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Hi there
I've written the details about this scenario in my journal, but I'll just give you the headlines here.
I had a situation some time ago at a post-semester party in my school where I was talking to this cute girl who approached me, and we were getting to know each other very well. We reached a point where I was ready to ask for her number and move on to meet other people at the party. Out of the blue, a female friend of mine interrupts, yelling my name and hugging me hard. I just stood there, looking at my female friend and saying hi, then looking back at the girl I was talking to with eyebrows raised and mouth in a straight line. My friend started asking how I was doing etc. While I had no clue how to control the situation, the first girl excuses that she has to go the bathroom, and I told her see you later. An hour later or so, I would be playing table football with two male friends and the same girl I had the conversation with earlier. My female friend interrupted again, making her leave once again when the game of table football ended (this time without any excuse.. she just left).
I had observed my female friend during the night, and she would stick to her male friends mostly, have a laugh with them and flirt with a few of them. My female friend also has a boyfriend, and they have been dating for.. 2 years I think.. but they don't see each other that often because she's busy studying and he's busy working (I've been told this by a mutual friend who's close to her).
My thoughts on this? She must have been after male attention just for the sake of male attention. But why she would interrupt my conversations the way she did is, I have no idea. However, I have recently thought of one event that might have pissed her off a year prior to this event (when I wasn't familiar with GC and pickup-communities).. back then we were conversating during another party, where the conversation turned to my facial hair and how handsome she thought it was. I knew she was seeing her boyfriend back then, and I simply said "let's just pretend I didn't hear that" and turning the conversation back to something .. well, boring. Back then, I thought that even talking to female friends about which traits we found physical attractive on each other was impossible and should be kept between people in a (or about to get into a) relationship. I never considered her mate-potential, and that's why I turned down her compliment the way I did.
I wanna ask two questions
- when my female friend interrupts physically (hugging me, thereby forcing me to break circle), how do you control the situation smoothly so that you can continue the conversation with the girl you were just getting so along with?
- could the behavior of my female friend at this recent party be correlated to the time where I turned down her compliment of my facial hair, and now she is using it against me? Or am I doing some serious bullshit-overanalyzation?
Thank you in advance
a-jay
I've written the details about this scenario in my journal, but I'll just give you the headlines here.
I had a situation some time ago at a post-semester party in my school where I was talking to this cute girl who approached me, and we were getting to know each other very well. We reached a point where I was ready to ask for her number and move on to meet other people at the party. Out of the blue, a female friend of mine interrupts, yelling my name and hugging me hard. I just stood there, looking at my female friend and saying hi, then looking back at the girl I was talking to with eyebrows raised and mouth in a straight line. My friend started asking how I was doing etc. While I had no clue how to control the situation, the first girl excuses that she has to go the bathroom, and I told her see you later. An hour later or so, I would be playing table football with two male friends and the same girl I had the conversation with earlier. My female friend interrupted again, making her leave once again when the game of table football ended (this time without any excuse.. she just left).
I had observed my female friend during the night, and she would stick to her male friends mostly, have a laugh with them and flirt with a few of them. My female friend also has a boyfriend, and they have been dating for.. 2 years I think.. but they don't see each other that often because she's busy studying and he's busy working (I've been told this by a mutual friend who's close to her).
My thoughts on this? She must have been after male attention just for the sake of male attention. But why she would interrupt my conversations the way she did is, I have no idea. However, I have recently thought of one event that might have pissed her off a year prior to this event (when I wasn't familiar with GC and pickup-communities).. back then we were conversating during another party, where the conversation turned to my facial hair and how handsome she thought it was. I knew she was seeing her boyfriend back then, and I simply said "let's just pretend I didn't hear that" and turning the conversation back to something .. well, boring. Back then, I thought that even talking to female friends about which traits we found physical attractive on each other was impossible and should be kept between people in a (or about to get into a) relationship. I never considered her mate-potential, and that's why I turned down her compliment the way I did.
I wanna ask two questions
- when my female friend interrupts physically (hugging me, thereby forcing me to break circle), how do you control the situation smoothly so that you can continue the conversation with the girl you were just getting so along with?
- could the behavior of my female friend at this recent party be correlated to the time where I turned down her compliment of my facial hair, and now she is using it against me? Or am I doing some serious bullshit-overanalyzation?
Thank you in advance
a-jay
