when girls don't text back

[Anonymous]

i texted this girl who has been out once before a week or so ago and she suggested we hang out friday.. i messaged back saying "yep, friday works, you could come by and we'll cook some food or order sushi and kick back and watch a movie, you game?" she never got back, and its been about 2 days and is now tuesday night...was that too much? and how do i fix it and continue with our plans for friday?

 

[Little Jester]

I don't think you should be looking at how to fix this. There is nothing to fix. Girls pulling the silence treatment is starting to become a rather common thing to me too and months ago I'd go crazy if they pull that crap, but I learned fast and am actually guilty of leaving girls in the dark now too.

It's not Friday yet. I'd not sweat it. Just stay busy. Usually they'll come around and text you the 'sorry for the late reply' when they feel bad for keeping you in the dark for too long. Or they'll get back to you with a legitimate reason for not being able to text you back (be it true or not). In any case, i'd not chase for an awnswer. She just hasn't gotten back to you yet.

But if you feel like it, you could force a decision out of her. Let's say you now also happen to have this other thing coming up Friday too and you want to know if she is game, otherwise you're going to do that different thing. That'll often work to get a decision and then you maybe know were you stand with her.

 

[ChalupaBatman]

This has been happening quite a bit to me lately too. The girl will be so into me at the bar, we exchange numbers and she tells me to text her, then I hear nothing back. What gives? This is getting seriously frustrating...these girls were smoking.

 

[Dunking Style]

This has been happening quite a bit to me lately too. The girl will be so into me at the bar, we exchange numbers and she tells me to text her, then I hear nothing back. What gives? This is getting seriously frustrating...these girls were smoking.

An easier way is to arrange a meetup with her during the date. That way..you get the date and the number naturally..and you won't have to do the heavy lifting with text.

ALso..it feels like the girl was doing most of the work and helping you lead the interaction. A girl telling you to text her..and you doing exactly that..is like suicide. I have done that before..when I wasn't good interacting with girls..and needless to say..a majority of the time it ended up nowhere. (Save for the few times that the girl liked me so much it didn't matter what I did)
So unless she's really ridiculously into you..she's probably a goner.

 

[ChalupaBatman]

This has been happening quite a bit to me lately too. The girl will be so into me at the bar, we exchange numbers and she tells me to text her, then I hear nothing back. What gives? This is getting seriously frustrating...these girls were smoking.

An easier way is to arrange a meetup with her during the date. That way..you get the date and the number naturally..and you won't have to do the heavy lifting with text.

ALso..it feels like the girl was doing most of the work and helping you lead the interaction. A girl telling you to text her..and you doing exactly that..is like suicide. I have done that before..when I wasn't good interacting with girls..and needless to say..a majority of the time it ended up nowhere. (Save for the few times that the girl liked me so much it didn't matter what I did)
So unless she's really ridiculously into you..she's probably a goner.

Hey Dunking, I appreciate the advice but I'm still a bit confused. When I grab a girl's number I don't want to tell her to text me because the guy should always lead. However if I text her first it could come off as me chasing.

I guess next time I can try to set up a meeting right after I grab her number. Never tried that because I always felt like I could do that through text, but maybe that's what I've been doing wrong. Either way, this girl was gorgeous and it sucks that I lost her because of my inexperience. Oh well, its all about abundance right!