of thing that is only going to benefit you assuming you can get past the initial "ZOMG can't believe it" autopilot response she's had programmed in.

You just need to break past the autopilot. Amplifying to absurdity is a great way to do so.

Chase

Ya , I think I can use it .

It happens rarely and it was first time in Daygame .

Even tho , I don't fit in the stereotype ... It still get it once in a blue moon .

I know this stereotype can actually help me if I can just leverage it right .

Coz , stereotype is somewhat true for me too .



I just do the black Jeff / white Jeff thing .

But unlike him , I always time it right

 

[Spyce D]

Right now , I am reading up stereotypes of many provinces + other countries.

May come handy if used with verbal game .