Where to find girls who have good mental health

[Bboy100]

Mental health has always been a very very important trait for me. In fact, its so important that I can actually think of a few instances in which I chose not to sleep with a girl because I was afraid getting involved with her would come back to bite me in the ass. Its easily the second most important trait for me (the first ofc being that she's physically attractive enough for me to want to date or sleep with her). In fact, after my last relationship, I've learned that good mental health is not only important, but its an absolute must.

And when I say "good mental health" I don't just mean "not crazy" or "won't stab me in my sleep".

I mean:
- Has no mental illnesses
- Has no anxiety/depression issues
- Has high self-esteem
- Has relatively few insecurities
- Can handle high pressure situations and deal with them rationally (as opposed to blowing up and doing whatever her emotions dictate)
- Is not impulsive
- Is not bitter towards men/has little to no relationship baggage
- Has perserverence (i.e. she won't quit or bail on something at the first sign of trouble)
- Has either dealt with or has no emotional traumas which would significantly affect her life

Perhaps not all of these would fit under the umbrella of "mental health". Some of them might have more to do with intelligence or willpower. But you get the point...I'm looking for someone who has a "strong psyche".

The problem is that it's not like hunting for a girl who's fit or intelligent or artistic etc. For traits like those, there are specific places those types of women go to. Whereas there are no places or activities to which emotionally healthy women congregate. So how would you guys go about finding them?

 

[Lotus]

Bboy,

I saw your breakup post and I can completely relate to avoiding those characteristics woman. Your break up was similar to my breakup that led me here. She was emotionally insecure which lead me to being over comforting. Toward the end the script was flipped leaving me as the needy one. I decided the same thing as you, that I wouldn't even consider a girl who wasn't emotionally stable.

You're right there's no sure fire way of increasing the amount of emotionally stable girls you run into. They are mixed with everyone else and there are as many unstable, successful woman and stable ones...unfortunately some of the most successful people in the world are a little off kilt.

Anyway, it just means your bar is raising and there will be less people that qualify for your standards. Doesn't mean you cant still have fun with the others tho

Eventually you will catch on to all the little nuances that help you determine whether she will be emotionally healthy. The easiest and most obvious example is texting. Girls that need the constant validation from text you off the bat are going to be bad news.

So yes there aren't places or activities that will breed mentally stable girls.... but unstable girls filter themselves out pretty quickly if you know what your looking for... which you do now

Lotus

 

[Ergon]

Hey Bboy.

That's a lot of requirements, lol.

But seriously, mentally healthy, stable and affable girls are usually physically healthy and intelligent(?) too (as in well read). Parks, bookstores and perhaps a few social events (like the one's without alcohol and that end early) are where I've met some of the most chill and nice girls.

I mean, I agree that the two categories of girls can be found everywhere, but emotionally stable girls are usually well-rounded and have a lot of healthy hobbies too. If she is drawing in a park on a Sunday afternoon or taking a rumba lesson it would be a good guess to think she is a generally healthy person too. Or at least the chance is better than other places.

 

[Drck]

Are you sure you are describing and looking for a girl? LOL

We have to understand that women are different than men. They feel and think differently than men. Men usually suppress emotions and use logic to decide. Women usually use emotions to decide. That's not to say that men are better, or that women don't use logic (e.g. There is many very smart women out there), rather our brains are wired differently.

Women are in essence simply emotional, thus sort of unstable. One day they want this, the next day they want that. She says one thing but does another. She does things that don't make any logical sense from the point of view of man. Why is that? Again, it's because she is not using logic to decide, she is using emotions... There are many instances where you meet a girl, she is perfectly sane, she is very smart and logical - yet then she does things that are not comprehendible by man's logic. Logically you don't understand why she would do such thing, however if you try to understand her emotions you simply see that she goes after what she likes and/or what excites her, and avoids what she dislikes...

Thus you see a normal girl who dumps a great guy for some uneducated jobless thug without any regrets. Why is that? It's because the great guy is tied down by logic and obedience to the system, while the thug is free. In other words, the great guy is just boring because he is too logical and reasonable, too stable, while the thug is spontaneous and exciting.... Again, she goes for the emotions, not the logic...

Because of the overall instability, woman usually seek dominant, emotionally stable man. A man that is not really compliant with everybody and everything that is societal norm, rather a man that creates and lives in his own world, his own reality, his own rules. Perhaps a man who is more rebellious to the overall system because he follows his own thoughts... We usually summarize such man under the expression "alpha". Alpha does as he wants, not as he is told to do...

See the paradox? A normal, logical and hard working guy is usually perceived as boring... He follows everything in the system, he follows logic... He is perceived as a classical beta male, a guy who can't get laid, who is having lots of difficulties with women no matter what he does... A bad boy, asshole, rebel, perhaps even criminal - those guys are not using logic. They are using emotions, they do things their own way... They are exciting in the eyes of many women... Most women prefer to sleep with such exciting guy vs guy who is so called boring...

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... You are asking where to find emotionally stable woman. It's a wrong approach, wrong question, it's a logical question... Women, by nature, are not emotionally stable. Women are seeking men that are mentally strong, that are emotionally stable, that are able to create their own reality and live in it. If she finds such man she will be more than happy to join his reality, she can relax around such man, she can feel free and sexy around such man...

But where to find such man? That's the root of a problem. Women have been oppressed by many things. The whole system is oppressive, religion is oppressive, immature and emotional guys are oppressive... Women are simply not happy because they can't find real men... By real men I mean masculine and dominant guy, a guy who goes ruthlessly after what he wants, a guy who is not obedient and subordinate to others....

Women are frustrated, in stead of having choices of real men they are interacting with immature, emotionally and mentally weak boys... Women are frustrated, anxious and depressed because of poor choices they have, thus they are using and overusing medications... Today one quarter of women is on antidepressants, they suffer anxiety and depression because they are simply not happy... Another quarter should probably be placed on such medications...

So if you want emotionally stable, secure and logical woman, seek amongst heavily medicated women... Alternatively seek amongst feminists, amongst women who are "independent" on men. Right... If you want happy, free, spontaneous, sexy and feminine woman, you have to become masculine, independent, emotionally stable and mentally strong man...