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TheEcho

Cro-Magnon Man
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Hey all!

Another gym thread 😬 Lately, I've started slowing WAY down when moving around the gym and feel it's helping get me noticed more. My main sticking point though is between sets, where the hell do I stick my eyes? If it's in sight, I lock onto the big wall clock, but not sure how attractive it is for a dude to stare at something for 1-2 mins. During sets and if I don't glue myself to the clock, my eyes bounce all over, which obviously isn't great. Tips?

Another related aspect is how to behave around the chicks I have talked to before. Look at them, don't look at all, approach, don't go out of my way? Usually this is for girls that are happily taken, but occasionally there's a girl that's available that I've talked to. Tips?

Had a mixed situation with one of the hottest chicks in the gym (whose happily married) where I was nearby and she looked at me first as she was grabbing weights, but others came in and created distance and she was holding weights, so I felt obliged to move closer. She was totally comfortable with the convo and I kept trying to move on (wasted from leg day), so I'd move away, she'd try to continue, then I get closer, repeat lol. Think in the future, girls with weights, just go back to their spot first so they can put them down.

Thanks all!
 

HoofHearted

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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My sense about the gym is that there is more important work to do there than talk to women

Ime the gym will improve your results and experience w women across the board. Beyond that, it will make your life better *just by going*, and thats not even talking about the transformational power of results.

So my opinion is to optimize/enjoy gym time and approach women elsewhere. I also cannot imagine approaching women between heavy work sets, i am too busy dreading
 

TheEcho

Cro-Magnon Man
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Haha, yeah... the mental load from going as hard as I sustainably can is intense. That's the reasoning to cut my approach down to a minimum and try to get her out to coffee/whatever to do the real talking. To be clear, I'm one of the buffest guys there that isn't clearly on gear. (Am natty)
 
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