Ok, so the more in state I am, the better the results with women. I found out this has a lot to do with my mood and little to do with my game. I have already gone through the whole cold approach thing 400 times already, and my fundamentals are much better than it used to be. I am however getting the boyfriend excuse every single time lately and its a little discouraging to be honest.
However when I am already warmed up or in a mood just being in the moment, my approaches seems a lot better. It could be that my target selection becomes a lot more in tune with what I want, and it could also be that I am more aware of IOIs.
Another thing; when I am not going out "to daygame" my approaches seem more natural than going out to pick up girls. I believe some of these women can pick up on that, without being 100% sure. I think my attainability could be the number one reason why I keep losing girls that send me IOIs, and a little poor target selection could be the reason why I get rejection from women I randomly approach.
So what I should do more of is the following:
Be more gentle and attainable to women that already are into me.
Be more rested, in a better mood and more in state with women I randomly approach.
I can also start warming up like I did last week when I got four numbers in a row. That put me in a good state and I did not care if a woman was going to say yes or no to my approach long before I even started.
So after analysing my approaches since last time I wrote, I have come up with the following steps:
[*]I need to start being more in the moment in order to not care. One way could be by meditation, another way could be just walking around and being aware of my surroundings. In this stage I am only looking to become attuned with what's going up. No thoughts or worries here.
[*]I like the first warm-up thing only looking at women and smiling to them. If I could just start falling in love with them again like I did last week and the week before the approaches would be much easier. It has everything to do with how I feel towards them long before I approach, then they smile a lot back and the girls become more eager to meet.
[*]I should just be genuine and direct when I approach. The first two sets should be warm-ups. "I love your dress", "your smile is amazing" I will not have any thoughts of picking them up or getting any number at this point. These are warm ups and could get me in state.
So today I got the perfect example of this. I did not warm up though, but I felt good listening to music and being present. One of the cutest girls from my street works at a clothing store/plant store. I have seen her many times, but always to scared to approach. This time I felt good about myself so I thought it would be cool to just do it.
This is not an excuse, but she was working and what I think could be her boss was going back and forth. So I did not have any opportunities to number close without it looking bad for her. (I tried this before and girls dont like to be picked up in front of their boss).
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Puh!
So after this. I was walking down the street. I see this not so attractive female and we smiled at each other. I wasn't all that into her, but what the heck. I could try to see what could happen here. But this did not go anywhere and I now know why.
I did not go direct, so I lost the escalation window.
I did also just talk about random things and held on to her, trying to find a way to force rapport. She talked, but our conversation did not hook.
But the most important thing here, I was not into her. This was just my ego trying to get some. And this made it all seemed forced.
So being attracted to the girl I am talking to is key here. I should only approach women I already am into. And I should be warmed up already.
This can be done by being in the moment, smiling at girls and being aware of IOIs. Then I can start giving compliments and having a couple of warm ups before going direct for the girls that I really like.
Please come up with some feedback about these findings of you have some:
However when I am already warmed up or in a mood just being in the moment, my approaches seems a lot better. It could be that my target selection becomes a lot more in tune with what I want, and it could also be that I am more aware of IOIs.
Another thing; when I am not going out "to daygame" my approaches seem more natural than going out to pick up girls. I believe some of these women can pick up on that, without being 100% sure. I think my attainability could be the number one reason why I keep losing girls that send me IOIs, and a little poor target selection could be the reason why I get rejection from women I randomly approach.
So what I should do more of is the following:
Be more gentle and attainable to women that already are into me.
Be more rested, in a better mood and more in state with women I randomly approach.
I can also start warming up like I did last week when I got four numbers in a row. That put me in a good state and I did not care if a woman was going to say yes or no to my approach long before I even started.
So after analysing my approaches since last time I wrote, I have come up with the following steps:
[*]I need to start being more in the moment in order to not care. One way could be by meditation, another way could be just walking around and being aware of my surroundings. In this stage I am only looking to become attuned with what's going up. No thoughts or worries here.
[*]I like the first warm-up thing only looking at women and smiling to them. If I could just start falling in love with them again like I did last week and the week before the approaches would be much easier. It has everything to do with how I feel towards them long before I approach, then they smile a lot back and the girls become more eager to meet.
[*]I should just be genuine and direct when I approach. The first two sets should be warm-ups. "I love your dress", "your smile is amazing" I will not have any thoughts of picking them up or getting any number at this point. These are warm ups and could get me in state.
So today I got the perfect example of this. I did not warm up though, but I felt good listening to music and being present. One of the cutest girls from my street works at a clothing store/plant store. I have seen her many times, but always to scared to approach. This time I felt good about myself so I thought it would be cool to just do it.
This is not an excuse, but she was working and what I think could be her boss was going back and forth. So I did not have any opportunities to number close without it looking bad for her. (I tried this before and girls dont like to be picked up in front of their boss).
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Puh!
So after this. I was walking down the street. I see this not so attractive female and we smiled at each other. I wasn't all that into her, but what the heck. I could try to see what could happen here. But this did not go anywhere and I now know why.
I did not go direct, so I lost the escalation window.
I did also just talk about random things and held on to her, trying to find a way to force rapport. She talked, but our conversation did not hook.
But the most important thing here, I was not into her. This was just my ego trying to get some. And this made it all seemed forced.
So being attracted to the girl I am talking to is key here. I should only approach women I already am into. And I should be warmed up already.
This can be done by being in the moment, smiling at girls and being aware of IOIs. Then I can start giving compliments and having a couple of warm ups before going direct for the girls that I really like.
Please come up with some feedback about these findings of you have some:
