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What do you do in those situations where you end up looking incompetent where it's someone else's fault? Recently, my mother who has dementia, managed to misplace my car keys. On the key ring for these keys, was a key for the new apartment that I'm renting.
Therefore I had to get onto the other lads that were due to move into this apartment (who I hadn't met yet), and ask them the dates when they planned on moving in, so that I wouldn't arrive before them. There was a bit of difficulty in order get their numbers off the house mates who were moving out, and from there to try and figure out by text, which one of them was moving in first.
To me, all this seems like such a clumsy introduction to have to make, just when you're looking forward to turning over a new leaf living in a new place. You'd be tempted to say "oh by the way I'm not the sort of person who'd lose my keys the very day after I was given them, it was my mother who lost them." How do you handle these situations?
To me, these situations kind of remind of Dexter from the TV series. I know you mightn't be familiar with it, but Dexter was leading two lives unknownst to his friends. So he'd often end up in situations where he'd have been out at night for several hours trying to kill someone. So he had to take full responsibility for any time his secret life would drastically interfere with the life he was pretending to lead. He'd have to come up with a lie and pretend he silly enough, lets say, to forgot about a meeting, or if he was injured from a fight he'd be perfectly okay with pretending that he was clumsy enough to fall down the stairs. Not for a second could he say "do you have any idea how many responsibilities I have in my life?"
Really, I suppose I should just suck it up in these situations, like you could picture James Bond doing. And in the case of my mother, I'm better than the others in my family at anticipating her mistakes. For example, I'll turn off the gas to the hob so she won't end up putting the electric kettle on top of the open flame!
In this case, I met the house mates, and all was fine. But then when it came to asking about borrowing a key to cut, I tried to mention about how it got lost, and I didn't do so that smoothly. I later realised that, in the texts I'd sent to these guys, I hadn't even explained why I didn't have the key! I'd actually only explained how (they got lost), in the initial texts, to the guys who were moving out (not in). I guess I was hoping their reaction would be a sort of "oh right, I get you now", but it didn't really go that way!
Please share thoughts
Therefore I had to get onto the other lads that were due to move into this apartment (who I hadn't met yet), and ask them the dates when they planned on moving in, so that I wouldn't arrive before them. There was a bit of difficulty in order get their numbers off the house mates who were moving out, and from there to try and figure out by text, which one of them was moving in first.
To me, all this seems like such a clumsy introduction to have to make, just when you're looking forward to turning over a new leaf living in a new place. You'd be tempted to say "oh by the way I'm not the sort of person who'd lose my keys the very day after I was given them, it was my mother who lost them." How do you handle these situations?
To me, these situations kind of remind of Dexter from the TV series. I know you mightn't be familiar with it, but Dexter was leading two lives unknownst to his friends. So he'd often end up in situations where he'd have been out at night for several hours trying to kill someone. So he had to take full responsibility for any time his secret life would drastically interfere with the life he was pretending to lead. He'd have to come up with a lie and pretend he silly enough, lets say, to forgot about a meeting, or if he was injured from a fight he'd be perfectly okay with pretending that he was clumsy enough to fall down the stairs. Not for a second could he say "do you have any idea how many responsibilities I have in my life?"
Really, I suppose I should just suck it up in these situations, like you could picture James Bond doing. And in the case of my mother, I'm better than the others in my family at anticipating her mistakes. For example, I'll turn off the gas to the hob so she won't end up putting the electric kettle on top of the open flame!
In this case, I met the house mates, and all was fine. But then when it came to asking about borrowing a key to cut, I tried to mention about how it got lost, and I didn't do so that smoothly. I later realised that, in the texts I'd sent to these guys, I hadn't even explained why I didn't have the key! I'd actually only explained how (they got lost), in the initial texts, to the guys who were moving out (not in). I guess I was hoping their reaction would be a sort of "oh right, I get you now", but it didn't really go that way!
Please share thoughts
