When she's TOO playful?

[andersen09]

I have a question for the playful/sexual types of seducers out there or anyone experienced as I'm having a bit of a curious question.

So there's a girl in my class who's very flirty with me. We used to act together in an acting class as partners and always had playful and bantery relationship. She's cute but I never really pursued her as she's a good social proof for in terms of being seen flirting for other girls in my class and etc.

For example, during class she'll randomly kick my foot, and I'll kick her foot. And when the professor looks, I'll playfully say she's totally bullying me playfully, in which the professor laughs, and she playfully hits me in the arm.

Or second, she'll say, you' were such a terrible husband! I can't believe we were married. (referring to acting scene we did)
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Anyway, during class I was openly flirting with another girl that moved seats to sit right next to me. And I can tell the actor girl was being attentive, as I know when girls are paying attention but "acting like not paying attention" So to take my attention away after class "she playfully took my phone" and started running away to the library. And I didn't mind as I was playfully following after her while just chatting up with people on the way. And she ran all the way upstairs and hid in the bookshelves and almost started playing hide and seek a bit type of flirting.

But I also started thinking, is the fact that she's so comfortable with me to "playfully steal my phone and run away from one building to another" a bad thing? As in if she's so comfortable with me to be so playful, maybe it's not really a sexy thing.

I don't really have any motivation to fuck her, but just keep her around as friends as we get bantery and etc. But it can also create a perception that I'm just a playful guy and not get taken seriously by a girl watching or something like that. All the girls in my class are very flirty with me too and always smiles a bit. But it lately started feeling like maybe she's TOO comfortable with me as I should show my serious side a bit. As I know I will never fuck this girl, as she's the cutesy type, and young, but I also feel like she's TOO comfortable with being playful with me

What do you guys think?

 

[GO Chase Me]

I think you should either let her know you're not into her, or at least that you're not phased by her playfulness. Next time she starts a 'game' or whatever, don't react, or do it less eagerly.

As for other girls in your class, try screening the ones that are just flirts from the ones who're actually into you. Ask someone out and see what happens, maybe?

 

[Fuck This]

Just speak to her and draw the line .

"Hey I love having fun with you , but it is hard to be taken seriously when you are being playful all the time."

"So when I say "Cool it", please don't take it personally. I'd like to be sincere with one another occasionally."

 

[Richard]

If it's not your deal then you need to voice yourself - of every highly ranked guy on the boards I'm probably the most playful with women. When girls invest in me by doing cutesy kinds of things like this girl is doing with you it becomes quite fun for me as I enjoy that back and forth flirting. However, when girls do this with me and I'm not all that interested in her then I'll play along for a bit and if it goes overboard I'll let her know she's crossing the line and to dial it back.

The only thing you might have to watch out for is her seeing that as a harsh rejection. Sometimes girls are very playful because it's how they show interest,other times girls are playful because they're actually insecure and only know how to laugh and if this girl is the latter then she might see things as a rejection. Soft but stern is the key here.

-Richard

P.S. Is this a girl you don't want to sleep with because she's playful or because she's just not attractive? Girls who are playful AND confident are some of the most fun women to take to bed!

 

[andersen09]

If it's not your deal then you need to voice yourself - of every highly ranked guy on the boards I'm probably the most playful with women. When girls invest in me by doing cutesy kinds of things like this girl is doing with you it becomes quite fun for me as I enjoy that back and forth flirting. However, when girls do this with me and I'm not all that interested in her then I'll play along for a bit and if it goes overboard I'll let her know she's crossing the line and to dial it back.

The only thing you might have to watch out for is her seeing that as a harsh rejection. Sometimes girls are very playful because it's how they show interest,other times girls are playful because they're actually insecure and only know how to laugh and if this girl is the latter then she might see things as a rejection. Soft but stern is the key here.

-Richard

P.S. Is this a girl you don't want to sleep with because she's playful or because she's just not attractive? Girls who are playful AND confident are some of the most fun women to take to bed!

Richard, that's an awesome insight on the soft but stern type, I'll definitely do that because I feel that I do have to set boundaries a bit.

As far as me not wanting to sleep with her, I'm playing the social circle game on campus, meaning I'm surrounding myself with female friends who are quite bubbly and highly energetic and she's one of the girls. She always has a good vibe, and I do also, which makes other girls very curious who are 8,9,10s and so on. If I fucked her, I would be associated with her completely, therefore cutting off my access to the higher ones.