When she deep dives you, do you tweak your reply so she can relate?

[The Byronic Man]

Let's say one of my dreams and passions is to get back into DJing. Many women cannot relate to this. Should I break this down into something she can relate to (e.g. making people happy, forget the stress of the world, and create an environment where people can be themselves without being judgmental)?

I have other dreams and passions, but they're quite esoteric. Most people, let alone women, can even relate to them. Wouldn't her finding out about me then create gaps (i.e. she relates to me less and feels I'm too different)? I don't want to lie and make up dreams and passions I don't have just so she can relate.

 

[PinotNoir]

That's an interesting and good idea, but I don't think it matters.

Compare these 2 girls:

Girl A: "I want to be an office worker."
Girl B: "I want to be an Olympic runner."

Which do you find more intriguing?

Even if you can't relate, I think you'd rather want to talk with Girl B. And if you like her, you'll begin trying to relate to her -- chasing her. So in your scenario, you then want her to try her best to relate with you -- chasing you. And if she doesn't try to relate with you, it may be a sign that she's not that interested (at least for now).

Guy: "I'd really love to be a DJ. Do you like (music/dancing/daft punk/etc.)?"

You just say what you want and give her a question at the end to give her an easy way to validate and chase you.

Girl: "I love music! Why do you want to be a DJ?"
Guy: "Does music ever make you feel intense emotion or passion?"
Girl: "Yes, of course."
Guy: "I want to be the one that creates that intensity in others -- like you." (the 'like you' may be a little chasey here)