When girls act cold (bitch)

[sn350]

At times I would run into the same girls. Sometimes even more than once or twice. Some of them will turn very cold on me. Most of the time I can't even remember I even approached this girl once because I fucking approach a shit load of girls. I met the same cold girl today and another one last night. Both were very cold to me. I can't remember our interaction I can't even remember their names, but they sure as hell remembered mine!

It really got to me today I had to ask somebody on the forum.
I keep my cool and try to get her talking to me, but they will just get colder and walk faster away.
It's aggravating to know because I'm left clueless to who this girl is and she's so cold to me. I'm keeping my cool, but I want to know what the other guys out there on this forum would handle situations like this.

 

[Marty]

SN350,

I personally find this video absolutely excellent.

Don't worry if you don't do night game, neither do I, with a little imagination you can adapt this recommendation to any situation. Think on it. Come back if you need help.

-Marty

 

[sn350]

Nice video thanks! I've seen a few of kezia's video before but not this one

Have u ever taken a break from picking up girls?

Lately, I feel like taking a break won't be such a bad thing.

 

[Marty]

Have u ever taken a break from picking up girls?

Lately, I feel like taking a break won't be such a bad thing.

Yeah I have. See detailed commentary here.

 

[sn350]

Thanks Marty that was pretty helpful.

I think a 2~3 wk break should suffice for my first real break after 2.5 yrs of approaching girls on the street.

 

[Marty]

I think a 2~3 wk break should suffice for my first real break after 2.5 yrs of approaching girls on the street.

I certainly think you deserve it, my dear fellow... a well-earned break might be just what the doctor ordered I admire your tenacity, to keep going for 30 months without a breather. Wow. And on the street too.

Check this out as well, if you haven't already:

What to Do When Girls Act Superior, Rude, and Aloof

 

[Godsninja]

Yea we were talking about talking a break in another topic. Basically, if you're really getting out there as much as you say you are, it will be affecting your behavior, and girls can easily pick up on the fact that you're 'hunting'. Maybe read Chase's post on "love at first sight". Take a break and reboot, maybe even longer than 3 weeks, and while you're at it, look for the girls looking for you instead (in a REALLY calm way, don't look for girls, just sort of let it happen). As for the girls that are acting super cold, don't beat a dead horse! Don't try to make her feel a certain way, make yourself feel a certain way, have fun with yourself and you're abilities, just don't seek for external acceptance.

Tomi

 

[sn350]

The funny thing is... I never even before thought of taking an actual break. Till recently, when things just started to collapse on me. It's always been a roller coaster ride, but this time the downfall was getting a bit more over whelming. Girls were being a lot more cold, getting a lot of no-replies, when I would have a good interaction at first they would flake at the last minute, or I would meet an average cute girl and go for the sex but she turns around and gives me a goddamn lecture about her looking for more than a casual partner, I would hit up the past girls I've slept with and they all put me in auto-rejection. I got fed up, annoyed, and irritated for a bit I just filtered every single one of those girls out.

You're right Tomi, I was starting to look pretty needy and it was affecting my behavior and girls were definitely picking up on that. It's those days, weeks, even months I had in the past that I did extremely good in that kept me going. I was literally falling in love with "The Game" more than the girls itself. Always trying to find ways to improve my self towards getting more girls, hotter ones, and girls from all different races.

My view on women changed, and some where down the road recently it went off balance and I was leaning more towards the rough patches. Even the sex wasn't even something I genuinely wanted, it was more the satisfaction that I could get this girl and sleep with her. Most were picking up on that and only thought of me as this "Player" who just goes around and sleeps with a bunch of random women. That isn't my intention, but it's the fact I am constantly searching for someone better (which is almost like an illusion) that I just don't show any emotions after the sex and these girls would put me in auto-rejection. It's hard for me to sit there and have a conversation and tune into her because I just want to get her in bed quickly. Then afterwards I change and act more cold and aloof to these girls. This is not how I used to be with women.

I don't mean to go off on all the negatives, but perhaps one of you will understand where I am coming from...

At the same time, I did started neglecting a lot of things in my life all because I was too concerned about getting more girls.

Sorry guys, I know I sound like a complete pussy right now, but I had to let it out I held in for some good amount of time now.

Thanks again for the cool replies!

 

[Godsninja]

It's hard for me to sit there and have a conversation and tune into her because I just want to get her in bed quickly.

Ya I believe that's a huge symptom and I feel you there. Reminds me of eye contact, and on that note, am I right to assume that you are no longer experiencing the "love at first site" thing? I simply wonder because I don't get that either, not sure what it is exactly.. but it get's me thinking about this 'game' stuff your talking about.

Don't feel bad, I've been exploring this subject for a couple weeks now, and I can't say I've been getting out there very much and pushing boundaries, simply because of this problem.

Don't think about birds...you're probably thinking about birds, right? There's a lot of help on this forum about this exact same problem, and the solution is to basically work on yourself. This can still be about 'the game' stuff (IMO), and fundamentals, but what I believe is that if you let yourself get lost in YOUR true life passion (and forget about the primal things like sex), then your subconscious mind will do the rest for you. Build on yourself mentally, physically, financially, etc.

I commented earlier that you should still act in certain situations...but I'm not sure if I was right...if you want a REAL reboot, you'll have to stop for like 3 months. A good reboot takes at least that long. What will happen is your brain will re-adjust, and this is a great thing. After that, do your thing, but you will most likely be extremely butt-fuck nervous. That should be a sure sign that you're brain has recovered from god knows what kind of illness this is (as a matter of fact, Chase or someone should definitely write an article about this...problem).

So ya =)

I did a reboot with porn and masturbation, but only got to 46 days (cuz I was drinking with a friend one night, and he threw some porn on...) and it was pretty awesome. I think this problem is very similar. It's hard to explain. I know that with porn, after boundaries are pushed too far, deltaFoB will build up in the brain, and will linger, and this was a bad thing. I really think this is similar. Anyways, after a few weeks I felt...really good...it was one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life, and I'm trying to do it again, but without perfect results. It's hard to not wank when your 22 and all you want is...!!!

Anyway, don't want to highjack you topic, but do some research brotha! You'll be surprised to see how easily things will flow when you literally give up! (for 3 months that is)

p.s. Chase, you should write an article called "Giving up"

 

[Godsninja]

Actually the fuck am I saying, 3 months is something else entirely, don't do that long... my bad... just do what Marty said in viewtopic.php?f=5&t=6738#p31595

Start over again after a few solid weeks / a month