When you're better than her at something you both like?

[SomaRuiz]

So I'm studying concept art at college, and I find that I'm better than several people in classes because it's something I've done for years on my own before getting enrolled. The thing is, some of those class mates are attractive girls, and I wanted to know how to deal with the skill difference with someone you're trying to seduce.

Some girls have told me that "I should teach them" or "share my skills" with them. To which I've mostly just replied with "Maybe some day" or "Maybe when I write a book about it". These have gotten positive responses, though I'm not sure if they boosted my attraction.

I wouldn't mind spending some time doing that with someone if we were a couple, but since we're not (yet) I don't want to be like "shopping guy" and get nothing for my time. I don't want to bribe them into it, either, you know like saying "I'll teach you if you go out with me".

One girl I like from outside of class who also likes drawing told me that I'm so good compared to her, she some times feels like she wants to quit. I do like what she does, and I praise it from time to time, but I don't want to come off as condescending or like "I'm just saying that", or like I'm just sucking up to her. Has anyone here seen themselves in a similar situation?

I believe this could apply to any activity that has varying skill levels, like sports, or games, or cooking, or whatever.

 

[Fuck This]

There are going to be a lot of things men are better at than women. So it is easy to get framed into being a coach/mentor/tutor. Those aren't seductive frames...They are however attractive.

You can get out of that frame by saying she has progressed to a level beyond your "coaching ability" and so and so (someone you respect and might be your mentor) can take her to the next level. Then you share that activity as "teammates". You are on equal footing and she can chase your level of mastery.

In a sports setting, you can play to her level and keep it fun. If it is an individual sport, she may have a different handicap, equipment or other class and not be directly competing with you. Always be encouraging, and NEVER NEG her ability. When the sport is your passion, I think it is important to let someone else you respect be "the coach". Someone you can back up 100% on their approach. That way if you slip up and offer a comment or suggestions it is going to be something her coach may have said. Nothing is worse than contradicting her instructor.

I know a married couple who do Crossfit together and archery. The Woman wins her class and division while her husband is middle of the pack with the men. All his buddies are great cheerleaders for her, all without being in a subservient frame. Her practicing withthe boys is a great motivator for her, and they express genuine respect for her ability.