Hi,
I was thinking what would the right approach be when you meet a new girl that you like, you get along well, but you can't really get together with her right there and you know it will take some time before you can see each other again and continue anything (for whatever reasons).
I have 2 recent examples, I'll write about one of them:
2 weeks ago while in another city for the weekend, I was sitting with my friends at a table in a restaurant and another group (including a girl I saw earlier that day but didn't talk to) sat at a table next to us. The girl (who wasn't exactly beautiful, but decently looking and quite cool overall) started flirting with me quite hard, which obviously I repaid back in full.
We ended up talking a bit, she told me some things about herself, showed me some painted miniatures (Warhammer 40k) that she had with her and so on. I asked her what she was doing the next day (the only time I was free before leaving), she said she was going on a hike. I told her I live like 250 km away, but asked for a contact anyway saying "it might come in handy", she ended up giving me her phone number and her username on a local sort of social site/forum. The only further contact (so far) was me messaging her a few hours later telling her to save my number.
My thoughts: I didn't feel like getting into lengthy online conversations knowing I most likely wouldn't want to get too serious with her anyway and I wasn't going to see her for at least a month or two anyway, if ever.
However I think now I should've probably waited for a day or two and then sent her just a short rapport-building text reassuring her that I wouldn't be around for at least a few weeks but that I'd like to talk to her again when I am and that I'll let her know. I kind of procrastinated on that due to other stuff and another girl and I didn't, but yeah.
My plan now: I think this could likely be blown since I didn't contact her in 2 weeks, but why not try and see. Torn between sending her a cool warm text right now, reminding her of myself and telling her that I might be around some time in August and that we should hang out and that I'll let her know then; or just waiting until a few days before I actually do come around and messaging her then.
Any feedback is highly appreciated, both general, and case-specific.
I was thinking what would the right approach be when you meet a new girl that you like, you get along well, but you can't really get together with her right there and you know it will take some time before you can see each other again and continue anything (for whatever reasons).
I have 2 recent examples, I'll write about one of them:
2 weeks ago while in another city for the weekend, I was sitting with my friends at a table in a restaurant and another group (including a girl I saw earlier that day but didn't talk to) sat at a table next to us. The girl (who wasn't exactly beautiful, but decently looking and quite cool overall) started flirting with me quite hard, which obviously I repaid back in full.
We ended up talking a bit, she told me some things about herself, showed me some painted miniatures (Warhammer 40k) that she had with her and so on. I asked her what she was doing the next day (the only time I was free before leaving), she said she was going on a hike. I told her I live like 250 km away, but asked for a contact anyway saying "it might come in handy", she ended up giving me her phone number and her username on a local sort of social site/forum. The only further contact (so far) was me messaging her a few hours later telling her to save my number.
My thoughts: I didn't feel like getting into lengthy online conversations knowing I most likely wouldn't want to get too serious with her anyway and I wasn't going to see her for at least a month or two anyway, if ever.
However I think now I should've probably waited for a day or two and then sent her just a short rapport-building text reassuring her that I wouldn't be around for at least a few weeks but that I'd like to talk to her again when I am and that I'll let her know. I kind of procrastinated on that due to other stuff and another girl and I didn't, but yeah.
My plan now: I think this could likely be blown since I didn't contact her in 2 weeks, but why not try and see. Torn between sending her a cool warm text right now, reminding her of myself and telling her that I might be around some time in August and that we should hang out and that I'll let her know then; or just waiting until a few days before I actually do come around and messaging her then.
Any feedback is highly appreciated, both general, and case-specific.
