When does persistence with a girl turn into chasing?

[perpetualsun]

Hey everyone!

I notice that Chase has a tendency to talk about persistence. However, I am not sure when persistence will turn into chasing. For example, right now there is a girl in my class I am trying to get with.

First time I asked her out, she was about to run so she gave me her phone number. I asked her out over text, which she complete ignored. The next time, I asked her out in person, then she flaked on me today by saying an hour before hand she had homework due.

Then, after class, she seemed to want to escape rather fast from class.

At this point, I am really confused because she is a rather shy chinese girl. How can I tell her flaking and ignoring is not due to disinterest but rather shyness?

Also, should I even bother to contact her again or just move on? Thanks guy!!

 

[trashKENNUT]

perpetualsun,

I notice that Chase has a tendency to talk about persistence. However, I am not sure when persistence will turn into chasing. For example, right now there is a girl in my class I am trying to get with.

First time I asked her out, she was about to run so she gave me her phone number. I asked her out over text, which she complete ignored. The next time, I asked her out in person, then she flaked on me today by saying an hour before hand she had homework due.

Then, after class, she seemed to want to escape rather fast from class.

At this point, I am really confused because she is a rather shy chinese girl. How can I tell her flaking and ignoring is not due to disinterest but rather shyness?

Also, should I even bother to contact her again or just move on? Thanks guy!!

Perhaps you might have scare her off. Shy girls, you tend to want to lessen the sexual vibe, or the "in your face" vibe. Don't react to her running away from you. Just be cool and keep a distant for a while before contacting her again.

Zac

 

[Estate]

Zac makes a good point.

It's not always actualyl that easy to read the difference in reality but you have to just get the "vibe" from her.
Sometimes she might make things harder for you for various reasons but she is still being quiet responsive to you.

When a girl begins to close off more it gets more like the auto-rejection thing that Chase talks about and this is when it turns to chasing.
In some ways she probably needs to think you aren't putting TOO much investment in it, when it comes across like she is your only option and you are trying desperately to get it, it comes off as chasing.

It seems to be a number of things.
I made this mistake lately myself. I had a short FWB situation going on. She was being quite receptive to me up to a point but then began to get flakey. When she did, I kept up some contact when I probably should have just let it go.
I misread the signals a little... it was on while she was being receptive but something changed with her and I decided to plough through and hope she'd become more receptive again. After I did that, nd she didn't really respond as well as previously, I felt I was chasing and just backed off. I have other options and don't want to be the one chasing if it's not going to happen.