When men think some women are too good for them

[Miguel]

Men sometimes find women who they think are too good for them, they feel powerless near them. Is it a good idea to approach them or is it best to ignore to avoid being dishonored?. A tendency I have seen in society is men acting as if they had no value, to somehow make women accept them and maybe start a relationship. It doesn't seem to work and men are left with no self-respect.

What do you recommend in this situation?

 

[Drck]

Yes, it is a great idea to approach such girls.

If she is a normal girl (not a feminist bitch) she will never dishonor you and she will be delighted when you show an interest in her. She will actually do everything to avoid (in her way) anything that she thinks could hurt you.

You are correctly writing about many men in society acting as if they had no value, to somehow make women accept them. They are putting girls on a pedestal, they are giving them more value than they really have, and they are putting themselves down. Which is actually quite unattractive, it is a submissive and weak position and girls don't want guys like that. Girls are seeking men who have higher value, men who are more assertive and dominant. Men who are men, and not boys.

A guy by thinking "Women are too good for me" is also thinking "I am not good enought for her". That is a lot of negativity, there is a lot of guilt and shame in such guy. Such guy is seeking approval from that particular girl by e.g. buying her stuff, being too nice to her, doing everything she asks for for her and so on. Such guy is simply called Nice Guy. Girls are usually very sweet and nice to him, they can have lots of fun with him, they want to keep him around for a long time - but they rarely want to sleep with him...

So, what to recommend is basically the opposite: Not being so nice, not so compliant and not so submissive to girls. Not putting them on a pedestal, not giving them too much value, not taking any crap from them. Not seeking their approval. Not being afraid to tell them NO. Not thinking whether he is too good for her - instead asking whether she is good enough to meet his requirements. Not letting his feelings go just because she is so sweet and cute.

Not waiting till the girl respect him, but respecting himself first - regardless what the girl thinks or says. Doing manly and masculine things while avoiding girly things. Being independent, working on being dominant and leading man who makes firm decisions - without awaiting her approval and regardless what she thinks. Approaching many girls like a man - regardless what they say, regardless of possible rejections....

Hope it helps

 

[Miguel]

Machiavelli recommends princes to avoid effeminate behaviour, to gain the respect of the people. This seems to be equivalent to what you are saying, except in this case it's a male/female relationship with the male being the center of power. A classical version of a romantic relationship, unfortunately this is being ridiculed by the media and academics.

Women don't seem attracted to weak men, even though feminism is becoming widespread. Could it be that biological instinct is more powerful than social mores?.